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If yes,why? I fundamentally believe that the life of a person who is pushing humanity forward is worth more than the life of a serial killer who's psyche is so destroyed that he'll never recover and live a normal life as a functioning member of the society.The same applies to the animal kingdom.The life of a dying lion is not worth more than the life of a newly born lion. This might seem like an evil and selfish thing to believe,and I don't contradict that.However,this is where I am in my development and I need to be honest with myself and not try to judge my beliefs as being bad.This question is peeking my interest and I just can't twist my mind around it.I'm orange-green for the record. Will I only be able to understand why every life is worth the same only when I'll have enlightenment experiences or could I rationalize and truly understand it through thought?

Hello! Could meditating while lying down be harmful? I'm meditating 30 minutes per day lying down in my bed.My head is on my pillow and my body is facing the ceiling.Recently I've noticed that the back of my head starts to hurt because of this.Not dizziness or head pain,but the exterior back of my head hurts because of the pressure on the pillow during the meditation session.How should I continue meditating so this problem will go away?(I want to continue to meditate lying down because of reasons).

As the title goes,I've having a hard time figuring it out how to make other people get into self development.I'm afraid that if I go wrong about presenting this idea to my friends or family,they'll forever dismiss it in their mind by being close minded or if they do accept the idea,they won't take it seriously enough and just drop it later on. It pains me to see how the life of the people I care are turning slowly but surely into sh*t.I've benefited a lot from doing a few techniques and just watching videos from Leo and Teal Swan,but I'm afraid that the people I want to present it to will find their videos weird or just consider them scams.It is worth pointing out that I'm not very persuasive,I'm more of an introverted person and I'm not very good at trying to get people on board with this domain,especially if they being close minded. The persons I'd like to convince are either blue-orange or orange, with a few shades of green here and there(from what I could notice).Lately,I'm thinking about introducing my older brother(he's 28,mostly orange,some blue and some green mixed in there,in a 9-5 job with pretty good income,has a gf...he is a normal decent guy) to Leo's channel.I've got a few videos in mind that I know that would make him interested in this type of content but I fear that he might stumble across the more "weird" videos about psychedelics,what God really is,enlightenment and he'll completely categorize his channel as a scam.He believes in the Christian God,in the teachings of Christianity ,and I'm sure he'll have a negative reaction to these videos. For the record,he opened himself up to the idea of practicing meditation,because he heard this idea from a friend psychologist and I also talked to him about meditation and how I practice it.Also,he has seen me watching videos from Leo,I just never told him about what he's talking about.Why I really want to convince him is because I'm noticing how he's secretly suffering, how he denies that and how he runs away from his emotions.He's an awesome guy,he's among the people I deeply respect and care for..and I really love him and the thought of letting him walk down that path makes me feel really sad,and guilty. Please,practical answers.Also,if you managed to convince persons close to you to get into self help,I'd highly appreciate hearing the story.

@SOUL How do you do walking meditation?

What I'd to is make him watch the following video I'm about to give you and tell him to have an open mind while watching it.

This topic might be weird and useless but I don't know how to interpret this.For the past 20+ days I saw at least a dead pigeon per day for no apparent reason.No pesticides or toxic substances have been sprayed in my city nor the pigeons are being hunted or something.I also traveled in different cities and seen dead pigeons.I keep trying to find a logical explanation for this,but I can't.At first,I got sentimental about this,but as the days went by I became numb. Is this just a sad persisting coincidence?I'm not into attaching meaning to events,but this starts to disturb me and I don't know how to stop this.

@FrgttnDeer I just read about it on Wikipedia.So,according to this concept, I am part of some sort of paranormal event?

@Emerald Yes,most of the time.I can't open up to anyone to be honest.I also feel trapped in my current life situation.

@Spiral Please,read more carefully next time.I specified that the person I want to help has a girlfriend,and its successful in his domain of work,just not happy.

@see_on_see I can agree with everything you just said,expect for the last sentence. Doesn't make any sense to me.Self help isn't widely known,many people don't even think such a thing exists.If your pair of shoes are getting old,you'll go to the shop and get a new pair,because you know that a shoe shop exists.If you wouldn't know such a place even exists,you'll probably walk barefoot.The same applies to self help as well.If you'd see someone on the verge of killing himself ,you would not help that person because they haven't reached for self help earlier and that they are not ready(supposing that in this scenario you are psychologist)?Of course you'd help him.

@fluidmonolith Your reply actually inspired me,I highly hope that the same will happen for me. @DocHoliday Could you please explain what "differentness" means in this context?It means that if I'd truly love someone I wouldn't try to fix him in any way and that I would let him be as he is with all the misery and suffering in his life?Or does it refer to the fact that we should accept and love others despite their psychological development and personal preferences about anything that they might have?

@PhilGR I'd be so happy if he'd made it this far :).

@DocHoliday I see,so the power of example eh?This will be another reason for me to grow myself. Still,life is short.I feel guilty for not being able to help my older brother by being a sufficiently good example of someone who is pursuing self development,but I think that's my problem lol. Thanks for the answer.

Check out Completition Process,by Teal Swan(it's a book).It helps you heal your emotional body.

Before going into details I have low self-esteem and I don't really like myself. It is hard for me to improve myself and start taking action.Not because I am lazy but because I live not to be happy,but to avoid pain.It seems impossible for me to be happy.I bought The Six Pillars of Self Esteem,read it and start doing exercises...but I'm not excited at all.I don't really think of myself capable of raising my self esteem.The only thing I do is meditate daily,but not necessarily to raise my awareness,but to prevent myself to become more miserable. Self love might be the answer to my problem.One of the ways of implementing self love is by appreciating yourself and generally have positive thoughts about yourself.So I sat down and started thinking about positive traits about myself..a few things popped up,but hear me out. One of the things was that I love and care about my family.I rationalized this idea by saying that the only reason I love them is because my survival depended on them and they still take care of me..So I concluded that I'm a selfish motherfucker because my "love" for them exists only because they do things for myself....me me me. Another one is that I'm calm.But the reason I'm calm is because I've rejected and disowned my emotions since I was a child. Another one is that I'm polite to people.But I'm polite because I crave for approval and fear to death rejection and humiliation.

Hello! I'm looking for ways to increase my self worth.How do I do that?Please practical answers and not "there is no self so increasing your self esteem and self worth is useless" like of answers...-_- I realized that basing my self worth on external factors is not healthy for my mental health.Also..how do I discover my values and personal qualities?(yes,I know that this kind of things are in Leo's course but for objective reasons I can't buy it..for now).Again..please practical answers and not theory that you've heard from other people and decide to splash it here...

I am a very pesimistic person that always expects the worst case scenario and have negative thoughts all day long.Needless to say that these thoughts create A LOT of anxiety,stress and apathy... Is implementing a habit of forcefully changing my negative thoughts into positive ones and overall try not to do low consciousness activities my solution?Or is there some deeper issue of why I am thinking negatively that needs to be addressed? While writing this post I realized that somehow...I kind of enjoy my pain.For example I feel better when listening to a sad song than listening to a happy song.I like it because it gives me some sense of self pity and somehow hope that others will pity and love me for being sad. How do I deal with this? I expect answers which will focus more on my self pity problem.I do want such answers,but please don't disregard my question about positive thinking,I really need an answer about that.

@YaNanNallari how can I do that?

Read The Six Pillars of Self Esteem.Really good book.

@star ark I don't really understand what you were trying to point to.Could you please elaborate? Edit:Sorry,I haven't read your last reply.So,you are telling to do stuff that will improve my life every day no matter the inner dialogue?

That right there is the most damaging limiting belief I have.I realized that today.This is why is so hard for me to do anything..I can barely get myself to meditate and study..why become a better person if I don't deserve it? Yeah yeah..I know that beliefs are not necessarily true(most of the time) but that doesn't help me. I am dealing with self hatred..I honestly believe that the world would have been such a better place without me in it,and I haven't done anything horrible to anybody.I also procrastinate on everything..even eating or playing a fucking video game.I bought Psycho Cybernetics a few weeks ago..read only 1 chapter ever since. I am really stuck I don't know what to do.I tried Leo's visualization on self acceptance for a couple of weeks,with no effect.Tried the visualization on contemplating my own death.. didn't impressed me..at least if I die I won't suffer anymore... What does it take for someone to deserve happiness?What does it take for someone to deserve anything really?

@Rinne @Rinne I am meditating 20 minutes every day. Could you please talk about more about consciously breathing?How and when do you do that?

Check out Real Swan.She's got a video on anger.I think Leo has one too..watch them both. How old are you by the way? As practical advice,implementing a meditation habit or doing shadow work should help.

@ajasatya could you please give a little more detail on that? Mindfulness and Zen.What have you done exactly?

I would like to start a shadow work practice.Are there any books that talk about shadow work and how to actually do it?