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haha I can feel the dagger going into the heart of every sensitive non-masculine guy out here. I don't think you can force yourself to be sexually attracted to someone, so you may just not be compatible with these kinds of guys. Maybe you can work with him and help him develop some masculine qualities? The issue is to find a guy who is both vulnerable, sensitive etc but also has a strong masculine edge is very rare. I've never met anyone who had a good balance of both, so you and every other girl is looking for the same guy. This could something to contemplate or talk to a therapist about. If you're attracted to men who are avoidant and toxic then you may have some shadow issues with these behaviors that are driving the attraction.

Yeah this is where I get skeptical about soundness of trans philosophy. The idea that you have to make all these changes to be WHO YOU ARE just sets off alarm bells. The idea that making these changes will then lead to happiness or alleviate suffering is a huge trap. What was the reason your friend gave for making these changes? What were they like before their transition in appearance etc?

Wow I just watched this guy for the first time. I had tears listening to him, this guy is incredible. He started vipassana after suffering from severe migraines. I literally just called off work today because I had a migraine, and I've been dealing with these for a few years now. I'm so excited for the vipassana retreat now

@Vido I live in Burnaby, BC. Maybe you learn a martial art, or find some other form of competition. Being victorious and experiencing the glory of winning can be good for developing a masculine edge I think.

@Vido I'm Indian too, but I was born in Canada. If you have the money I recommend getting some kind of mentorship or coaching for dating. An Indian upbringing is a recipe for being repellant to woman imo

Welcome back

@Vido How is your lower body awareness? I noticed that whenever I would visit escorts I would feel intense anxiety in the stomach. And I am very disassociated from my lower body sensations. I'm still struggling with this, but I'm learning to feel more into my lower body and I think that's where mastery of sexualty comes from. You could also look up people who display the kind of energy/sexual intent you want to embody and practice acting like them. You can "Act as if" you are that person on your own. This is a good insight I think. Woman can sense your masculinity and i've had a few woman make comments about me being too young/childish and I think it's because I don't have control over my lower body energies.

Hey I'm curious if anyone has any insight or advice for an issue I'm dealing with. So my grandma shamed me for pooping on the floor when I was around 3. I've actually uncovered the emotions I felt at the time while using psychidelics, but I never had long term resolution from the issue. I've always had a phobia of pooping or farting in public, and to this day I feel very self conscious about pooping, and I think a large part of my mind and ego is caught up in protecting myself from that trauma. I think this may have something to do with my stomach issues as well, but idk. I definitely repress and avoid feelings from my stomach and bladder, so I'm assuming my solution lies in bringing these feelings to light and to stop repressing them. My main goal is to have a healthy relationship with pooping, and my own stomach sensations. This is a big reason why I can't form healthy relationships too I think. Like the thought of a girl pooping or farting in front of me is very unappealing, and I also feel unattractive because I don't have full control over my stomach issues and I have this weird thought that maybe I might poop my pants in front of her or something and then she will be repulsed by me Any insights would be appreciated

I have a very similar issue. There are woman at my work who I find attractive, but I have a million reasons not to pursue them. I remember when I used to listen to Dr Drew on loveline one thing he would say is people who are addicts need to form relationships with someone who is secure, and that's a path to healing. I've been thinking of finding someone who I can live with, or maybe who could live with me for a month or something to just see how healthy people live. Maybe you can find someone who has a healthy relationship with other people and it will rub off on you

That's interesting, thanks for sharing. I think I may have been molested too. But I don't have any clear memories. I have issues being intimate with people too. I have trouble using the washroom if people are near me, and I've never had a real intimate relationship. Do you have any ideas about how to heal the issue? Or are you focused on other things?

Thanks, and yeah I agree. What can you do, it his forum and its ceiling is limited based on his own growth. Maybe he'll have a psychidelic breakthrough or something

Well I was banned for 3 days for transphobia. Every mod who has ever gave me warning points ended up on Nahms new forum. Let's hope the trend continues. You people are retarded. But the truth will always win, and I will always bend to the truth, so we will see what the truth of transgenderism is. It's nice being a true devotee to the path, unlike most people here. I know everything will be okay, so its easy to let things be

I am transphobic in the sense that I think the suffering of trans people goes beyond societies lack of acceptance. Like if I had a son with mental issues who was converted into believing that chopping off their penis is an adequate solution to their suffering I would feel i failed as a patent. But I think a lot of arguments about treating trans people better or ways to reduce violence make sense. I also dont understan why @bejapuskas is still a mod

What do you mean race is a social construct? Aren't masculine/feminine and male/female also social constructs in a sense? So transgenderism is related to an imbalanced femine/masculine polarity? I am a man, with some feminine qualities I think so would that make me trans? How do we decide what balance makes a person trans

@BeHereNow Well I would counter that by saying why does transgenderism seem more prominent in disenfranchised and traumatized individuals/groups? But I agree that if transracialsim becomes more prominent it will have less historical backing than transgenderism. I had an insight about transgenderism a while back around why some people would be trans. I was looking at this thai girl's instagram and I was reflecting on how attractive thai woman can be, and how much attention they must get from tourists, media etc. Then I was thinking, imagine being an average thai boy, your value and treatment is such more worse relatively than thai woman. So it would make sense that some people would have a strong desire to be lady boys because there is so much more attention and value in passing as a woman.

@BeHereNow You can't really be sure of that. Let's say someone had racial dysphoria, would you accept what they tell you about their race of choice?

Why is transgenderism considered legitimate but transracialism (or trans species) not considered legitimate, or is it? Couldn't some random white person claim to be asian/black/etc and all the above arguments would hold?

Yeah this a cool paradox about solipsism. Sometimes I get the sense that Leo is saying that he is the only conscious thing in the universe and the rest of us are just projections of his mind, as if there is some kind of hierarchy. The only way it would make sense is if we're all the only thing in the universe and we are all projections of the same one mind/universe. So it's like I am all that exists, but you and me are the same all that exists. Like we all have the same core

Yeah I'm aware that's more to my unique blend of suffering. I just find it hard to penetrate deeply into unconscious feelings and thoughts. I'm very add, even though I think just sitting still and allowing this stuff to come up is likely a key. Psychidelics work the best for bringing this stuff up, but when I take them 90% of the time it's just too painful with nausea and headaches for me to stomach it.

I've had this idea for a while and i'm curious what people on here think of my plan. So right now I work at a basic lab job in the weighroom, and I believe I am a good employee and I have a lot of love and respect from my co-workers. I go out of my way to be as helpful as possible, and I've taken over a lot of the responsibilities of my boss to the point where there are some days where she can spend an hour talking on the phone with her other boss, basically just chatting. Basically, I feel/think I am a valuable employee and I wish I could work a more meaningful and impactful job. Is it possible for me to just email random companies I'm interested in, and ask them to create a position for me because I can be helpful? I really believe I could be a useful asset to some organization/company/etc. I am very competitive and I have a cold/analytical mind with some sociopathic tendencies that I think make me well suited to be cut throat in business. I find i'm much more productive at work, and I think at this point in life I need an external structure and coworkers to motivate me to perform as well as I can. I don't believe I have the discipline to start my own business, so I don't really view that as a viable option. Maybe if I had a business partner? Or join a group of people that could work. Part of me thinks this is delusional because i'm sure a lot of people in their mid 20's believe they are brilliant and could run companies etc, but another part thinks this would be such a great opportunity if this worked out. I have a bachelor degree in biology, and I have 1 (incomplete) year of law school but my resume is sketchy with drop outs/etc so I don't think this is an asset. TLDR: I think I am a valuable asset to someone and I want to find work i'm interested in, even though I have no relevant experience or contacts. Ideally I email a company and say "Hey i think i'm great and could help you, please hire me or give me a shot".

Yeah this makes sense. My grandma is crazy and I think if I misbehaved enough she would actually kill me. I think I have inherited that part of her mind, because I have a very strict judgmental part of my mind, and I think I could kill someone in pure rage if they did something wrong enough. Right now the thing that is at the center of my attention/mind is my stomach sensations and specifically pooping sensations. I've noticed i'm getting more comfortable feeling them, and I find when I just remain present and bring attention to my stomach and lower body, there is a avoidance to this area, and it also has a soothing effect on the tension in my head when i can expand my awareness to my whole body, not just the head.

If he's a genius why can't he resolve the nasal congestion that leads to his nasally voice? And why does he emotionally manipulate and act like a little boy towards his female followers?

@Son of leo I think the first thing to do would be address the depression. Are there any reasons you believe you are depressed? Are you in touch with your emotions at all? Do you have any meditation experience? Is there anything you want, or is there anything that motivates you? Do you want to be rich? Have sex with hot girls? Be a pro athlete?

@cervid What didn't you like about the vipassana retreat?

@bejapuskas It would be different if you were just arguing with opposing views, but the fact you're a mod and you give warning points for people who disagree with your ideology is problematic imo. Aren't there better ways for you "help" than posting on this forum? Imagine a mod who had the reverse ideological position as you and then started giving out warning points for anyone who expressed beliefs and opinions that opposed their ideology. How would this mod be treated?