Bill W

Sometimes not everything is so black and white.

I love you Pernani, but for me, it is homo, big homo.

Whenever you feel empty

Leo, what is your opinion of mental masturbation?

@modmyth I love that. Thank you for sharing it

I've had this sitting on my laptop for a while, I have obviously copied and pasted it from something. I like it. I hope you do too. This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes As an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each guest honourably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each guest has been sent as a guide from beyond. Rumi (Translated by Coleman Barks)

For those keen on the spiral dynamics model. Does it help to try and identify what stage public figures are on? I mean, does it help with your own journey?

Impulse control Not taking things personally Open mindedness

I don't think this clip has anything to do with sexuality but it does have a lot to do with stupidity. So the real headline is.... being comfortable with own stupidity. ✌

Great question! I would say yes as my answer.

You have really nice skin and beautiful taste in jumpers, that's like a Christmas jumper. Good share my man.

To those people who never get offended or take things personally... If the emphasis is on never, then don't be too hard on yourself with the comparison. I'd imagine in terms of people who never get offended or take things personally, I bet this doesn't apply to anything above 0.1% of the adult population. Probably less than that even. To not take things personally or get offended makes you Elite. Special Forces level of self-development. I'm just trying as hard as I can to get better at this, but boy, do many of us like holding onto our resentments and sensitivities. I think it was Wayne Dyer who said that we often end up walking around just waiting to be offended. Looking for it. Searching for it. Whenever I see something in life, on YouTube or sometimes on forums, when someone would normally act offended in that given scenario and they don't.... I think "I wanna be that guy". I admire this trait and skill so much. To transcend being offended. To transcend taking things personally. That's a one way to ticket to serenity.

One of the best shit sandwiches you'll ever see. This thread has it all. The good, the bad, and even a bizarre link to pedophilia.

For the next week or so, among other things, in this journal, I will post word for word some of my favourite passages from my favourite books. These are things that resonate with me on a massive scale, that I try to action and implement in my life. Meditations - Marcus Aurelius Ego & Humility • The mind without ego is a fortress. No place is more secure. Once we take refuge there we are safe forever • If you stick to your Truth’s, you will be a new person with a new life. It won’t matter if others do not know the Truth. You will set sail and steer a steady course toward freedom • Do what’s right, accept what happens, and speak the truth Compassion & Forgiveness • Just do the right thing. The rest doesn’t matter. Cold or warm. Tired or well rested. Despised or honoured. Busy or not Others • If you stick to your values, you can find fulfilment in anything you do. No one can prevent that • In a sense, people are our proper occupation. Our job is to do them good and put up with them • It’s silly to try and escape other people’s faults. They are inescapable. Just try to escape your own • You’ve given aid and they’ve retrieved it. And yet, like an idiot, you keep holding out for me: to be credited with a Good Deed, to be repaid in kind. Why? • Let it not make one bit of difference if other people blame you for doing what is right • Some people with their resentments are like pigs about to be slaughtered. Kicking and squealing until the bitter end • It isn’t me who is harmed by that. It is you • When someone appears to have tried to harm you, rest assured that he’s already been tried and convicted – by themselves Spirituality & Fear • To be the same in all circumstances • Concentrate on doing what’s in front of you. Do it with justice, precision, and willingness. Free yourself from distractions as if it were to be the last thing you would do on this Earth. Stop letting your emotions and thoughts overwhelm you. If you manage this, that’s all even God can ask of you • Don’t be dependent on anyone else doing something or not doing it • What stands in the way becomes the way • The first step: Don’t be anxious. Nature controls it all • If it’s endurable, then endure it and stop complaining. If it’s unendurable, then your transformation will fix it, so stop complaining General • To read attentively – not to be satisfied with “just getting the gist of it” Letting Go • Objective judgment, now, at this very moment. Unselfish action, now, at this very moment. Willing acceptance, now, at this very moment. That’s all you need • Blot your imagination. Turn your desire to stone. Quench your appetites. Keep your mind centred on itself

As we all trudge or sprint toward our goals, be it self-actualisation, enlightment, awakening or whatever you want to call it. Rest assured, no one is right, and no one is wrong according to Don Miguel Ruiz and I really resonate with all his stuff. What do you think of this from his book "The Mastery Of Love". I think it even applies to Leo, yes even Leo is a dreamer. I know this is not groundbreaking or anything, I think Leo even talks about life being a dream? Not sure.... Your whole life is nothing but a dream. You live in a fantasy where everything you know about yourself is only true for you. Your truth is not the truth for anyone else. Every human being has a personal dream of life, and that dream is completely different from anyone else’s dream. We dream according to all the beliefs that we have. Dreams are never the same for any two people. Every dreamer is going to dream their own way. Might be useful to reflect on this snippet the next time you are debating, arguing, or trying to prove yourself right and someone else wrong

Tips for Preventing Sexual Stagnation in Relationship? First tip would be talk to your partner and not a forum

Thank you. I have signed up.

Thanks for going to the trouble of doing this my friend. I've added myself.

It is something that would be a problem for a farmer who has a lot of land. Nightmare.

I love all those long posts about karma. So the material you quote is from the Isha foundation?

Good stuff my brother. I needed to hear that today

Good topic. Obviously a lot of stuff for you to work on. You've been very honest about how you've judged them. I think you've handled the responses on this thread well also. It's the easiest thing in the world to come onto this thread and say love and accept everyone and just be grateful etc. Much easier to type that than it is to consistently practice it, especially when family are concerned. It is the way to go though. I'm not disputing the essence of the advice given. Progress not perfection my friend. That's a saying we have in AA. The fact you've done a long post tells me you want help to handle this. Take care man, and work on it. David Hawkins Letting go stuff and a lot of the work of Don Miguel Ruiz helped me deal better with some of the same challenges you face here. And AA of course has helped me as what we learn in AA is that resentment is the number one offender and like said here, not everyone has a programme. But it can be tough dealing with our fellow humans at times my brother. Let's not lose sight of that. Even Jesus lost his rag in the temple and went code red on people. Even Jesus didn't stand there and think let me grateful for this, what's the lesson learned lol

I have discovered the formula for stagnating on your spiritual and self-actualising journey. Average day right now for me 6.0 to 6.5 hours sleep time (instead of going for 7.5 to 8.0 hrs which is very achievable as I'm not being bothered by insomnia right now) 0.5 hrs lying in bed after the morning alarm goes off doing nothing but thinking "better get up now". I know meditation & prayer work well for me, but obviously doing something that doesn't work well for me such as lying in bed is more important right now 0.5 hrs to 1.0 hrs working from home as soon as I get dressed in the morning, catching up on my to-do list and admin 0.0 hrs of prayer & meditation in the morning, sacrificing this in service of catching up with work. Same for gym work in the morning. Fasting until about 5pm, partly because I do like the mental clarity it can bring, but mostly because I've binged too much the evening before and am worried about weight gain Overeating between about 5pm and 9pm, telling myself tomorrow will be different 1.0 to 2.0 hrs working from home in the evening instead of relaxing, socialising, and nourishing my spirit and mind and/or exercising. 0.0 hrs of prayer & meditation in the evening because what's the point, I've had an unproductive day, so why try and be productive right at the end With liberal servings of the following throughout the day; blaming of others, procrastinating as if my life depended on it, not doing the right thing, trying to correct other people's bad habits and generally trying my damnedest to live life on my terms. What's that definition of insanity again? I feel like I have the key to a much better life but I am standing at the door unsure whether to unlock it. Paralysed by the fact that I have had the key for a while now. I am at the jumping off point (but not in a suicidal sense). I need to jump off. I can see the safety net there below me and friendly people waiting to greet me. I know I'll land safely, but I am still scared of the drop.

I can relate.