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Democracy has its limits. I remember back in high school people could vote for the "smartest kid" just before we graduated. And the results were published in the year book. It was really beyond cringe. The same was done for the most "handsome guy" and most "beautiful girl" and some other things. It was terrible because it also turned into this big ego game. These contests and naming people "the best this or that" is probably fun, but also a waste of time

Alcohol makes things "easier" for me. Because I start to care less about what people think of me. But alcohol really kills my libido and sex feels less intense and I'd rather sleep lol

The only good use I got out of dislikes was when watching tutorials on YouTube. Makes it easy to spot low quality or scam. So the dislikes were not all negative.

I've never really played Factorio all that much. I only tried it a few times but found it a bit too boring for my taste. But some people go so far as to create an entire game within Factorio...I just thought it was so amazing I wanted to share it here. I can't quite put my finger on why this reminds me of fractals

99.99% of people or so can't handle it. Even most monks can't. Isolation is a broad term though. But only a very small exceptional group of monks could go through "solitary confinement." It being forced on you doesn't help of course. It's very different when it's a conscious choice you make for your spiritual advancement. And a big difference is that the monk can choose to stop it at any time. And they're trained, gifted, etc. On top of that prisoners that end up in solitary confinement probably already have a very low level of consciousness and development so yeah...

Yes! But it does become easier, especially if you learn to enjoy the socializing

Yeah... isolation can do that. I guess early in life when going to school and through college your "social life" and "role in society" is more automatic and unconscious and it's much easier because of that. And it's hard after that to figure out how to live a social life or be a member of society. But on the upside: Now you get to consciously create it... I'm sorry for your bad experiences. But it's possible to heal simply by socializing again in a healthy way. I was going through similar things as you (at least socially) and set a general long-term goal for myself to significantly improve my satisfaction with my social life. I had a lot of bad experiences while working towards that goal but by being persistent I found some people I can really connect with after about 9 months of work. I also found a better way to balance being introverted and being in solitude (and not feeling lonely, Leo's recent videos on this topic are amazing for this too) and socializing. Other aspects of my social and sexual life are much better now too. The good experiences really do help to heal. You gotta learn to forget about the failures and accept them as necessary. It's important you really sit down (multiple times over a longer period of time) and contemplate what you want out of your "social life." And then set a number of concrete goals to work towards. By having this goal in your mind you also start to notice you can learn a lot just by observing how others do it or people similar to you. Also watch a lot of YouTube videos on this, read about these topics, and take a lot of action.

Yesterday I told an entire story about finding a wallet on the street while going for a walk and my journey to find its owner. To me it was kinda boring but I tried to tell the story in such a way the people listening were interested in how it ended. I try to go out every Thursday and socialize and I'm noticing just practicing small talk makes it easier

Seems like life is more unfair when it comes to selfish things and fairer when it comes to selfless things. Can't blame life for not developing yourself as a man. And more selfish desires such as getting laid will come as a fruit

Well I personally fear commitment and intimacy because of the reality that I will lose some of my independence. I also value some solitude and not having to deal with people for weeks sometimes because it's just a great way for me to be very productive and has proven to lead to success. And with friends it's much easier to socialize when desired and not when not desired. At the same time (and I think this is true for most guys) I do desire intimacy, despite fearing it. It's just that the sacrifices are real. So it makes sense that a guy would only commit if it's really worth it.

Nice video I came across. The advice is quite basic but still useful. Summary: Work daily Volume > Perfection Steal (like an artist) Conscious Learning Rest Feedback Create what you love (duh) And in general I think the point he makes about rest is important. Sometimes if you take a break from your work for some time it will help you return with a fresh perspective.

@Max8 A physics degree is tangible. I also have tangible savings and tangible free time to be creative and work on myself and business. As well as tangible increases in my satisfaction with life and my health (thanks to a healthier lifestyle). But one last time: This work is that hardest thing in life and requires you commit 100%. It's ultimately challenging. Obviously if you work on yourself and your life hard enough you can improve it (a lot). If you're not interested in that because you believe it's all nonsense then just leave this forum.

Lol. Just look at people who are doing what they love in life. Study them. I'm currently working really hard towards this myself. I've been able to get my degree more quickly and take many months off to find and work towards my Life Purpose. I'm also working towards becoming more financially independent. Can't say I have achieved it but I'm on the right track. My understanding of life, and specific things like marketing and business have also grown a lot this year. An important point is also that true understanding is not "mental masturbation." It will serve you for the rest of your life. Also study materially succesful people if money is so important to you. Sure. Set some goals and do whatever work you need to do to achieve them. Nobody to fool but yourself.

Self-Actualization, Self-Improvement, Personal Development...it's one of the hardest possible things in life. It's ultimately challenging. It's framed as the "hero's journey" for a reason dude. Even so. Minor improvement happens for many people. Most basic self-help is about finding a job you like, learning more about yourself, time-management etc. Easy stuff. But you don't have to do this work. You can just try and create a comfortable life and be a normie. But that would probably be much less fulfilling.

I guess you should just watch it. It's just interesting more and more "mainstream" YouTubers are using psychedelics and talking about it

Hard question. I don’t fully know the answer yet but I really love it when I remember life is magical. Now that’s quite abstract and I find it hard to pick one thing. But I experience life as magical in different ways: When learning about anything. But more specifically something deep and beyond myself like nature, maths, psychology, or philosophy. Although if you dive deep enough into any topic, it becomes beautifully complex and interesting. When I’m being creative. The act of creating does this. Makes me feel participant in the universe. I also especially love the creative process because it involves imagination and then you can actually turn it into reality! And ways that are harder for me to articulate. Sometimes when I’m in the right state everything becomes magical. Normally I feel like a “flatlander” in life and take it for granted (like Leo said in his previous vid) but occasionally I remember that life is infinitely fucking significant and it’s time to become passionate again. This can be triggered by music, nature, by something someone says, or at random. Anyways will take more than contemplation to really find the answer for me. Needs lots of more experience.

The problem is not merely that the spirit of science seems to be missing these days. The spirit of wonder and mystery at all of nature. Most scientists these days (even many of them that are popular and have PhD's and many citations) are lacking in philosophical understanding and even dismiss metaphysics and epistemology altogether. And people like this Dave are among the worst of them. Being proud (almost like a religious fanatic) about being anti-spiritual and dismissing philosophy. I remember in college my physics professors used to get annoyed when students asked philosophical questions about Quantum Mechanics. Some of them would even proudly tell us that we physicists are doing the real work and the philosophers are now extinct. It's funny though that physics used to be called natural philosophy back in Newton's day. Metaphysics and epistemology and other branches of philosophy were central to the craft. And before Newton's day the scientists, philosophers, and mystics were often a single person.

Came across this by accident. But oh boy, imagine being such a big materialist you deny even science

The people who are whining about their freedom have no clue of what freedom means. Here's an interesting quote I came across today while reading.

@whatishappeningtome Netherlands too. Huge housing crisis here

@njuufa Only a psychopath would get that score

It's not wrong to chase desires as long as you're aware they will ultimately not satisfy you. For example it's very useful to have concrete goals, but don't expect happiness when reaching them. Find satisfaction in working towards them instead with desire being useful fuel. Annddd....just watch this:

All of these smoking anti-vaxers lol These people are probably more likely to put real toxins in their body

I know his heart is in the right place, but he's a bit stupid sometimes.