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Oh I agree, -> "you can enjoy life and play but you're directing it on purpose to what matters to you." It doesn't need to be an achievement or a hot girl or anything socially acceptable. It can be Sitting in a cave in solitude, this can be peace at the being level or it can be apathy. Normally if there's apathy the person isn't aligned with their values and something's off and if they deny it to themselves because of a spiritual ego then they are doing some kind of avoidance.

https://www.facebook.com/reel/1054632474409648 https://www.facebook.com/reel/1017313837288136 https://www.facebook.com/reel/1005089649056890 https://www.facebook.com/reel/1618085662627470 Each video is the same situation. One healthy frame, one unhealthy frame. 0. It is very hard to change the narrative long term when one person holds the unhealthy frame. There are physiological, trauma, and habitual reasons they hold it. It is rare to get them to change no matter how well you show up. They default back. Most people do not have the growth mindset to hold a higher frame. So all the work you put into them does not stick. Two ideas sound like they contradict. They don't. 1. The point of life is engagement. The destination is empty. You get the money, the goal, the thing you chased, and it feels like nothing the second you get it. Being in something fully is the point. Deep in your work, fun with people and friends in the moment. Deep with one person. Deep in training your body. Its in the process. 2 Most people will eat your time and energy and never meet you there. You are in the middle of something that matters and they pull you into noise. You give and give and nothing comes back. You lift someone's frame by putting self-development work into it and they drop it in a week because they default. People think you have to pick. Engage with everyone, or pull back to protect yourself. That is a false choice. Selectivity is not the opposite of engagement. Who is worth your energy? You can't go deep with everyone. So you go deep with the few who can actually meet you at your level. So what you have to do is not engage less but to engage fully and choose wisely. High standards are not a retreat from life. They are how you make sure your full engagement lands on the right people, instead of getting drained by them and there chaos.

How about we tax the rich instead. All of this is a distraction from the root problems we all face.

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My blessed individuals. I have traveled far for the second time to be with you in this land to present de with a superior opinion. .✨ The way you differentiate a cult from a not-cult is by identifying its core values. You have to separate two layers: the extrinsic values that are superficially present, the stuff it advertises, the label, from the intrinsic values that are actually operating, which are usually unconscious to the cult itself and to its members. Once you label those correctly, you get a clear picture of what the thing actually is, and whether it's a cult. --- Most of this thread is trying to figure out what a cult is by looking at the symptoms. Leo's unfalsifiable epistemology is a symptom of the core values of the organization. That doesn't mean it's a cult. And the end of the day we got to ask what makes a value high or low? The domain is axiology. But that domain is pretty Limited, and Leo has his high consciousness axiology. "truth as the highest value" and so on.

My blessed individuals. I have traveled far to be with you in this land to present de with a superior opinion. .✨ The way you differentiate a cult from a not-cult is by identifying its core values. You have to separate two layers: the extrinsic values that are superficially present, the stuff it advertises, the label, from the intrinsic values that are actually operating, which are usually unconscious to the cult itself and to its members. Once you label those correctly, you get a clear picture of what the thing actually is, and whether it's a cult. --- Most of this thread is trying to figure out what a cult is by looking at the symptoms. Leo's unfalsifiable epistemology is a symptom of the core values of the organization. That doesn't mean it's a cult. And the end of the day we got to ask what makes a value high or low? The domain is axiology. But that domain is pretty Limited, and Leo has his high consciousness axiology. "truth as the highest value" and so on.

reply I'm pointing to this because it's a possibility. I feel the same way you do when it comes to relationships.

@tsuki Right what was happening was I was following the line of your position during the entire thread. So that was mixed into this separate question. The Gottman research: stable relationships run roughly 5:1 positive-to-negative interactions; the ones that dip toward 1:1 predictably fail. So "a good relationship doesn't tend excessively toward negative emotion" is a strong predictive heuristic. So it's a useful generalization to measure relationship health and this is to try to defeat a useful generalization with a single Counterpoint. The Counterpoint is true but we're talking about looking at the same elephant from different perspectives.

Nihilism runs along the lines of: why do anything if we're going to die anyway? The answer is: The point of life isn't the destination, it's enjoying the journey. Outer game = building the external life (get the hot girl) Inner game = the capacity to actually enjoy it Outer, no inner → I got everything and I'm still not happy Inner, no outer → peace, but nothing built Both → I can make the best of any situation But There are two completely different things that look the same from the outside, both involve stepping back from people: Retreat into apathy → "Why engage? It's all pointless, people drain me, nothing matters." This is inner game collapsing into nihilism. It's defeat, a mask of peace. Being selective → "I can fully engage, I can enter play mode and enjoy people, and I'm choosing who and what is worth my energy. " This is inner game plus outer game. Fully engaging with life, you can enjoy life and play but you're directing it on purpose to what matters to you. People mistake apathy for enlightenment/peace. it's about the internal state masquerading as a higher one. "I just don't care anymore" gets relabeled as "I've transcended, I'm at peace, I don't need these things.". We mistake apathy as enlightenment The deception is apathy pretending to be wisdom. "I don't care" -> "I'm above it." Taking a low state (not caring, no energy, given up) and reframing it as a high state (peace, presence, non-attachment, enlightenment).

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1. You're right that we have to teach people to self-regulate which is to be at ease with yourself as a process of growing up. Basically become a mature person In practice though It Isn't So Clean, people are in different moods throughout the day and even healthy people can be a different moods and could get into fights or get stuck in a negative frame. If you're dealing with a partner who is constantly negative and putting you down no amount of self Mastery is going to help you. It's the death by a Thousand Cuts, eventually you need to cut them off or create effective change. It's possible to create change and to lead your partner to self-regulate but how to do this is counterintuitive. 2. Most people enter relationship trying to get their needs met by the other person, Instead of showing up where they're taking responsibility for the needs of their partner as well as their own. Love is taking their best interest at heart, but it's so twisted and difficult to get right. It's so easy to get this wrong because if someone doesn't appreciate what you're doing for them you're actually not giving them any love even though from your perspective it feels like you're giving them love. For example paying for things may feel like love to you but for them if they don't appreciate it then they're not actually receiving anything. Or if you're being very nice and every time they have a tantrum you comfort them and let them walk all over you and you keep repeating this, while the problem is they don't appreciate what you're doing for them and in fact there demonizing you as the problem of there suffering. The right way to give love is often boundaries and to not let them dig themselves into a hole where they demonize you to begin with. 3. A big part is for you to focus on yourself and on your own mission in life and you're on happiness and then that will translate to how you show up that then translates to how she feels and her vibe and then she will naturally come back into alignment. When you focus on being your best self and plowing through life and doing the things you enjoy, it will naturally show up in how you engage in the relationship and through life and people are highly sensitive to this, and they'll follow and go with the best vibe This isn't perfect and if you have financial problems or other problems like that that can easily be resolved then if your partner is simply isn't mature it's going to be very difficult. It also makes it very easy to set boundaries because you're not dependent. 4. Side note most of pickup and attraction is just statemaxxing, being in your best state and that effects the entire hallucination including how you make everyone feel. Your best state is play.

omg why am i enjoying this 😭 Im pretty sure i wasnt wrong yet

omg is one of these excellent chaps CARL? back in the ruinscape era

@Carl-Richard that "or" made a world of difference i can see why it was necessary 😂 hahahah What exact emotion is that in figure 1?, if you would be so kind? Not figure 2 that one i fully understand.

My writing style isn't the best that's for sure

When someone feels not understood and misrepresented they then try to seek clarity and then when that Clarity is denied over and over they then get frustrated When they get frustrated they're diagnosed as lacking emotional intelligence, Given a video of Owen explaining how to engage with life fully and told that they aren't bowing down gracefully 😂 We're both arrogant that's for sure

Is the problem inaction and passivity? If your girlfriend's in another country and you're sitting at home smoking weed. Clearly you got to just get on the plane and go.

The closer you are to infinite imagination the further you are from being human

We didn't connect and that's okay. Take more time trying to understand what people are saying next time.

I understand that I got defensive trying to represent my position, I won't do it again. Take care guys.

I did not say he thinks he's Superior, that he's placing himself as the expert while misrepresenting what other people say and diagnosing them as victims. While then pulling Tony Robin positivity paragraphs making everyone fall in love with him. it's because you're reading things with a negative tone of voice. Nor am I being playful right now. Because Tony Robbins decided to misrepresent everything i said, like I haven't been doing self development my entire life. It's great that you're getting incredible free life coaching session from someone. I didn't know that was what I was supposed to be doing. I didn't know this was a competition.

I asked him that question for him to reflect, not because I don't understand the answer. I'm not here to babysit people, I said something cuz I'm casually speaking. You're writing virtuous paragraphs like your Tony Robbins, I'm not doing that right now.

Do you honestly think my hidden intention was to make myself feel good by impressing you with how much sex I have gotten in my life? While LordFall talks about the 50 women he slept with?