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Hey there So lately I saw a really hot friend and I felt that I really wanted to tell her how hot she is. But something inside stopped me from doing this, I was afraid that she wont like me. I know my question was very Black-White thinking, and it depends on so many things.. BTW I want this girl but Im too deep into the friend zone Thanks guys!

I think guilt is emotion that EVERYONE feels to a certain degree. Understanding guilt and how to TRULY stop feeling it can change my life and many others..

So I read Radical Honesty, and I am really confused. On one hand, we are saying that pickup and getting girls is a game of manipulation and this will be the most effective way to get what I want. But on the other hand, on Radical Honesty, and also on Brads' youtube interviews he says - tell all the brutal truth, and if you get it great, and if not then not. When I'm taking it to pick up it will be more like: "Hey pretty girl I'm horny and I want to f*ck you." of course it is not an effective way to get girls. So my question is: What would I do? Should I manipulate or should I just be 100% honest? Also, I don't have enough experience in the field so guess that's might be a reason why it's not clear to me.. anyway I would like to hear from you guys.

Hey! So I am thinking of becoming a life coach. I am about to finish my NLP MASTER THERAPIST course. There are so many different kinds of coaching, and I wanted to ask you guys as coaches (if we have here) and as Coached/Trained guys. What do you think makes coaching works? I mean, what makes people change?

Is it better to approach a single woman or a group of 2-3?

Thanks, everybody for opening my mind. Leo, you've made the point clear. Just got the covid vaccine and going to the field

Many times when I’m near my mom I feel judged. I understand and see that I created this feeling in order to push me to behave “good” and “Ok”, by her standards, and then - get love from her. But now, I can see how it’s just an idea in my mind and most of the time I am not judged at all. Yet, I still feel it deeply in my identity, I feel like I am truly bad/not Ok. How do I overcome it? How do I let go of it? Good question and insights that will transform me? Thanks guys.

I mean he just wrote it wrong.. It's "Bitcoin"

It's "Bit"c"oin" ahahahaahh stop write with "C" AHAHAHAHAHAHA My ego couldn't hold it anymore. And yeah Leo I like your visionary worldview about things. For sure in a decade we will have 100 times better coin.

Hey there! I feel that my emotions are controlling me, I feel deeply not good enough, unloved and I feel that I am "Not OK". How do I stop believing in these limiting beliefs? Why do I feel this way - why am I attached to my victimhood? I feel like I can't lose weight, can't earn more money, can't practice more playing the guitar (my job), I can't attract women - What am I missing? How do I become detached from the identity I am now? Thanks

So after a lot of introspection, I feel like I am "not ok" like there is a deep problem within my being. If I am taking it to my past and my work with my therapist, I was very unaccepted by my mom, unloved and she judges me a lot until today. That's it, I want to change, I want to stop blaming her for MY bad results. This deep feeling is mostly stress, anxiety, depression, passiveness, and suffering. I wasn't abused physically and most of my needs are fulfilled. Now I want to change what I feel in my being and how I feel about how I am. I stopped judging myself and that was a huge relief although it's hard and I come back to that sometimes. I'm also working on stop blaming my mother for how "bad" she is. It's hard and takes work but I am there. Sometimes I'm stuck on being a victim, and comeback to blame. I see that when it happens I stop being serious about this process. How do I change my identity to a fully self-accepting person, knowing that I am secure, safe, and loved? What made you guys become REALLY serious about this work of self-actualization, changing yourself and your results? Thanks for your help.

Thanks, I'm on this exact way. If I hate who I am right now - then be okay that I hate myself, accepting the truth and not trying to accept who I am. And about the emotions - you opened my mind, thanks.

I'm falling back from my meditation habit, which reminds me to come back today! Yes, I do read these books, I am struggling the most with this inner feeling of being not ok and unloved. How do I change it? what am I lacking?

Leo just said “Elon Musk” and look what happened: Lol

haahahhhaaaaaa I can't stop laughing What's funnier? you wanted to go to Ikea or Leo's comment LOLLLLLL

What about just improving society, the economy, and poor people's life? Just a little bit less conscious than god's consciousness to look at Bitcoin? AHAHAH Stop with god all the timeeee be practical I can't mannn I can'ttt

I noticed a lot that I gave and still giving my authority to family and friends. it’s like they decided if I am worthy or not, if I am loved or not and many more... How do I take it back that I will decide these things?

I am sleepy many times during the day and I am really serious about stopping it. Please write here all the causes of sleepiness or tiredness you think is possible. Thanks

So I have anxiety for a long time. Does anyone know about a healing model for anxiety? It will have a lot of value for me... Because there are so many ways and different methods I try and I don't know what is the next level to my healing. Just like Spiral Dynamics... but for anxiety Thanks!

So I am tired of getting no results with women. And after I saw the last episode (What is Actualized.org - Must-View for everyone, thanks leo), I am fucking serious, and gonna bite the bullet about attracting women authentically, and have a superb dating life since I got almost 0 experience. The main problem is that I am a people pleaser. I most get love and validation from every fucking person I meet. I can see now how unattractive I am and I am ready to change everything about myself. I just cant be me authentically, that weirdo Self-Help guy that thinks about reality and love and truth, so afraid to get rejected because its unpopular. I am afraid to lose the love I need, by telling who I am. Does anybody can understand where I am at? What is the first step to take? And what I don’t see in the big picture? Thanks

I will look up to this book. Sounds interesting. BTW - Why and how do you think mindfulness can make the situation worse? I'm open to this possibility but an extra explanation is needed. Thanks Fundamentally, I feel a lack of love. I am stressed most of the day. If we are talking about the "outside" circumstances, I don't sleep enough, I am vegan and really into eating consciously and healthy doing my best with it. Maybe 2-3 beers at the weekend, no Tabacco, going to do a blood test soon so more data will come soon. Not exercising enough for sure. But, I think it's more of a psychological problem. Investigating my psyche deeply, not sure what the problem really is. Body awareness changed the game for me. Until one year ago I had ZERO body awareness. I suffer from anxiety since I was a child basically. I am 20 now and I feel nervous since age 10 I think.. maybe before. Working on it mindfully every day. Basically, it's general anxiety, I feel pressured, nervous and my body tensed when I wake up, doing everyday life, and going to sleep. It's getting worse when I think of my life problems - Money, I don't have a relationship and I want one, Not succeeding as a musician as I want, not being loved enough by my friends and family, How neurotic I am and don't know how to stop it.. and more OK - let's be specific: I am anxious about being such a mediocre person. - When I was a child I promised myself to be an extraordinary human being, being rich, calm, secure, loved, doing spectacular things, becoming a first-class musician in the world, having the best relationships, having a perfect fit, thin, musculin body (I am pretty fat), being the most loved and wanted person in the world. Basically - just the opposite of what my parents were - and this promise was 100% unconsciously. I understood this 6 months ago. I make it look like my life is horrible, but I have everything I need. I just blame my parents for blaming me all the time for being a bad boy, harming them, I do something the communicated it's not okay. My mother is super-neurotic, my father is unsecured and scared of being hurt by my mother, so another thing that makes me weak. My father never set boundaries for me, but it has also a positive part. I make my mother look like a satan but it's my ego deceiving myself trying to make sense of why I feel so stressed. I Blame her for like 80% of my life's problems. My parents are super perfectionist, so everything I do/did looks bad and not enough of course, which demotivates me to do things, I feel powerless and all of these are creating momentum like a giant snowball down the mountain that gets bigger and bigger and everything gets worse. The main most profound problem is an emotion inside tells me "There is a problem". This is what my anxiety tells me all the time when I'm contemplating it. REALITY FEELS WRONG. And I can't stop criticizing myself about how it should be otherwise... How the f*ck do I solve it?

Yes, it is, but is it coming from an ego that behaves that way to manipulate and get something from others? Or from a conscious and loving person that sees himself in others, and communicates this way because it's healthier and he already has what he needs. The first one is what this book suggests..

Thank you, everybody! I'll imply your tips and update. thanks

So I am installing the every day meditation habit. I find myself struggling to stay alert and focused. I changed my nutrition almost two months ago, I am vegan and I am more energized than before, exercising 3-5 times a week. My sleeping habits still not great I am sleeping between 5-7 hours a night. I feel it’s not enough for me, and working on fixing it. Any suggestions why am I sleepy? It sometimes happens afternoon, but mostly when I meditate. Thanks guys

Thanks man.. BTW - how did you create a meditation habit? I'm struggling with that. Thanks!