Raptorsin7

My advice for a woman who wants a high quality partner is to focus on developing those traits that high quality men find desirable. I'm not saying a woman shouldn't develop herself, i just don't think that having a successful career and being success oriented in a conventional sense is a key part of development. I like to think of this stuff in terms of how I'd teach my daughter one day, and I would not tell them that their career is what's necessary to have a fulfilling life when they grow up. If a woman values a LTR and a family I would hope they don't follow what you're saying

@Preety_India It's the only metric we have to go on about men's preference. Maybe men here are the exceptions and there's an entire population of high quality men who want successful, career driven woman. But i doubt it.

Almost all the men on this thread have said the same thing about what they value, and no one said they value a woman's career highly. But no man here is saying they value this in a partner. I think it's woman who are giving the misleading advice in this thread tbh

@Consept @Emerald What is the definition of a compatible partner to woman? If someone has moderate standards it seems inescapable that there will be a shortage. I also don't think that men being intimated by a womans success affects dating to the same degree as a woman overvaluing her own success and then claiming men are intimated to comfort themselves

There are many woman in my family who have this dynamic with their partners. I think it can work if the man is happy in the role of a dependent/child and the woman is happy being in control.

@Preety_India I just used it as example because it illustrates the problem and she's a recognizable person so it's more entertaining

This is a great video that illustrates some of the stuff we've been talking about

But for many women they could be very attractive to men they value, but rather than focus their attention on that, they instead focus on developing their careers thinking men will value it when they are ready to seek a partner

@modmyth Thanks for your input much appreciated. @modmyth do you have any thoughts on this phenomena? Do you have any friends or peers etc who are in this situation?

@Consept This is a great explanation of the phenomena thanks man

Yeah i agree

Or they make you feel safe, and you feel good in their presence. And then once they get what they want they take off the mask

This is a great point. People use terms by they don't even have a clear understanding of the meaning of the words

@modmyth What are your thoughts on this topic?

How do you know this?

Are you financially self sufficient?

Do you have any concerns about waiting too long and not being able to find a compatible partner after focusing on your own career? Would you be content being single and successful and not having a family?

@soos_mite_ah That's interesting. I would be very curious what goes into those stats. Isn't that circumstance the nightmare scenario for many woman?

I don't think this is true. I think it's much harder for a successful woman to find a suitable partner compared to a successful man. You are free to believe whatever you want, but just because someone sais something that comforts you doesn't mean it's true or helpful in the long run

That's not incorrect though. I think there are many modern woman who find themselves in a situation, mid 30's or higher, where they spent so much time focusing on their career and now that they wish to pursue relationships and a family they have a very limited pool of partners to choose form. You are a speaking to a population of men that is very tiny. How many men would be compatible for a highly successful career oriented woman who desires a man of similar socio-economic value?

@Forestluv Yeah it all depends on what people value. I would value children very highly others won't

@Consept Great point. Thank you If an attractive woman was happy with me living at home and taking care of kids and I was free to do whatever I want and spend however that would be cool haha

Did you read the earlier posts? There's a circumstance where modern woman are achieving high financial success, and as a result they expect to partner with men of similar socio-economic status, but because men don't value success the way woman value men you have an entire group of woman who have priced themselves out of the dating market. If you are a 35 year old incredibly successful woman who is having a hard time finding a suitable partner you would care. And if you are a young woman in her early 20's wondering how to spend the next 5-10 years of their life i think they would care too Haha. You are missing the point man.

I'm talking about what men value in a relationship. Personally I don't value a woman's potential to be influential on society That's not the point. The point is that a woman's success doesn't enhance her value in the eye's of men to the same degree that a woman value's a man's success. It's not that a woman's success is unattractive, it's more that her success isn't all that attractive.

But there are many high conscious men and woman, and i'd imagine a lot of these people will go on to make great partners in the future. Understanding there values and preferences could be very helpful