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You might want to check out this video where I talk about the primitive brain, the fight-flight-freeze response and a simple technique to let go of it again. Of course, there are many techniques. You can approach trauma from the mind (through memories for example) or the body (through breathwork for example). They'll all lead you to the same place: The body has linked an event with tension in the body. Solving the event or the tension makes it go away. The difference is that, as children, our defence mechanisms are basically non-existent. We can't put things "into context". When mom is mad, our world goes down, because mom is our world. We "think" on a purely emotional level. A healthy, adult psyche will very rarely experience trauma, especially in nowadays world. But it will certainly have dramatic responses to everyday situations. When your best friend is telling you he doesn't want to meet up with you because he'd rather spend time alone, it might be totally ok for one person, but for another, it might make them really angry, sad, judgmental, etc. because they felt left alone as a child for example. That's the trigger. So basically look out for exaggerated responses to everyday situations. No one enjoys getting raped, but I see what you're trying to say. Of course there are any factors. How old the woman is makes a HUGE difference, how supported they feel afterwards makes a HUGE difference, their psychological maturity, the state of mind they were in when it happened, etc. But all of this is not so important in the end. The point is that trauma manifests and it decreases the quality of life for that person, in whatever way. Whether your thoughts are circling around fear, unworthiness or doubt, whether you carry tension in your throat or your belly... It's all just a survival-mechanism of your system, reacting to the situation at hand. And no 2 situations are ever the same, that's why it never triggers the same response. To quote the best: "Trauma is not what happens to you, it's what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you." - Dr. Gabor Mate

Education - Our education system needs a serious update. Not even an update, it needs to be done all new. 70% of children who are starting school today will have a job that doesn't even exist yet. We need to foster independent thinking, teamwork and innovation in our youngsters/. The gap between rich and poor - Russell Brand hits the nail on the head in this video: "It's interesting that inequality don't even work for the people on the fruitful side of the arrangement." Loss of faith - "The greatest question of our time is not communism vs. individualism, not Europe vs. America, not even the East vs. the West; it is whether men can bear to live without God." - Will Durant Food and the Environment - The way most food is grown is ridiculous. Self-sustaining farms with fertile soil will be worth more than any money you could have on the bank soon. I'm so sure of that. Anything that makes people afraid of each other like the pandemic, where the solution seems to be to keep distance. Unresolved Trauma - which leads to drug abuse and a huge mental health crisis. We're wasting so much potential by not teaching children how to deal with emotions, and parents how to raise children.

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Welcome to the forum Good observation. You can't skip your way to "the absolute". Can't "skip" emotions like overwhelm, loneliness... The journey is not "going beyond" these feelings and "crazy thoughts", but actually going into them. Expressing. Releasing. It all starts with feeling your body and being connected to it while speaking. Then all of this suddenly feels a lot less overwhelming and you'll realise that emotions & thoughts come one at a time; and they want to be released one at a time. No airy-fairy stuff, just raw thoughts and feelings. If you commit to that, only clarity remains. Have you ever practiced (or heard of) Radical Honesty? That's where I learned that. Of course, shadow work is essential. Is your therapist helping you with integrating your past? Actually? Or just talking about it?

Great to see you want to work on it and are open about it. I'd definitely suggest professional help. The "Primal Childhood Deconditioning Retreat" by Puja Lepp totally changed my life this summer. It's the most helpful thing I've found so far. And there were many people with severe (sexual) traumas who worked through it amazingly. The thing is: You can't talk your way out of trauma, it needs to be an embodied experience. So if you can afford it in any way, make this a priority. The next one is June 3rd till June 10th in the Netherlands. It costs 2000,- but it will be the best money you've ever spent. You're in the hands of trained professionals and you get all the tools and all the room to clean up your past. I'll probably be there too This is Pujas website: https://www.pujalepp.com You can set up a free call with her, tell her about your situation and she'll know what to do.

I've dealt with that for years, and even in psychotherapy I couldn't really find out what the root was. Social expectations? Nah... It felt deeper. When I did primal therapy it all finally came up. In the most twisted way... My mother never "nourished" me, she (gave me the feeling she) never wanted me. Like I'm "too much". I didn't know what I was doing wrong. I thought I did something wrong taking up space in this life. I literally didn't want to grow. I was sorry for all the resources I needed. As I inevitably grew though, I thought: Well, at least I have to be perfect in order to make up for all the harm I'm causing just being here. I was the best student, best girlfriend, best spiritual practitioner, best looking, best everything... All of that while taking up as little space as possible by being thin and being a people pleaser. And really, deep down I still felt like shit. Not saying this needs to have anything to do with your situation, but just saying that these things can run deeper than we realise sometimes. I talk about it a little bit in the video I just made. You might want to check it out:

Sounds like some serious trauma and neglect loops you're going through. Can feel like a prison you can't get out with when unaddressed. Expression is key. In case you'd like support with processing trauma, social support & expressing emotions... I have experience with that. Just send me a message and we can set up a call. No charge.

Goodness me.... It's crazy how your favourite youtubers almost feel like family.

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@peanutspathtotruth Exciting! Seems like you found your thing. Congrats on making it happen. You actually have a great voice for guided meditations. As feedback I'd say it's always nice to connect to an actual person, so maybe a picture of you, an "about me" page or something like that. You have a new subscriber

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The "feel good and then..." refers to emotional expression. Which is ideally done first, then the things that "follow" aren't (so) hard anymore. Fear is not a good motivator. And most of all, not consistent. And doesn't feel good. So why do you feel fear? We're often crippled by our past or societal conditioning without even realising it. Whatever is holding us back is deeply personal in the sense that we don't realise "This is only how I'm feeling" You need to get that fear "out", so to say. Through expression or understanding (or ideally: both) Ever tried any emotional release exercises or any forms of shadow work? Also, how clear is your vision? What do you want to create? What's the bigger picture? As someone very wise once said: "Inspiration replaces motivation"

I'm very sorry to hear that you had to go through so many tough situations in your life. I'm not having advice per se, just respect for what you went through, and that you're here, now, sharing openly and intending to change. I'm sure that you'll look back at your life one day, being able to see how these times deepened your understanding of life; even if that perspective doesn't make things better now. I'll say this: A simple meditation practice is the corner stone that changed my life so many years ago. Also: If you wanna talk to someone, I have experience in trauma work and would be happy to help, give some perspective on how to move through it and how to move on. No charge. Just send me a DM. All the best!

"I know God does not give me more than I can handle, I just wish he didn’t trust me so much." - Mother Teresa

Always works for me: 1. Realise what's bothering you 2. Clear yourself from conditioning of the past 3. Get clear on what you want 4. Keep focusing on it

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I think being authentic just comes down to sharing what you really care about, which always comes across and is the only way to keep you going anyways. I can't imagine building a brand or videos I'm not super passionate about. Also, definitely have a bias towards action. You don't know if people would care if you haven't tried it. I would care And also, as long as you put yourself out there consistently, it will take off. Just put something out there all the freaking time. Anything. And you'll find your way. There's no shortcut. I've experimented with online, offline, videos, blogs, magazines, pictures, products, etc. You'll naturally see what you're drawn to and motivated to keep doing. Again, anything that you can keep doing AND is a passion of yours will pay off eventually. I'm sure about that! As Gary Vee said "Document, don't create" Document your journey, document what's going through your mind, what you're reading and learning and you'll never run out of content and it will always be authentic. That's how you create a tribe. Best of luck!

@Etherial Cat Aw! Thanks a bunch

New video on the root cause of low self-esteem. Enjoy

My 2 cents: The energetic shift that happens by "letting go", is going into the experience fully. It's counter-intuitive, but the only way out is through. The book "Letting Go" describes exactly this. It's so simple that you could dismiss it. A sort of "emotional orgasm" has to take place (through expression by yourself or with someone else), so the desire can pass through and you're clear headed & unattached when it comes to where you want to go Usually, our rational & logical approach is not so rational and logical, but usually fueled by unmet needs, unacknowledged desires or emotions that aren't recognised for what they're trying to tell you. The magic you're missing is communicating without an outcome in mind. As in: Non-manipulative (like Radical Honesty). As Matt Kahn once said "Desires don't fulfil us, only clear communication does." I also don't think you have to choose between the two "modes" in a situation. You can know exactly what you want to create (being proactive), without being attached to the outcome, because being clear on your intention and communicating authentically is way more fulfilling than neurotically trying to create what you want. And, paradoxically (or not) other people also respond way better to this approach, because they feel your authenticity, which is naturally attractive.

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Now that's a belief someone installed in you... The question is: Who? Your parents? What has worked for you? If any? (Genuinely interested to get some more details)