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I think this is a lack of integration of Orange. What would you choose? Less money or more money? Is this really that complicated? I understand it if you're choosing to live a deeper, more fulfilling life and you're prioritizing the fulfillment/satisfaction/freedom it gives you to break out of wage slavery, or the materialistic rat race/hamster wheel, or a soul-draining job/business that pays a lot. Having said that, I think it's a simple and obvious decision if all you have to choose from is less money vs more money. Minimalism can be healthy, especially when you're bootstrapping your life purpose and you're being strategic with money. Having said that, you do not want to be minimalistic all your life! You want to die having experienced all the material pleasures you wanted to. You do not want to absolutely deny yourself materialistic pleasure.

Americans are really uncompromising people compared to our culture. Here in India, we hold compromise as this great value that you're 'self-sacrificing for the community'. Not the case elsewhere!

The norm is not good early-life relationships, the norm is dysfunctional, emotionally neglectful relationships. You do need to be emotionally satisfied in your relationships to be happy. People's relationship life looks happy on the surface and on social media, actually most relationships suck. Also, having had healthy early-life relationships will not make you more independent later in life. You will always have those needs. What will happen is that you will have learned the tools to bring in the people to meet your needs because your parents had figured it out. What happens with other people, or people who ignore this stuff is that they are just really unconscious, they are so stuck in the materialist paradigm chasing money/sex that they will not even consider this as a possibility. They do not really care about having emotionally satisfying and fulfilling relationships, which is why they are happy with the norm. You want emotionally satisfying relationships, which is why the norm is not good enough for you.

@Lyubov There was this funny looking Black homeless guy on the train once. I looked at him and smiled. He thought I was laughing at him in a sorta racist way and he acted rude to me.

Why have a relationship then? Why go through the hassle of going out there, dating, doing pickup, talking to a bunch of women, finally get into a relationship? Sex is not technically a need, despite whatever Maslow said. Human beings have emotional needs that we need other people to meet for us, especially romantic partners. The materialist paradigm will deny this, but it's true. Now I'm not saying you need a romantic relationship to meet them, or that romantic relationship is the only way. But it is the most popular and socially convenient way in today's day and age.

@StarStruck About the issue of neediness - I think you only want to be talking to women who want to meet your emotional needs. Those are the compatible women, others will be incompatible. When you look for a compatible woman, not only will you get laid, you will be emotionally fulfilled in the relationship. A lot of women who have something to offer in this sense, some emotional need they're wanting to meet in a guy feel rejected by guys who only want sex. This is why they feel let down when guys say 'I only want sex.' This is where the stereotype of 'All men are the same' comes from. Yes, you heard me. You would be doing them a service by opening your heart to them and letting them meet your emotional needs! When women say they don't want a guy who is 'needy', what they're really saying is that they don't want a guy to lean on to them, or they want a guy who takes responsibility for the creation of an emotionally compatible relationship. They don't want to be put in a position of mom, they don't want to have the pressure of expectations in the relationship. If you're taking responsibility for creating a compatible relationship, you should be fine!

@ColeMC01 They say they care about looks, but do they really? Or does this talk vanish when they find someone they just like spending time with? We have been brainwashed to care about looks by our culture. This is not to say that we don't actually care about looks and that it's all conditioning, but the brainwashing is real. Here's why: Movies and mainstream culture will sell to us the most attention-grabbing, passionate, glam-and-glitzy sexual content because it sells. This involves beauty standards/standards for big muscles and six-packs. This is the most attention-grabbing form of sexuality, but it isn't necessarily the healthiest or the most natural. This is why we get brainwashed with these 'mainstream standards for looks' or 'mainstream standards for game' or 'mainstream standards for what dating should look like'.

@Preety_India I think the better idea would be to let the body do what it needs to do. I can guarantee you that you will not become depressed because of it, it will release the trauma. Shaking is another way of releasing trauma.

It looks like you know how to market. You literally put every single attention-grabbing tag that you possibly could in the title of the post!

@StarStruck Check out Teal Swan on youtube. She has amazing content on relationships and creating authentic relationships. If you really want to go through the emotional labor (and it is a LOT of emotional labor) to create authentic and meaningful relationships, then that is for you. I started with tuning in more and more into my emotions and learning to name emotions, seeing internal emotional patterns and linking them to my childhood. This really opened Pandora's box for me. I've had a 2 year long emotional healing crisis ever since and things are changing very rapidly for me! The fact that I was a wage-slave was a big part of why I didn't have time to date. There, I got more attuned to how I feel and I started to get more on track with my Life Purpose. When you have that going as a male, good things start to happen for you. I just had to leave wage-slavery in order to have better personal relationships. It's been a mix of finding myself, enlightenment work but most of it on relationships.

Have you looked into the possibility that you're emotionally starving? Human beings have emotional needs that need to be met through personal relationships. You could do a lot of shadow work around childhood traumas around emotional starvation. For me, this turned out to be a major part of social awkwardness around attractive women. I had this fear of losing myself, which is why I wasn't going for it with attractive women (and rightly so). I needed to sort that out before I was able to visualize an emotionally safe relationship for myself. I will start dating once my strategy for creating the relationship is complete.

Excuse me as I puke *pukes* WTF is this?!?! This is a new low. Toxic Stage Orange is real!

@Leo Gura Are you guiding @StarStruck to have one-night stands, multiple partners or the one serious relationship?

I think the dollar will collapse because of his antics. All fun and games aside, this is something super serious that we want to be preparing for.

All of his videos on Life Purpose, business, creativity, leadership are amazing. Especially his course. It is an absolute joy to watch him talk about it. Also the ones on 'The Hero's Journey' are really good.

When Leo says 'BUT LEEOOOO..' I imagine someone saying that to him in a whiny tone of voice! It's like 'But Leoooo, what you're saying doesn't work cuz of this, that and the other reason. Waaaa....'

@GroovyGuru Here's my unpopular opinion - I don't think this is healthy. I understand that you have problems with Trump being in office. I understand that you feel hatred towards Trump. Having said that, hatred solves nothing. We do not want to be acting blindly out of hatred. That way, we would be reacting to our negative emotions. I think the healthy thing for you to do would be to look at your personal reasons for your hatred towards Trump and his supporters. You will learn a few things about yourself in the process and you'll be able to make more clear-headed decisions relative to who you want in your life.

@Extreme Z7 From what I've heard this guy say, what appeals to him about Trump is the fact that Trump says what's immediately on his mind, he doesn't think about being PC. This can make him more relatable with the average Joe. Trump, because of his crassness, can come across as a 'non-elite', which is closer to home than some far-off 'elite'. What can I say. People's minds truly work in amazingly strange and twisted ways. Especially uneducated people who know nothing about politics, how they vote! Do I have a short-term solution to this situation? No, I don't. In the long-term, the way to prevent this would be for progressives to get really good at solving the common person's problems. If progressives are really able to give people education about politics, improvements in the economy, better healthcare for common people, etc. then these same common people would be voting left. They'd be saying 'Obama's my boy!! His M4A saved my life!!!! I will vote Democrat for the rest of my life.' Progressives will always have a harder time winning elections because their task is harder. It is to actually solve problems that plague society. Conservatives will always have an easier time because their task is easier. It is to poke holes in progressive ideas and defend the status-quo. It is what it is.

A few moments of silence for my sinking heart. This well-intentioned dude.... No man...

Powerful stance! Much respect to you.

@Leo Gura More than a self-help teacher, I see you as a creative artist who expresses himself. You don't really focus on telling people what to do per se, rather you give them ideas that they can use to figure stuff out for themselves. You focus a lot lesser nowadays on selling yourself, the value of your work is pure artistic value.

@Preety_India Out of curiosity, on a scale of 1-10, how feminine would you consider yourself? What's your relationship to femininity?

Here's the kernel of truth in redpill - Biologically, the whole notion of 'survival of the fittest' or 'passing down your genes' is true. If we look at it strictly from a zero-sum game biological perspective, women want to bear the child of the most powerful and successful men so that their genes can be passed down. Here's the kernel of truth in MGTOW - Women aren't angels and being single is better than being in a toxic relationship. Concerns with women, divorce, paternity fraud, etc. are legit concerns.

A few more insights about incels are striking me. The issue of incels isn't that they aren't getting laid, or that they're single, or that they're lonely. The issue of incels is this - Women invalidate the pain of the guy they're rejecting. Women reject guys with the expectation that 'He's a guy, so he shouldn't feel any pain of rejection. All men want sex only anyways, so who gives a fuck.' When guys meet with this invalidation of pain, this is where shit gets really scary. Here's the elephant in the room - there's all sorts of gaslighting going on along the lines of 'If you emotionally feel the pain of rejection, you're weak!!! You're not a real man!!!'. This is emotionally unhealthy collective behavior, where they basically get singled out. This is why they call women 'femoids' or 'robots without empathy'. Gaslighting can make you feel crazy or insane, like there's something wrong with what you're seeing. This is what really causes mass shootings, where they lash out at the public. Mass shooters are subconsciously escalating a situation where they're getting invalidated. This is why they're glorifying rape, glorifying mass shooters, etc. OP, you were asking for a solution to incels, right? Here's my solution - when you reject a guy next time, have empathy for his pain of getting rejected. You don't have to behave differently towards them than you already do, just have some more compassion or empathy. This is the opposite of what feminists will say should be the response. Feminists want to further ostracize them, which will only increase the mass shootings and sexual assaults by them. This way, feminists are creating the very evil they're resisting.

For example, I'm writing a book, being authentic and vulnerable, so that people can see into my authentic perspective. I started doing this because of me wanting to get laid and being surrounded by people who aren't like-minded. I am wanting to teach people about myself, so to speak, so that I can bring in people who have compatible values. I'm not a PUA who wants to bang a lot of girls. I'm more of a long-term relationship guy. Different strategies for different desired outcomes!