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I was at the park doing slack line shirtless sweating and doing a work out. Normally, I do this all the time and people talk to me constantly, the people range from older to younger to kids every age range. So I'm talking to a lot of people. Today a girl asked me for my number lol now I already have a girlfriend so it's not going to go anywhere. Basically in reality you want to do everything you can to avoid cold approach and just set yourself up to have good odds. Cold approach is like playing chess on equal footing, but the problem is why in the world would you want to play fair? If you're in a fight with someone to the death, are you going to not use a gun because your opponent is using a knife? Of course not just do what you need to do to win. I get cold approach is useful for self-development, but strategically it's stupid. Never play fair. Instead, go to public places do some interesting shit and talk to a bunch of people, things will work out. You'll enter into social groups and different social activities, you'll build a social network this way. The point I'm making is I'm not trying at all, I do whatever I want to do and people are drawn to me. If you guys are doing 5,000 cold approaches with no results, holly shit STOP. Be strategic instead

If you take her somewere you get your hopes up to have a fun time together, if she is not enjoying herself you feel like you failed.

She keeps calling me and i dont answer phone calls because that is my way of life. 😂 Nothing can be done.

Do you guys want a lift? Now they are stuck in the car with you causing a increase proximity duration causing connection accumulation from saturation.

There's multiple options She feels like she made you take her there and you don't want anything, she feels selfish and using you (unintentionally) She expected a moment together, instead she has to do it alone, abandoned. If you don't get something, she feels like you're judging her for indulging. If you don't get something, you're not part of the team and she feels left out

This is solid advice. I know a few women who are extremely attractive and yet they weren't able to have good sex or even an orgasm until their late 30s because their partners were not able to navigate and connect with them the way they needed to as this video explains very clearly. Its a significant learning curve reaching a point were you can help people through their sexual trauma as a man. And based on all the issues with divorce rates and everything, I assume that vast majority of people are nowhere near this level. Oh and this girl is off the physical spectral attractive🔥 Yet still has insecurities with sex because of an operating system of people pleasing trauma

There's always gonna be humour, laughter and fun involved, don't imagine it as a serious thing. It's playfulness that leads to other doors opening

I ment it in the sense that the social impact of keeping him alive is greater or less than the social impact of his death + martyr status. options Keeping him alive, social impact: ? 30 years of influence Death + martyr status. Social impact: ? trump gets more power Death, Social impact: ? I think using a gun to kill someone is the least effective way because it strengthens the enemy. They have to die in an uncertain and ambiguous way, so there's no fuel added to the fire.

Yes thats what i was talking about. hot escape. 🏃 You make yourself as interesting as possible and make them run after you.

It's interesting how you let that go, because the people I'm observing with this issue cannot let it go, they cannot be even told that they have a problem, they experience it as "the world should be" and they fight everyday to get it. If something is disorderly the experience is "I am tolerating this" and then they have an ego of "I'm such a tolerant person for allowing this".

My Te is strong but by it being strong it means I'm in full control of it and it doesn't control me. In my place, I have one plate one bowl one fork, i dont put them back in the drawer because I use them every day. Putting them in the drawer and even having drawers is an inefficiency, why would I want to open and close the drawer? People have drawers because they want to hide things to keep it clean, that "cleanness" is a intolerance, an emotional resistance, and the experience of clutter. Clutter is something that people experience and suffer from. I can have a messy home and it means nothing to me. But my Te is very strong, Everything is optimized for the least steps. An empty shed is not an efficient shed, that's an intolerance to clutter. But I do prefer emptiness over clutter, and will choose the least amount of stuff as possible. I would make my house a big open space when nothing in it lol so I could run freely. It becomes a problem when the environment is perfectly fine and everyday they find something they can't tolerate and has to change. If my bowl is in the drawer I don't suffer everyday because of it.

How do we know if silencing someone is worse than making them a martyr?

i am, but i dont know if its OCD, im so used to it it just seems like its there value system? I get the impression everyone lives like this, they have their fixed values married to their ego and then they on a daily basis have a negative emotion when ever they face there values conflicting in the real world.

omg this legendary link drop, we need a lord fall gpt asap, why would i use anything else 😂

chronic suffering from an environment that is by any reasonable standard fine.

Seedance 2.5

@Leo Gura I noticed that you're only posting to Instagram, right now I have the option to post to six or seven platforms all the same time, short form videos and long-form videos. Is there any reason not to do this? Why did you target Instagram specifically? And why did you choose not to push to the other platforms at the same time?

The biggest problem with approaching people is you dont really want to talk to them I want to talk to people i actually want to talk to. 🤯

https://youtu.be/07TNr9EtksE?si=lBnFOHJVRwa1YUe- This guy seems legit

@LordFall do you have a link to a map of cold approach? One of the resources that you linked previously was pretty good on pick up, but im looking for a map of cold approach strategies all in one place.

LMFAO I'm sure they are, I don't know how much of what they're doing is skill vs other ascpects like natural personality. I Don't know if one size fits all. The pick up cold approach fantasy doesn't feel like it works for a lot of different types of people, to unnatural to them

But are the results people get from cold approach alone as good as what I'm describing? And if it is, is it because a person has qualities that make them good at cold approach? I feel like one size doesn't fit all

That makes sense but like I see guys like @Majed struggling to get results and doing crazy numbers of approaches. It's better just to focus on a different strategy

That makes perfect sense, it's a strategic conversation about cold approach, Where you set yourself up so people come to you instead of you going to them.

ya know I'm old, bald, my abs are gone, I got plenty of fat around my waist, didn't shave my back or my chest lmfao 😆 5"8 I'm not out there like some chiseled God but i do have some muscle. Dude sometimes I grow like these singular crazy long back hairs, that I can't even see or reach lmfao