BlessedLion

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Interesting takes. I’ve heard some yogis say that they can wreck the subtle bodies and cause massive setbacks on the path to a natural and stabilized consciousness (it’s not that you have no idea but can easily tap into your true nature) They do have benefit too but I think if your serious about stabilizing your consciousness you need to do it bucket by bucket (meditation, contemplation, yoga)

For sure - that’s why it’s the oldest profession in the world- it provides massive value. Long term though I think most men want more than just sex

Omg this is so true. I think it is largely unconscious as well

This depends on how you define “evolved” Personally I think Women are much more socially intelligent, accepting of life, present, content, more common sense, and yes generally smarter than men. But it’s not in like a book smart way, it’s in like a wisdom in living life way. They seem to have less resistance to society’s structure and life in general, much more empathy and ability to connect, and even a deeper spiritual relationship with life than men do. If you pry enough, most women will admit they have some sort of spiritual philosophy or connection to life but many men stubbornly stick to their atheism. Men tend to be analytical, robotic and stuck in their heads. Whereas women are more like present with life as it flows. I feel for men today as they have much less support and are becoming more and more isolated and demonized, and disrespected- many men hardly get the opportunity to step into their masculinity before being shamed, humiliated or put down. However I don’t think nature is stupid and I think in their highest healthiest forms men and women balance each other out perfectly. In an ideal relationship he can lead and be more strategic, planning, providing safety, grounded energy, stability and spine where she can bring energy, fun, life, beauty, flow, nurture, sexuality/sensuality, and inspiration. I think women today have had to be stronger than most men because of the lack of real men, and a lot of men feel useless and unneeded- so they crawl into the cobwebs of Internet forums and YouTube to spew mysogonistic nonsense and feel bad for themselves. I also feel many women have become massively delusional and narcissistic due to social media and it has rotted their minds and sense of self, their humbleness and modesty has eroded and they are addicted to preaching and social media validation like it’s crack. So this also creates of sea of women who are completely out of touch with true feminine energy and principles. So you have broken , addicted men with weak minds and inflated, narcissistic “queens” , add the gasoline of dating apps, porn, social media, and red pill to the mix and viola you get the shit show that is modern gender wars. It’s a shame, because I think in its natural form these 2 energies balance each other out beautifully. Again God is not stupid and there is a reason for both feminine and masculine energy. We just so rarely see it anymore.

I’ve seen the whole “free love casual sex” thing really damage a lot of women, especially young ones, only if a woman is like in her 40s saying that will I trust her.

That’s a solid quote

It is more chill in Argentina/Brazil, but still if you’re consistent with a girl having deep connected sex it’s only a matter of time

I don’t think it’s a paradigm man, it’s more like “true”. One of the reasons I dropped pick up is because it felt corrupt and manipulative and it was hurting women. Doesn’t matter if they say they are cool with it, chill, or okay with open, on a deep level it’s not okay for them.

It’s like paying for a roller coaster ride, you can pay to have a foursome with models- something nearly impossible in normal life- so experience it and move on. It’s not a lifestyle choice though and definitely shouldn’t replace dating and natural attraction.

I used to really judge this and think it was the most immasculine thing a man could do. As I’ve gotten older I see it differently, it like Lyuv said, it’s like fast food versus healthy food. It’s fine once in a while but if you make it your diet it will ruin you. I know many men who become addicted to escorts, especially living abroad. $80 and you’re having sex with a dime peice baddie who normally you would have to jump through hoops for for even a kiss. If you are clear on just needing sex/wanting to experience having sex with a gorgeous woman, why not? I more worry about the women and them getting attached or treated poorly. But you can definitely see an escort in a conscious loving respectful way, you’ll be rare though. Still, there is something about it that feels cheap, almost unspiritual. Like you’re not sleeping with her because you’ve developed your polarity, social skills and heart. You’re sleeping with her because you’ve paid, it’s like the shallowest most transactional reason you could imagine. At least when you date and have to pay for dinner and stuff she is still sleeping with you by choice and I think if you pay to play too much it wears at your soul and self esteem. I think it’s fine for the experience- like psychedelics, do it a few times, then drop it. Make that happen in real life. I don’t judge it though. Men very much have a strong sexual energy that most don’t know how to manage so seeing an escort is a “healthy” outlet. They know nothing of tantric celibacy, transmutation or semen retention so that’s what you get- hey, it’s better than rape/violence and even porn addiction

I’m currently dealing with this too. It’s tough. Just gotta put yourself out there and surrender to connections happening/things flowing I think what @something_else said is really true. There is this group Cohabs that does co living and it’s like the best in to have an immediate crew but you risk living with ppl who aren’t a fit

I don’t think you’re ever truly 100% not “needy” on some level you DO need women, for many valid reasons. If you truly didn’t need them you wouldn’t even look at them, they’d be as significant as a styrofoam cup on the ground. Even the biggest players and ladies men on earth still need Women, if women disappeared they’d be massively depressed. So there’s power in owning that, YES they are amazing beautiful mysterious majestic creatures. They light us up, they bring feminine energy, sexiness, and fun that balance a masculine man out. Acknowledge the balance. Don’t try to be this stoic “I Don’t care” kinda guy. That’s a great way to guarantee you will go home alone every night. I promise you women will not run up to you begging you to fuck them because you’re cool “I don’t care” guy in the corner. Go out and try it, see how much sex you don’t have. But yeah, if you are clingy and putting too much pressure and projection into her she will feel it and coil away. The best attitude is to be interested but chill about it. Like “yes I’m interested, you are cute, but this isn’t life or death, if you reject me I’ll be fine there’s plenty more” The only way you can get there is through experience and skill. So keep going. Enjoy the ride. You’re doing nothing wrong. Way to go on kissing a hot goddess.

Yeah , i'm sure my view of it was skewed a bit, I just drove through on a Sunday so all the party crowd was leaving and it so dystopian. But i'm sure it's got nice parts and is chill in other ways

I once drove through Vegas, that was all i needed to see. It was one of the most Anti-Truth/God/Love places I have ever seen. It would def make me jadded and burnt out,

Hey man, I just wanted to say I really resonate with your post and everything you are saying here. I grew up in the US, Southern California and Texas. SoCal was dope but Texas was awful. Anyway, I went to college there and the second I graduated i got a job that let me travel remote (before it was mainstream, like 2017) This let me go to Colombia, Mexico, Bali, Brazil, Europe and I quickly learned that I had been a square peg trying to fit myself into a round hole my whole life. I always felt America was so tense, cold, and hyper competitve, and also just so indiviualistic with little care on community, connection or depth. I have been pursuing self actualization and consciousness for around a decade now and I spent about 8 years outside the US. For whatever reason this summer i had the "Call" to come back to America and see how it is. So i got an apartment in a city and have been living here for like 8 weeks now. Man.... It's tough to live here. I'm not going to say it's all bad, there are positives, and this is a nuanced thing, but for the cost of living for the value is totally not worth it. I've also found it really tough to meet people, everyone is just kind of on their own pace and even in yoga events, ecstatic dance, etc people just come- do the event- and leave. The ability to connect here is lost, it feels like people have lost that skill, the individualism of American culture has backfired massively. Without drugs, or alcohol most people just can't dive deep or be themselves. I went out to some clubs and bars to try and socialize or have fun, it was so soul draining. So much performance and everyone is high and drunk as fuck. I've partied in other countries, yet in other countries it feels more like a celebration of life (Like in Brazil) but in the US it's like a numbing/escape. Luckily I have only 1 month left here and i can't wait to leave. Im either going to move to Mexico or Brazil, likely Brazil it has more than everything I'd ever want. This was such a clarifying trip to me. I don't belong here, it's unconsious, and not very warm, it's tense, everyone is obsessed with politics. The dating scene is awful, the women here are mostly out of touch with their femininity for the large part- i couldn't hook up with them if i wanted to, so i've just been going into celibacy and semen retention practices here, which has been super potent. Idk, I just look around the city and get this huge "childish" vibe. Like everyone is living their little clay life, eating their avocado toast, walking their dogs, and living for the weekend, no one seems to be pursuing mastery of any sort and it's just coffee to scrolling to booze to porn to video games. My roomate is a good example of this, dude sits on his phone for 8-9 hours a day scrolling tik tok, then goes out to drink and fuck a random chick, his poor dog barely gets taken care of and i have to help it because i don't want it to suffer. One of the most challenging things about self actualizing and development is that it gets lonely. You no longer care about what the masses care about, you see it as a waste of time, energy, and an opening to karma you don't want. I simply can't connect on these values and interests and i don't drink or do drugs so that cuts out a good portion of bonding activities. Anyway, I think choosing to leave is a good call and you won't drown in debt either. There are much better places to live than America where you can find strong community and aligned vibes. This is just my take, so i hope people don't get butthurt and start flinging shit at me because my perspective makes them insecure about their own decisions.

Hey guys, this was my first time really trying to tackle this monster of a topic. I know it's not perfect but I hope I got the point across and people watching can at least catch a wiff of how influential their mind is on the reality they experience. For all my Stage Yellow/ Construct-Aware homies - lmk what you think!

Thinking you need Ms to live a spiritual life is incorrect. It’s not wrong or bad and if you can do it more power to you, but it can be a huge sidetrack and distraction. Making millions typically requires a lot of time and energy

Wise

I feel the same. The sad, unbiased truth is Israel and America are being like the axis right now. They are being evil. Genocide, aggression, criminal, breaking intl law. So I can’t really defend us in this scenario. I’m even considering leaving the US. I’m frankly shocked we helped Israel and how asleep the whole world seems about it. This isn’t about nukes it’s about power, regime change and ethnic cleansing.

the whole thing is absolute bullshit- netanyahu is a criminal and he is full of shit and somehow trump was spineless enough to join him. It's all a geo-political grab, he's been saying iran has nukes for decades- trump is just his little bitch i guess

criminals, both of them

God damnit

So… Contemplate it? maybe you have a different definition of what contemplation is- in my perspective it’s simply holding onto a question or curiosity and marinating in it until an insight occurs. Ie, “What is a cup?” Not thinking about it, but simply gazing upon a cup until the truth of its nature is revealed.

This again 🙄 This forum has no concept of feminine spirituality and how deep and embodied it is. I was contemplating today how we (most men on the path) spend hours sitting and meditating, trying to “get it” trying to control, while the feminine just lays in the grass and flows with what is- who truly is wiser?