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I cant even fart on LSD. There is a need but it doesn't come out.

She does not have a secure attachment style, this means she is constantly asking the question "Does he love me?" or "Can I Trust him?". Then you come along and temporarily put her mind at easy and reassure her. She detaches again and asks the question "Does he love me?", stuck in a state always unsure of the relationship, a wall that is erected preventing deeper connection. This contributes to lies or telling half truths avoiding deeper intimacy. The reason for this is she is bringing the relationships she had with her parents growing up into all her friendships and intimate relationships in adulthood. When she put trust and seeked love from her parents they betrayed her, she could not rely on them and so feels she cannot rely on anyone. That same wall is between you guys now. For someone with a secure attachment style we don't even think about it, there is no evidence that would suggest the partner lacks integrity, is unreliable or cant be trusted, but for her no matter how many times you prove to her you love her and that she can trust you its not enough, she defaults to separation, how she feels about you is always in question. There can be fear of abandonment leading to a need to remain detached from a partner to protect one self, a preventative measure. On the subject of integrity, her parents likely lacked it and that means she lacks it. Becarful of that because it leads to some very hurtful acts and double standards. HAHA a hopeless optimist , Great talk glad it was useful!

Like I said earlier the kind of guy she will end up dating is one that does not challenge her. That means a guy that does not talk about psychology or who wants to go meta all the time, go deeper all the time into everything. She's not ready for meta talks yet, it challenges her beliefs and so are personal attacks. This is the main reason she experiences you as always negative. Of course your not the negative one she just cant relax and see how going meta is fun in that moment because everything is a threat! Another issue is your addicted and hooked on going meta, finding deeper insights into everything so its a really bad fit and a major incompatibility in the relationship. A better fit is going to be a simple guy that makes her laugh and talks about mundane things and whos lost in Maya like her. She needs to be in maya for a while until she is ready to peak her head out on her own time when curiosity hits and is emotionally comfortable and ready for it. While on the other hand your a Whac-A-Mole sniper that slams her head in with a hammer when she peaks her head out or even worse you jam your hand in the hole and rip her out of the illusion when she's sleeping, its stressful being woken up. When you date someone at your level it just all clicks, you have a insight, you say it and they get a dopamine hit from it, they bounce off your ideas with there own, they view you as a super star, its synergy that creates love. As a rule make sure she is feeling comfortable and relaxed before introducing meta topics, the mood has to be right and use language that will not be interpreted as a threat, the rest of the time and most of the time keep is mundane and fun, she's not ready and needs to peak her head out at her own pace. ??? The reason I'm appearing like an all knowing oracle right now (who im not) is because we are actually very similar and your in a very similar situation to the one I was in with a past gf, who after the break up left me completely puzzled and seeking deeper answers. Now I'm giving you does answers. Hot cold hot cold. It was good for you but not for her. Your so healthy you turn everything into a positive ending, she doesn't and has selective negative memory. When she remembers things she remembers negative things more predominantly then positive things. While you remember things fairly, balanced or positively. That's a result of a loving childhood, a gift. She didnt receive that gift. Also your in a healthier state of mind and extract the positive from every negative experience. Another note is even if you help her, even if she makes huge progress with you because of her terrible memory she wont credit it back to you, she wont remember how she changes, who she was before and after she changed. The memory she is experiencing is like a fleeting dream, forgotten and inaccurate. She remembers how she feels about that memory right now in the present moment. The details of the memory are distorted to fit how she feels right now. Its a radical thing and she will only remember the negative memories. I think your doing the best that you can and if your learning and constantly improving then the relationship has served its purpose, relationships are rapid growth facilities bringing us into closer alignment with love, purging us of all of our luggage. Its natural to want the relationships to work out and to do what ever you can to make it work. Do what you can, maybe find her therapy that can target childhood trauma. The type of questions your asking it seems like she is destined to self destruct and its not your fault. There is a incompatibility and its not your fault. Its a trap to over adapt to her every need, it will leave you feeling suppressed long term and like your always walking on egg shells around her. At some point your going to show resistance and it will fall apart by your own hands. It was unavoidable despite your best efforts. Does she know or acknowledge her trauma? Her hyper sensitivity? If she is blaming your for being negative there is likely a gap in her self-awareness. She has to some how become aware of this but its a level 10 threat, so pick peak premium opportunities to crack that nut. She's not into psychedelics but that would put her in a peak state of love and acceptance where resistance/blockages melts away and allows for complete comfort and a openness she has never experienced before, a break through opportunity. It can be worth more then 10 years of therapy.

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Do people actually succeed doing that? It seems things find a way to heal indirectly?

Well ok lmao, there's got to be a genetic component to that or a fake news component.

I wouldn't know exactly, attraction is a very primitive process and we tend to want complex answers to explain it. Leo covers this topic in the "how to get laid" videos.

Are you familiar with the practice of Non-Violent communication? She seems to be very sensitive to the words "you" and "I" and experiences it as a personal attack and competition, the ember is defensiveness. It can be tricky but a possible way she can rewire this pattern is to have positive experiences when ideas are exchanged instead of negative ones, in this case you would have to play the right melody when introducing topics. Its possible repetition of good experiences over time will rewire the habit she has but in my experience I could not get it to work so its definitely tricky. Another thing I've seen improve these kind of things from personal experience is couples psychedelic experiences that creates deep bounding and psychedelic sex. She will become more comfortable and open with you, her guard will come down, your no longer a threat. She also experience things that challenges her beliefs as personal attacks, her beliefs are a reflection of her, when she introduces an idea she believes she is putting her ego on the line, so challenging them is challenging her. A masculine mind doesn't do this as much, but in the end communication, beliefs and "logical thinking" is people justifying how they feel with ideas. Logic, ideas and reasons are to justify emotions. Its counterintuitive for the masculine mind that emotions is what your communicating to a the feminine mind not ideas. How she feels is more important then what is true, the truth is how she feels in that moment. Even if she acknowledges the truth and agrees with you if she did not feel good about the conversation she will forget the truth in time and default to her previously held beliefs. When it comes to survival in her position when she decides she has to "not like you anymore" the negative emotions craft a image of you that does not represents the truth of who you are or any of the good you did for her. Actually all the good you did for her will make her feel self reassuring when she thinks about it because she will frame it as "he was always negative all the time", depending if she is in self-denial she will literally frame it as you where always negative and the cause of drama. Its one possible way women go about break ups. There is often childhood trauma involved with this kind of behavior in adulthood, have you asked her about her past? It can be related to growing up with parents that blame and accuse a lot and her needing to constantly deflect false accusations they put on her.

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@UnbornTao Nice he even mentioned Leo!

Maybe making it illegal is a stretch but i would say we need major credit and loan protection in place to protect people from poor financial decisions. People need protection that prevents them from entering into debt. The American dream is not working for everyone. The majority live pay check to pay check while others eventually declare bankruptcy, your over focused on the minority that have high paying jobs, no one is giving people a financial education.

Ye I'm not pointing to a conspiracy I'm saying the business model of the banks is to get you to take out a loan. The reason it works out for people is because they are investing in the house market and it worked out for them because it keeps doubling every 10 years. If that was not the case it would be a clear cut terrible financial decision to take out a loan. People can develop skills and work a moderate to high paying job and make a lot of money as long as they don't increase there living expenses as they make more money (what everyone does another trap). There are traps everywhere. If you want to be rich you need assets not liability and you need to maximize income and lower expenses. People do the opposite. Children and a house are liabilities.

Thats the illusion and only true for upper middle class who work there ass off to keep there financials high. It all comes crashing down with any financial set back. They dont own the house they are living in, its a huge liability. The real reason this entire thing has worked for some is because the housing market miraculously keeps going up year after year, its not because taking out loans is a good financial strategy.

Yes they have no business owning homes, its a fake luxury designed to keep you poor and a wage slave. The credit system is designed to milk you. Most people in todays society would be wise to find a group of people they get along with that all work and live in the same place together to minimize expenses as much as possible. Having children is financial suicide, another trap people living in a unrealistic fantasy think they have the random luxury to afford, people cant afford children.

Exactly and you shouldnt have a home and a house if you need take out a loan, getting your own house was never an option to begin with its a foolish decision, a trap set infront of you to keep you poor by banks. Dont be a fool and live beyond your means.

Exactly don't buy a car or house when you cant afford it. Ridiculous. Save up, make money, succeed then buy a car and house.

Got to change the addiction to self-development, hit the gym and get addicted to physical strength progress, read a book get addicted to new insights and intelligence so on, practice socializing and get addicted to enhanced social skills. There isn't much else to do about all this but to get addicted to the healthy stuff.

We need to pause and develop AI that can help us understand and develop AI.

Can you provide timestamps of the exact moments, its a long video.

Ah ok all good, so whats the problem? What are your current expensive did you take out a mortgage to buy a house with your wife? If your living expenses are low you can pay off your loan is less then a year if you salary is over 70k. Don't fall for the trap of raising your living expenses as you make more money. Watch video and calculate your liability's, assets, expenses and income. --- BTW 7% interest is EXTREMELY BAD. Pay that off ASAP. That's compound interest, So every year you pay 4k that then contributes to the next years interest so you'll be like 5k on the second year.

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Great video, so the solution here is to us AI to help us understand AI so we can develop safe AI. To make magic we need a wand!