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Its also that they need alot of practice as they are highly socially unaware. So for them its a numbers game. For people that already developed good intuition for connection they dont need numbers, they can connect with people pretty easily.

@Adrian colby I have a very similar life experience where at the age of 21 I smoked weed for the first time and experience debilitating headaches that lasted 10 years right after. People told me I was crazy, "weed is safe it cant do that". I then spent that time learning engineering in school and got a good job all with major daily headaches (I had no choice but to push through it). The best guess is it can cause a micro stroke for some people on there first time smoking it, got unlucky. It took a long while before I was able to re-learn how to relax the mind/body and the headaches went away, im guessing the brain had to rewire itself to a new way of working and it took a very long time to do that as I was stuck in one way of thinking/(using the brain). I cant fully relate to this but i do have a sexuality that Im very balanced in both feminine and masculine energy, and can invent what i am attracted to when i want to be attracted to it. So if i wanted to be turned on i just turn my self on with my mind. So there is no fixed preference, i can perceive anything to be attractive with enough imagination. How this might relate to you or to anyone is attraction is a fluid concept that can be focused its energy on anything you set your mind to. The limiting factors are judgment, if your free from judgment then you can open up your attraction to it. So yes im making the claim that a hetero sexual males are programmed young to have inner judgments that are tied to there identity preventing attraction to men. They also dont have any idea how to focus there attraction.

I had a gf that was the same way, would cry and even have panic attacks if the sex became to intense. Its going to be related to unresolved trauma surfacing. Its possible to try having sex with psychedelics to heal sexual trauma. Ive had alot of success with my current gf.

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Its not your fault pumpkin, you didn't know any better.

I dont have anything I regret, I already forgave myself and understand the choices I have made.

LOL we had a big discussion about the ethics of doing that a few years ago. Pets probably want to have sex with us. lol

Yes me to its causes a similar thinking pattern that does not work well for my body. The experience I get is like opening 10 YouTube videos and listening to all of them at the same time, everything gets noise and its hard to exist.

@Bobby_2021 https://www.quora.com/Why-are-there-male-and-female-chess-competitions?no_redirect=1 Woman dont come back to play the game when there older it seems.

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The math doesnt add up, if there where 100x Judit polgars running around then one of them will break the top 10 into the 2800 level. Carson is a prodigy among prodigies, its again a probability issue to discover them and train them young. Im not talking about adding normies, im taking about discovering the prodigies and that cant happen with out a bunch of random females getting in to the game. The assumption starts with people thinking they know what logical capacity is and that men are going to have higher degrees of it innately. The quality that makes someone good at chess exists in both men and woman to a relative similar degree. Its a matter of motivation and passion to direct the mind to a task. Men are more interested in hyper fixating on one thing and woman are less likely to do that.

Thats literally impossible, you need to drop dead for that story to come true. Woman are highly emotional, its the easiest game there is once you learn how they think.

If you never got any results from your attempts, then yes your going to feel like shit as you think there is no possible way it will work. But once you start getting even 1 result, then you can start to see a slimmer of light at the end of the tunnel and thats enough to keep you feeling good, as the possibilities are REAL, there is HOPE, I CAN DO IT, Its only a matter of time! The pain is bad because you have no confidence in your ability to succeed as your not seeing anything working so far. The solution is to increase the volume, the only way to do that is to keep trying over and over, its a numbers game, if you talk to 100 girls, at least 1 will go on a date with you, its basic probability. But you got to put the work in and go out there and talk to as many girls as you can everyday until you get a result.

I had that issue to, as an athiest growing up I assosciated the word god with religious indoctrination. After Leo set me free still saying the word god out load in any relation to me felt wrong as it felt like I was making my self look stupid, I cared about my image to others. The solution was to first become confident in my understanding so that im able to explain these concepts to others easily and the most important part to feel good about what i know/learned and see its value or truthfulness so clearly that I feel its highly intelegent to say outload. lol. Got to believe in your intelegence! Im smart hear me roar!

Non of does girl where interested in you before you asked them out and you should of felt that. First you have to build interest and have the intuition to know they are interested. Most woman i would never ask out because i know they are not interested, its 100% obvious. So you need to completly relearn how to show your value when interacting with women, because right now your not showing it at all. Dont be mistaken, you are valuable, but are terrible at showing it.

Ye hes going to be expressing a mix of red, blue and orange. During his growing up phase he will make a bigger transition to blue to become more communal and he will learn that real respect comes from being a role model, having integrity, being a man of his word and helping does around him. The person he aspires to be is someone like "The Rock". A man who everyone looks up to, who is large in stature, successful, capable but also a good guy. Also he has a inner circle mindset, you need to get into his inner circle he calls friends to be able to give advice he will listen to.

haha yes he only takes advice from people he "respects" or have proven themselves. Stage red values. ESTPs like working out, that guy has to release his emotions out in the gym to calm his mind.

Ideally you need to cut ties with him and as he gets older he will naturally mature. If hes a ESTP then they tend to respond best to highly agreeable people who have some wisdom to add along the way. ESTP like new ideas but it has to be said with out any possible hint of a personal attack, they also only care about what is practical so the wisdom needs to be within that. Once i was boxing a friend and he was getting frustrated during the exchange from not winning, so I said "its not about winning, its about learning" and his perspective shifted and it stuck within him for life. Might also want to check out the book "non-violent communication".

Well it depends on what your weaknesses are and identifying them. At around 1900 there is a lack of a good opening repertoire that only books can really fill that void, because its not about memorizing moves it about learning all the insights and ideas in that opening and the full games that unfold from that opening, so books will teach you the entire games that emerge from the openings in your repertoire of choice as well as provide new wisdom and insights that will stick with you. For every book you read because of the retention books create your rating can go up 50-100 points per book. Next got to master calculation with puzzles and really only learn to make the first move when your 100% you see all the possibilities, no more playing guessing chess, thats a bad habit. Next got to solve alot end game puzzle to clean that up, as its everyone's weakness lol Next got to take the time and figure out where your weaknesses are and that can be hard to find. Write them down and create a training plan to fix them.

Lol no but I did alot of work to get the tactics rating up to the master range. Its possible to basicly be as good as Masters, IM or GM at tactical solving but not as good at actually playing chess. 2200-2400 isnt that far away from your rating, you can easily hit that mark with a good training strategy.

Good points, Intelligence has a very flued component to it that if there is passion and motivation in a pursuit for something its secrets will be unlocked.

Ah no there is a misunderstanding, they banned Tras-men from getting a Woman Chess Title. They can still get a regular Master or IM or GM title. The idea being a if you identify as a man then your not a woman basicly so why would you get a Womans Chess title? Trans-people can play chess, there not banned.

There are many factors that contribute to that, what do you think it is?

Thats pretty good! Is that in the 3 to 5 minute pool? I got to around 2200-2400

That did not explain the exact intelligences that make someone good at chess, it only reiterated your world view. Judit polgar was part of a family of 3 sisters whos father thought them chess at a young age, Judit reached a top rating of 2735 that is 100 points away from Magnus Carlsons top rating of 2882. She achieved that rating is a male dominated player pool. Seeing how 1-3% of chess players are woman we can clearly see that if more woman played chess we would have some amazing top performing chess players emerging. This clearly shows that what people think is "male intelligence" is there inability to understand what intelligence is and a stereotype gender bais projected onto it. "Irrational" emotionally immature woman can still be good at chess. This should shatter any concept people think intelligence is and how it applies to chess.