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@Preety_India Have you tried it? Just act until you make it, its always been a play. Cheating is part of the paradigm, the idea exist because monogamy does not truly reflect human needs. Our instincts are to sexually engage and love multiple people simultaneously. Relationships contracts are a reflection of fear, not love. We are on actualized.org forums, we are here to grow, the advice given on relationship is great and valuable to survive, but why stop there when we can escape the game entirely? I agree that different stages have different needs, they all have there purpose, but they are good relatively, the higher stage is better if possible. We need to help people grow not survive. Both our methods are valid here. 1) giving people the tools they need at the stage there at, to be healthy at the stage there at. 2) introduce them to the next stage, a bigger picture. They are both needed.

@Roy Its not that hard, being exposed to the most conscious perspective/solution is necessary. Gurus dont help people navigate there circumstances, they show them that there circumstances are ridiculous.

@Roy @Preety_India Love and care is not dependent on relationships. The "i am in a relationship" perspective is one where 2 people sign a unspoken contract with each other. Breaking the rules of that contract = suffering. This is the insanity. Going meta means designing this contract from scratch, to something realistic, not to what culture has mandated. lmao, great analogy, but not at all what im talking about. All of this is 2 immature people applying methods to "make" a relationship work, by navigating each others flaws. Maturity means independence and oneness, there is no need to receive anything from anyone and love is given with out attachment or requirements. A mature relationship understands the impermanence of the relationship, the individuals do not want or need anything from each other. The relationship is dissolved, there is only 2 people enjoying the time they have together with 0 expectations. Codependency is a spectrum, your view of it is from the right "unhealthier" position. where your views on what a "healthy" relationship looks like is more left on a "healthier" position, both sides of the spectrum are dependency, the entire spectrum no longer applies from higher paradigms. From stage green and lower all relationships are built on dependency/survival needs. Just because something is common does not make it sensible. "Normal" relationships that the masses pursue are unhealthy at its foundation but very useful for survival in there life conditions. The relationship that your advocating is healthiness relatively. There is a conflation of relationships and human instinct. They are not bound to each other. Relationships are contracts of human design. Do not put energy finding reasons why your world views are correct, instead take a step back and view them from a larger lens. Monogamy = "If you dont behave exactly how i want, i will suffer", this is foolish, outdated and indoctrinated into you by culture. Everything that your advocating is tooling to force relationships to work with a broken foundation. Fix the foundation and you wont need the tooling.

Bodybuilding, this is a long term investment to your body. Bodybuilding increases the number of mitochondria in each cell as well as lowering insulin resistance and many other things. It literally makes you biologically younger. Build up the body to the athletic level, the amount of energy you will produce physically and cognitively are incomperable to your current state.

@Roy Sacrificing in relationships is foolishness. This entire thread is filled with unhealthy co-dependent relationship talk. Blindly walking the path culture has told you to be. GO META. Wake up.

Where is this love coming from? Isnt this ego?

I was chosen for glory, by youtubes algorithms.

"The world will remember your name"

@Khr makes sense, but arent we all here to grow? At the least its healthy to be exposed to the path forward for growth even if its impractical. Seeing the foundation of his desires could free him from them. He should reinvent it because doing so solves his current problems. Its a sustainable solution. Staying in the paradigm is just running in circles. The problem if "solved" will just become something else.

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@Preety_India why not reinvent what a relationship is? Grow out of the need for loyalty and commitment. Change the paradigm.

@Onemanwolfpac This is the way to go about a relationship indoctrinated into us by culture. Its cultural.

You dont own her, she can do what ever she wants. Its not your responsibility to control her actions. Monogamy exists because of human insecurities. Its not a sustainable way to go about a relationship. Really try to look within and figure out why your so attached to this person. You dont love her, you love yourself, she doesnt love you, she loves herself.

Most people i introduce to leos content are turned off by how aggressive his communication style is. They would rater listen to someone that resonates higher emotions.

His channel is packed with content like this... He experiences dmt trips with just meditation, no dmt... His GF "masturbated her way into realization sinse she was 3 years old"... trying to figure out how exactly we will go about teaching this in our future education reforms :).

@Akemrelax https://www.objectivepersonality.com/home

@Akemrelax sorry just came from a similar thread about mbti, now that leo has pushed mbti onto the forum, Doubter threads likes this one are going to pop up every week. non-stop. This one is the 3rd so far in the past few days. It takes years of practice to properly integrate these maps, to reach a point where we can sea the patterns accurately. All of these maps like SD,mbti... are deeply interconnected. There are valuable insights found when merging them. https://integrallife.com/what-is-integral-approach/

@Akemrelax This is what intuition gets you with out putting any actual work into the subject. Quick to form beliefs and spread them. These are learning disabilities. Beliefs formed at the highest confidence point...

The cognitive functions represent questions your constantly asking yourself consciously and subconsciously. Leos video on asking high quality questions applies here. Learn how to ask high quality questions, ask them repeatedly until they become automatic/subconscious.

Any of you INFJ relate to this guy? Hes INFJ Ni-Ti dominant.

@Lyubov Its impossible to change type. Judging from your picture your INFP the thinking youve been doing is your 4th function Te. We are all obsessively funneling all our cognitive energy into our dominant functions. The reward system is wired to do this from birth. Straying from it is draining and short lived.

@IJB063 this might help, the difference between MBTI that tracks cognitive functions and The Big 5 that tracks behavior. We use all our brain regions just some far more then others. Its possible with training to use a combination of brain regions we are not genetically predisposed to. But you will never be able to complete with the natural. It will always be less efficient to use. For example in the chess world, The INTJ and ENTJ Types completely dominate the game. This is because the Ni and Te cognitive functions are most effective for the type of processing/thinking used in chess. No one can compete with these 2 types at chess when they apply themselves at the game. Its the same for other activities. Personalty type = cognitive functions Personality = character = behavior example: 2 people could be born as the INTJ personality type and behave completely differently.

@IJB063 Aspects of the brains reward system are set at birth, people use specific brain regions more often then others. It is draining for them to use there brain any other way. MBTI is about the brain regions people use predominantly to function in the world, it is not about the behavior/character they act out. This is why we see the same personalty type with people with completely different personalities. MBTI does not track behavior. Its about the root of the persons brain structure.

@IJB063 Someones personality type cannot change, because it has nothing to do with that persons knowledge/maturity/development, it has to do with the brain structure people are given at birth. It is genetic. MBTI is about the cognitive funcitons, the letters mean nothing.