Danioover9000

Why is self actualization structured this way though? I've been watching videos and reading books and doing the exercises for a couple of months because it's personal development. Does self actualization boil down to cherry picking? Like from now until death I'm just seperating the cherries from the Hemlocks metaphorically speaking? It feels like a episode of Takishima's castle were a part of the comedic competition involved the players jumping from stone to stone avoiding the water while not knowing which stones are fake and real.

How about any suggestions for accurate evaluation? For example: visualization, feedback and maybe safety strategies in case I invested wrongly in the first place?

Are you saying that self actualization is relative?

Well, the title is that way because of the strange experiences these people shared with me. They weren't criticising me: they just shared parts of their life story and their actualization journey that contradicted my own. Originally I thought self-actualization meant you realized yourself through taking action. I thought this applied to the people I talked to, but they disagree on some parts. Some of my friends thought the path had to do with earning lots of money and creating a business. Or being a celebrity. A close friend in particular shared her story, briefly, that her journey started when she had to overcome a paranormal experience in her childhood that scared her. Afterward, she sought help with modern Western methods. When that stopped working, she kept searching. Utimately through spiritual means she overcame her fear. She defined what self-actualization meant to her: that you suffer first, then start a journey to free that suffering and change for the better. She hadn't shared that part of her childhood and all of the sudden her somewhat strange behaviour in the past made more sense to me. This I think was what made me stop and contemplate my take on the path that my assumption of it was bullshit because I may have been taking action as an excuse for not being self reflective.

Good post! I agree about the points you made on sex addiction and I think it's great that someone is talking about it at least!? I think all users replying to you don't understand that their actually on the wrong because the real issue is not about your topic it's that it's not technically a theory: it's speculation that's unsupported. For example... 'A supposition or a system of ideas intended to explain something, especially one based on general principles independent of the thing to be explained. "Darwin's theory of evolution" synonyms:hypothesis, thesis, conjecture,supposition, speculation,postulation, postulate, proposition,premise, surmise, assumption,presumption, presupposition,notion, guess, hunch, feeling,suspicion; more a set of principles on which the practice of an activity is based. "a theory of education" an idea used to account for a situation or justify a course of action. "my theory would be that the place has been seriously mismanaged"'. Quote from Google. Notice that your post seems to be just a hunch rather than a strong theory about sex addiction. I'm not attacking you or your post: I'm helping you develop awareness of your ideas about addiction and sex addiction. Because of this, the other users who posted have posted on assumptions of your original posts and the following replies made. Also, I like that your post contains other issues that seem to correlate to your topic; scarcity of resources, increase in competition and social media addiction e.g a selfie. Feel free to add another issue or correct me if I'm wrong about my list. I can agree that those issues can effect sex addiction, but I believe that the points you made to support you're 'theory' are assumptions. Scarcity of resources? We're in the 21 century, in the age of information. Increase in competition? Actually this is good! You're improving as you're dating. Perfect men on social media? There's also perfect women that men see on the internet which gives a false sense of expectation when it comes to real interactions with women while dating! Now I'm going to give my advice to you based on my quick read of your posts. I can't avoid making assumptions about you and your specific problems with this topic so feel free to correct me if I'm wrong: You're a virgin and are interested in sex but you don't know how to date. You're a porn addict, regularly materbated to porn and is feeling insecure about dating women. You were bullied by girls and you feel a deep insecurity to women yet you need them. You were rejected by your crush and is now worried about reliving the pain of rejection You were bullied by 'cool boys' a grade or so above, hated/jealous of how they were idolized by girls and now you're older you're worried about being more aggressive to women because of how that makes you a bully. For point one: journal you're experiences with dating and sex and make a commitment to learning about your sexuality. For point two: introspect about this addiction and learn as much about it and it's causes. For point three and five: Shadow work, meditation and/or therapy. For point four: Feel into the rejection, let it go and continue dating! There you go! Hope this is really useful for you. Good luck on your journey to self actualize.