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Someone I know has been missing since last night after she went on a date with someone from facebook dating. Her mom dropped her off at the date last night, and no one has heard from her since last night. Her phone is off too. Does anyone have experience with this kind of thing? It's pretty disturbing, and I can't really think of good ways this can end, but maybe this kind of scenario has alternative causes than she got targeted by a psycho or something

Who is responsible for addressing the toxic elements of stage green? I was browsing a dating app, and I noticed a woman who was a higher up at an indigenous research organization, but she had something about being on the same page about ACAB (all cops are bastards). This is such a nonsense statement, but it got me thinking about how to check this kind of toxicity. It seems like a lot of people like to dismiss stage green criticsm as coming from below not above, but in cases like the above how can a person challenge this kind of rhetoric.

So you believe that all cops are bastards? It's literally a hateful statement, and it polarizes and incites people who aren't already in alignment with your ideology. 100% about agree about red pillers and SJW's. Plenty of judgment and hatred on both sides of the political divide

I think she ended up staying over at the guy's house or something, and she said she lost her phone an uber

Wow, that is pretty close to some of the glimpses i've had on LSD. It's never been that clear and indepth/detailed, but that almost felt like I was on a psych

@Illusory Self Rip it like a bandaid and just end it. Don't give prolong this because you will just dig yourself a deeper hole. If you are already second guessing this after a few dates it's not going to get better with time.

@peanutspathtotruth I made an appointment with an IFS therapist in a month from now. I'm really excited to start this path, the way IFS conceptualizes healing is very promising imo. I can list like 5 different parts of myself off hand and I've barely even started with IFS

Mohammed is an example

If we had a conscious dictator we wouldn't have these problems

She is okay @Arcangelo

@halo It's possible that if you didn't notice any major shift that maybe it didn't open fully. There are definitely energetic sensations or emotions that once felt into can completely transform your perceptions

@The White Rabbit False alarm she is safe

@Breakingthewall I'll keep this in mind the next time I trip thanks

@Windappreciator Because he has no peace or happiness.

@mandyjw Ok so what would you say if your son/daughter said mom I'm going to go and have 8 kids by 8 different people. You would say honey there are no mistakes so do what you want? There are no mistakes. What can you say against that?

@mandyjw Well I guess I do view relationships competitively, but I don't think that's a bad thing because I think dating is competitve. See, I disagree with you saying there are no mistakes in dating. If a woman/man were to go out and have 6 kids with 6 different men/woman, that would be impact their dating prospects in a negative way. That is a mistake that I want to avoid.

@Breakingthewall I don't think so, but i'm not sure maybe there's something i'm lying to myself about but I don't know what it is. I definitely have repressed parts/emotions and I am ashamed of myself to some extent I guess. How do I cleanse myself of lies?

@Windappreciator I feel bad for guys that are this smart but have no wisdom

@Meditation I am. But I am not satisfied with myself. Thoughts?

Have you thought about reaching out to some parents you admire and having a conversation about their philosophy towards parenting?

Yeah I don't disagree with what you're saying here. My point was that OP seemed to be engaging about a real phenomena, and he was getting hostile and dismissive responses without people engaging with what he was talking about. I'm sure there are woman of this generation who will have envy their predecessors because at least they got a family. I watched a few minutes of the video and I liked it, he seems like a good guy

@mandyjw Probably my competitive instinct. I want to understand when people make major mistakes so I can avoid them, and my mom's brother is in a similar situation so I hear about this quite a bit. Also, i used the example of my cousin because it's directly related to OP's topic. My cousin is an example of a modern woman who was left to her own devices to choose a partner, and now she's single in her late 30's with poor relationship prospects. A bunch of people just dismissed OP's premise as nonsense, but I have a real life example that illustrates what he's talking about

Yeah she has been actively looking for a partner for years now. She is very attractive, has a high paying job etc so when she was younger, early 30's, she was very picky and just dismissed most guys because a man on her socioeconomic level, looks level etc is pretty rare. Now she's in her late 30's she's basically run out of options it seems, for what her standard is. She's even asked about some guys she previously rejected, but they were already partnered. Her entire belief system is stage blue/orange. It's basically about success (education, financial etc), which she attained, and then starting a family. All the happiest woman in my family are one's with healthy families. But she's going to miss out on that part. I mean if a large part of society is operating according to those beliefs then it is reality. Reality is just whatever people are doing and believing. I also don't think men should disregard these ideas, that would be throwing the baby out with the bath water. You can be discerning about what parts you take to heart and act on, but there are elements of red pill ideology that map onto reality, and you are better off being aware of the dynamics then sticking your head in the sand

Yeah i'm making claims about how people ought to live, or how society ought to be. I agree that transitioning and evolving society out of blue is the way to go. But there's going to be a lag, and there will be causalities of the evolution out of stage blue. Take my cousin for example. She's almost into her 40's and it looks like she won't find someone to have kids before her biological clock runs out. Almost all the woman in my family have all their meaning in life come from their children and family, and my cousin won't get to experience that. My entire point is that there is actual substance to what OP is saying and you can have a good faith discussion without dismissing what he's saying out of hand. Imagine I just said what you are saying is nonsense and basically just dismissed what you were saying because I thought it wasn't worth my time to respond to. I could understand if OP refuses to engage, but if he's actually willing to discuss the topic I don't see a point in commenting unless you're going to engage in good faith

@FlyingLotus @Emerald The fact that for many groups of people dating and relationships are no longer regulated by family, religion etc and the consequences that has on society and people. If you look at most people who come from stage blue societies, 100 years ago their families would have basically chosen when/who you get married to. So irrespective of what the people wanted, there were outside forces that controlled who got together. But now many of the children of stage blue families are left to their own devices when it comes to choosing partners and picking relationships. I think there's going to be an entire generation of leftover people because of the way modern dating and relationship dynamics have shifted. For example, I have a number of family members from stage blue conservative families, and they are now in their late 30's/early 40's and they can't find partners and it's getting more difficult. One in particular is an attractive, well off late 30's woman, who was too picky in her early 30's and now she's struggling to find anyone. If this was 100 years ago her family would have chosen her husband and no one would have asked any questions. I'm not saying that this is bad or good, or saying how things ought to be, but there's something to be said for how hypergamy will impact modern relationships that have been controlled by religion/families for most of recent history.