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@Lubomir Doesn't it bother you that your girlfriend doesn't respect you enough to stay loyal to you? Seems like a recipe for disaster if you commit to a woman like this.

His app is great. He has a bunch of different teachers on there and it's a great way to broaden your spiritual horizons

There are way more attractive than Margot Robbie. No I wouldn't. That kind of shit is low consciousness. There is way better ways to spend your time than cheating with random thots. I would only get into a relationship with someone I liked enough to not want to cheat on. Would you want your daughter to marry/date a guy who would cheat at first chance?

Awesome story man. I think it's not necessary to convey you are sexually interested so quickly, in most cases it's implied. There's no upside to it. Either she already finds you attractive or she is still determining whether she finds you attractive and you jump the gun.

Would you support open boarders to your country? There could still be vetting for criminals etc, but the basic idea would be if someone from another country wanted to come to your country they would be free to do so. I'd be curious to hear a few reasons why you are either for or against this idea.

I have no real outlets for my rage so idk. I'd be afraid that people could hear me screaming

@Raphael How does screaming into a pillow get the anger out?

This is a good point.

Survival. If she chooses a weak, nice guy and has a child then she is potentially screwed. Weak men aren't good at surviving.

That's not true at all lol wtf. If you have a quality partner then you won't really be upgrading with whoever you cheat with. There's not a good reason to cheat if you are happy and in a relationship with someone you like. Random sex is like a step up from masterbation.

Had my first date with the girl from hinged. It was great. We went to a park and walked around talking for a few hours. She was better looking in person which was a nice bonus. She is very down and I was surprised how easy it was to get physical. The only down side is she can't really stay out late and her family is somewhat strict. But it is nice to have someone who is of a similar culture. I don't have to deal with any bs that some men seem to deal with western woman.

How do I experience Love. I had an insight the other day and I believe a path to happiness is to fully love and accept whatever arises in your experience at any time. I can notice certain sensations and feelings present, and I can tell that I am being loving and accepting of everything present in my direct experience. I want to fully love whatever arises, but I am not a loving person so I can't tell if I am doing it right. I can shift to a mindset of nurture and somewhat caring, and I can feel the difference, but it still feels like I am not accepting my direct experience to the best of my ability.

I've actually made a lot of progress by switching my mindset in meditation towards accepting and loving everything that arises. But I still haven't managed to fully accept and experience the bliss and awesomeness from my peak psych trips. Like last night i managed to accept myself to the point where feelings of disgust came up, and based on my past trips if I can go into the sensation of disgust there is a great relief and release that comes from going deeper and transcending disgust, but I ended up avoiding the sensation and just patting myself on the back for going so deep. It just seems so simple, so when I can't do it i get frustrated. Like accept what is=happiness. But I still find myself here suffering and not enjoying what is.

@Someone here Try learning more about inner child work and how to reparent yourself and love yourself. I think you will keep a hitting a wall with non-duality/meditation until you resolve some of the underlying traumas that are driving your fear, unhappiness etc. Learn how how to accept and love every part of yourself.

@erik8lrl Not cried, but there are certain movie scenes or songs that touch me deeply and it feels close to bliss. I've had incredible blissful experiences on psychidelics and it seemed to come from a deep acceptance of reality and dropping judgment, but I can't do this stuff at will. I have a tendency to suppress any crying that comes up. There have been more and more moments at work where I think of something and I get a bit teary eyed, but my immediate response is to cover it up and hide it.

If I am singularly focusing on helping myself become loving then technically I am investing my own ability to contribute to the goodness of all. I see your point about learning to appreciate etc and recognize the feeling. In my meditations recently i've been trying to practice being gentle, compassionate, and just whatever comes to mind when I think of how to love myself and I notice a difference in how I feel. When I imagine a bigger version of myself comforting myself as if i was a child i can feel a noticable positive difference in how I feel.

@RendHeaven I mean that I don't feel a deep joy, bliss, etc about my life. Like I want to love my life, and experience it as amazing but I currently don't. If I am a loving person right now, then I want something better than love haha

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I will search until I resolve the issue. I have experienced a version of myself that far exceeds where I'm at right now in terms of how I feel, my perceptions of the world, my suffering, abilities etc. I want to be at my best before I go out in the world and create something. I believe i am not operating as well as I could, and until I resolve this gap I will keep seeking. I want to experience my life as amazing, beautiful etc... I just don't experience that right now. For example, I suck(relative to people to who are very good) at online games, but when I peaked on LSD i felt a noticeable shift in my performance. That's what I want to do, and I think Love is how i get there.

I don't know what the experience of love is. I think being a loving person means to be caring and accepting, but I don't know if this is love. I always thought love was something visceral that could be felt and couldn't be mistaken. Like if I experienced love I assume I would know for sure and I wouldn't be this uncertain about it.

@Harlen Kelly Do you think you are capable of attracting the highest quality woman available? In terms of looks, personality, wealth, consciousness etc... do you think with your paradigm/traits you have the ability to attract the most desirable woman available?

Love everything in direct experience. Whatever you feel, however you are right now, love that. Be gentle, nurturing, patient and everything good towards your emotions and feelings. Sink deeper and deeper into the love. Just love. A useful exercise is to think of something loving. Imagine having a young child and being unconditionally loving of the child.

What kind of normal man wants to take on the responsibility of caring for someone else's child? I agree there are some cases where it's a good option for a small minority of men, but maybe there are cases where a woman's best option is to be with an abuser. I think most reasonable people can assume that being a single mother is not a good trait for dating.

Relevant part of the video starts at 5:00 mins. The only white person in the panel brought up a victim mentality and then was berated for the rest of the show by the entire panel. There were people in the panel who brought up the point that if this how "allies" are treated then what is the incentive for people to join people of color, but no one really took it seriously. I thought this what was pretty embarrassing behavior from the people who ganged up on the guy, but what are your thoughts?