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Give Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton a read, or visit a workshop. They teach you about the difference between Radical Honesty and Brutal Honesty. In short: Make it about yourself (Non-violent communication) Stay true to the facts, to what actually happened Be aware that the rest is stories in your head, share it as such

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“The kingdom of God is like a man who casts seed upon the soil; and he goes to bed at night and gets up by day, and the seed sprouts and grows—how, he himself does not know. The soil produces crops by itself; first the blade, then the head, then the mature grain in the head. But when the crop permits, he immediately puts in the sickle, because the harvest has come.” Mark 4:26-29

"Was ich besitze seh ich wie im Weiten, Und was verschwand wird mir zu Wirklichkeiten." (Goethe, Faust I) I'm so blessed by my beautiful surroundings

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I went through exactly the same thing for 7 years. Until I didn't anymore. You're probably better served with a therapist than a nutritionist, since eating disorders are always an emotional problem, not a physical one. It's also not a matter of willpower. It's a matter of understand how and why you're punishing yourself, which is learned behaviour and usually roots in childhood conditioning. I'd be happy to chat and tell you everything I've tried, what helped and what didn't. No charge. Link's below.

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"Enlightenment is not: 'This is real or unreal'. It's when you're finally liberated from this conversation." - Matt Kahn

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Art is the garbage truck of human emotions. It's by far the best way to process & express feelings, and thereby understand and relieve them. People sometimes think art has to be pretty, or they need to be in a good mood to make good art. Yet it's the other way around: Art allows you to get to that feeling of goodness again. Art is the process, not the outcome.

One of the best videos he ever made in my opinion. Came back to this many times!

Well put. I totally agree. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Had a similar appreciation for the path recently. There's beauty in the unpredictability of it all, and no matter how slow or unpredictable it sometimes feels, you still progress a lot. Non-linear results all over the place... But as long as I keep going, I know I'll be fine. I really enjoy the process in the meantime. The frantic mood from the beginning is mostly gone and relaxation has taken over. It's like Adyashanti said, "Always being, always becoming"

Love it. I have that too, that I dream about people and they say the wisest things. One thing I noticed is that they always seem to give me the message I need at that moment. Like guardian angles. The quote makes me think of the saying "Nothing makes you happy until nothing makes you happy" Have you read "Letting Go"? It's basically about that as well. Go into all the difficult feelings, and right the moment you accept them, they free you. Paradoxical & beautiful.

Yah, that usually doesn't work so well. What do you want to create? What brings you joy? What would you do if you were financially free?

Visiting my nephew for his birthday today. Wrapping him a little piece of poetry, appropriate for his age. He's truly the most special kid I ever came across. He loves nature, cuddling and reading... And that's all we ever do together ❤️It brings me to tears how well he can live out his creative, philosophical and nature loving personality. Surrounded by people who love him for it. Proudest auntie ever! He inspires me to change the world, to change the way we raise children and the way we see them. I love you sweetheart! "What Ben and I have created here may be unique in all of human existence. We created paradise out of Plato's Republic. Our children shall be philosopher kings. It makes me so indescribably happy. I'm going to get better out here. I know I will. Because we are defined by our actions, not our words."

Pretty much. Trauma work is in its infant shoes. The nervous system always remembers. There's luckily some branches of psychology who recognise how to work with suppressed memories, like IFS, EMDR, Primal Therapy, Somatic experiencing, Shadow work, etc. Gabor Maté's documentary "The wisdom of trauma" is amazing at demonstrating how uninformed we are about trauma and how there needs to be more awareness about it in schools, the legal system, etc. My primal therapist once said "I'd rather live in a society that overemphasises the importance of trauma than underemphasises it." Couldn't agree more. Spread the word.

Sorry to hear about your situation. I was in a similar one with my sister a few years ago. She just got worse and worse and there was nothing I could do but get triggered and try to help her... It was all fruitless. I took MDMA back then, thought about the situation and realised "Love is letting people make their own mistakes". This really helped me in taking a step back and letting her live her life. If he's not open to change, there's really nothing you can do, as painful as it seems. Find a way to take care of yourself, feel what you need and just let him know that you're open to help him whenever he's ready. That's what I do now too. I reach out from time to time to test the waters, see if she wants to open up. Other than that, I think it's great to just lead by example. He'll realise sooner or later that he doesn't want to live like that anymore... And then he might look around at other people in his life, to see what's working for them. But I know it's tough, especially when it's family. Take good care of yourself. Hug!

@Etherial Cat Thanks Will check it out!