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@mr_engineer Real the book, Integral Relationships.

@Enlightement What i mean by simplicity is ones ability to narrow down and make sense of complexity. The more complexity your able to resolve in ones mind the simpler it all gets. A schizo struggles to narrow down the complexity and cant bring it all together, they get stuck building it up adding more complexity on top of what is already a model that is unorganized or unprocessed. Someone can have a mind that floods them with many connections or a mind that makes very few connections. In both cases what determines simplicity is how effective one is at simplifying the complexity by processing it and bringing it all together. A schizo has a mind that generates many connections with very poor capacity to process it into a coherent model or reality. While autism is really really good at narrowing down complexity into coherence. The average person is somewhere in the middle they are average at connection making and average at processing it. What you said earlier that when your calm things feel simple and when your stressed things feel chaotic is a good example of this, when calm complexity is processed efficiently while stressed ones ability to do so is compromised. Also the type of connections being made changes (baised). To see the simplicity of life the complexity needs to be processed wisely, that usually ends up involving deconstruction at the higher stages and what you get is an experience of profound simplicity all possible by infinite complexity. Simplicity is complexity in coherence. When you finally grasp some hard topic youve been working on for a while suddenly its so simple!

Experiencing simplicity is a super power and with out it a healthy mind cant form. Im seeing this pattern somewhere, autism type have a lot easier time then schizophrenics at seeing the simplicity of life. If we put autism and schizophrenics on a oppose end spectrum, we get a sort of Simple vs Chaos spectrum. Spirituality is in large part your ability to experience simplicity and then experience chaos and see the play between them. Sit there look at the environment around you. NOTHING IS HAPPENING. No one is after you, there are no ghosts around the corner, your finances dont exist, there is no person experiencing, who gives a shit about who gives a shit. Sit there at piece, this is spiritualty 101 sitting in simplicity. Theres no need for years of meditation to understand this, look in any random direction and dont think or interpret it, thats about it, hold that position(mind) and relax into it, its silent.

Totally, I invited a girl once to a kids trampoline jumble gym, she ghosted me lmfao. We need jumble gyms for adults!

A ghost is valuable, TO valuable, never reveal yourself again unless you desire be harvested for human greed. A ghost assumed it was the danger. A ghost was wrong. Dead wrong.

The strategy I use is to have 5-6 good pictures, put them on all the major dating apps that use large profile descriptions and answering personality questions, ill filter religion by spirituality so i only see women of interest all the others are not compatible with me she needs to be minimum green, then i start swiping ONLY looking at profile description NOT pictures. The description tells me all I need to know, ill exhaust all swipes on all the dating apps. The women that swipe back I comment something funny about one of there pictures and schedule a date that week at a restaurant. Done. Extraction complete.

That makes sense, simplicity can also be to be comfortable with the chaos is a sense. I sort of view it as Simplicity = deep rest to build up/conserve energy and Chaos = exploding out with intuition, connections, insights. To be stuck in only chaos causes burn out or slow spiraling down into mental unhealth, got to take a break. Let the energy settle into clarity then jump back into the ocean. Elite athletes operate this way to rest deeply and release all that pent up energy at once for peak performance, then fluctuate back.

Intuition is only as good as the training it received. Open a chess game and play only with intuition, youll loss non-stop for years because there is no foundation behind it. While a pro can use nothing but intuition (no deep thinking) and perform well. Spirituality or any domain is similar, it still takes time to refine ones intuition.

There is one thing about all studies, research and evidence about health no one tells you. That solid high quality sleep, daily consistent high intensity exercise and a great diet is 10x more effective then any medication. There not in the same league. ive seen alot of people on the site over the years with alot of mental health problems of various types, even simple negative thinking and across the board non of them do anything right biologically, so what do people expect?

@trenton I have no idea how to transition out of the 3rd stage (love and belong) as ive never experienced not belonging. So it was given to me for free by family and environment. Most people here will not know how to grow from this stage as they never consciously needed to. Got to read some books on the topic, im not finding good information online.

The view point is unbalance, your conditioned your self to only see the negative in everything, its not all negative. Come back to the impartial center. Also how you feel is far more then some idea in your mind, if your not exercising, if your not taking care of your body and have no body mind connection on how to manage neurochemistry, then the mind will create negative output more then positive. If you where high on lsd or mushrooms you would see only bliss, Thats because how you feel shapes your reality and how you feel is shaped by everything. Take responsibility for all the things that come together to create your feelings. Be practical, exercise! The INFPs kryptonite.

@SQAAD Do you exercise when feeling bad?

@trenton How does Maslow's hierarchy of needs relate to your life, how would you view your situation from that framing?

@Sabth Why are they giving you medication? What reason do they have? What is the full story?

@tezk Good stuff! I wish that solution worked for me, low carb is worse then the inflammation for my body, drains energy to digest heavy foods.

Are you attached to her? Its very likely she will rip your heart out by cheating and doing more hurtful things while at the same time accusing you of being the problem. There's no winning and I get how you feel youve spent alot of time and energy walking on egg shells around her and making sure she is happy, but its unfortunate not a sustainable solution. Chasing her is absolutely wrong, she wants to chase a man she cant tame with her bullshit. Unfortunately your to loving for her, so its a major mismatch. There are people out there that you will connected with so much better and youll look back at all this in hindsight with a smile.

There not smart so why are they more successful? They have a value others dont. A go-getter doesnt give a shit what there doing as long as success is a round the corner and there always chasing it. There selling garbage make money courses that they know dont help people make money and they charge as much as they can for it. That becomes impossible with a different operating system. Being a go-getter is a good value, the smarter you get you can no longer go-get every opportunity like scamming your grandmother, the opportunities narrow.

Thats not what i said.

I agree with what your saying there was a miscommunication, i meant to say "you cant challenge people like her", normally you want to set boundaries but people like her dont understand them so its a waist of time. Just break up with her.

Build things is enjoy making.

She will break up with him instantly, you cannot challenge people like that. Its possible it will flip the narrative as she will put herself in a position to start pleasing him. But its temporary at best.

@Davino The issue with that is I need alot less then <10mg scoops that doent exist. I guess i can scoop 10 mg then cut it in 4 to get 2.5mg dosages.

That doesn't work for people at green or higher, soulless work is very hard to do. Most highly successful business men can sell garbage to the poor and all they see is self-achievement. Often the things that make the most money are low consciousness behavior and to be successful at business thats years of hard work, to sustain that hard work you need intrinsic motivation for what your doing and higher value system arent as well adapted to do that in this financial system. Its like starting a marketing company, the only people who can spend years of there life building that only care about narrow view of personal achievement,

The issue for me is its impossible to motivate myself to make money the way there making it. There values/motivation system aligns with the financial system in a way that allows them to make alot of money. That motivation is not about intelligence, so its not a fair comparison. Smarter people just cant make money in that way.

LMFAO woman arent empathetic when they are in a bad mood, its highly relative on how they feel in that moment. If someone sets off a dislike trigger then there gut tells them that person is better off dead, its only with some work can they step back from there emotions and see things with higher clarity.