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Being a nice guy, yields a terrible life: You don't get access to valuable reproductive resources (women), you don't make much money. You don't earn much respect. The logic of the program of being a nice guy is "if i am overly nice, people will like me, and not treat me bad. Women will like me and give me access to that koochie, people will like me and will give me oportunities". Yeah, that could work if we weren't vicious , egotistical, self-centered cave people, who still carry around a Stone Age Brain. (Most) Women are ruthless, they could care less about your poetic and higher Consciousness ideals. They care about survival. Most people are not on a level to appreciate kidness. They only understand cheese. Few days ago, i was walking in the woods. There was a man in his 50s who made an unpolite remark about me. I just stared at him. He said "can you move forward? My dog will think you are a threat".I just kept staring. I was ready to tear him to pieces (in worst case scenario). He got the message, closed his mouth and left. Funny thing is that i was nice to this man, couple of months ago. This is the kind of Society we live in. Where you get punished for being nice. And rewarded for being a sociopath.

One of the most shocking and disturbing realizations that i've had the last 11 months ,is that people are way worse, than i ever dreamed of.. This is an extremely ugly Truth, that you find out when you have to deal with multiple people who have nothing to gain from you. If you are a hot woman in yout 20s or a privileged man in a good part of the world, you might still be under the illusion of how great everyone is. This is a lie. People are not nice. They are nice when it serves their survival agenda, when they have something to gain, and when they feel comfortable. How can this world be a good place when everyone cares only about himself and nothing else? How can this be a good place when 99.9% of your actions stem from pure selfishness. People act nice when they are eating a good meal or have a nice drug in their system, but once that drug or food wears off from their system, they suddenly are not so nice. People who have not meditated or done any psychological work, are dangerous to themselves and everybody around them. This explains why things are so bad on this planet. Noone talks about this. Because it's too direct and too ugly. This is chat gpt's take on this: Here are some concrete and relatable examples that reflect the sentiments and themes in the text you provided: 1. "People are only nice when they have something to gain" Example: A coworker who always acted friendly suddenly turns cold after you get demoted or lose influence in the office. When you had a high status, they complimented you, invited you to events, and seemed supportive. Once you no longer had anything to offer, they stopped responding to messages or acknowledging you at work. 2. "People who have nothing to gain from you treat you poorly" Example: When you're homeless or look poor, people avoid eye contact, ignore you when you ask for help, or even act hostile. But if you're well-dressed and driving a nice car, those same people might treat you with respect or even admiration. 3. "People act nice only when they're comfortable" Example: Someone might be very kind and patient while they're well-fed and rested. But the same person, after a long day at work without food or sleep, becomes irritable, rude, and even verbally abusive to others. Their “kindness” was just a product of comfort — not true compassion. 4. "People don’t care unless it affects them personally" Example: Someone might say they care about the environment or poverty but still buy fast fashion or waste food. Unless their lifestyle is directly affected, they won’t make sacrifices — even when they know others suffer because of their choices. 5. "People who haven’t done inner work are dangerous" Example: A person with unresolved trauma might lash out at others, sabotage relationships, or become controlling — without even realizing it. Because they haven’t examined their mind, they blame others for their problems, creating cycles of emotional or even physical harm. 6. "Most actions are rooted in selfishness" Example: Even charity can be selfish: a person might donate to get praise, feel superior, or soothe their own guilt — not because they genuinely care about others. The core motivation is often still about themselves, not the person in need. These examples don’t mean that everyone is bad or incapable of real kindness — but they illustrate a darker side of human nature that’s often denied or hidden under social norms. The text expresses the painful clarity that comes when illusions are stripped away — especially in situations like homelessness, poverty, or powerlessness, where people’s true character is exposed.

Leo, you said that it shocked you that zen monks "only" meditate for 3-4 hours per day. And that you expected them to meditate for 12 hours per day. I think this is unrealistic expectations and standards. The body has natural limits. I don't see anyone paying attention to his breath for 12 hours per day (unless someone wipes his buttocks for him, cooks all his meals, has tons of money in the bank, has little to no unfulfilled desires, has zero psychological baggage, etc) And i don't see anyone being able to continuously concentrate (concentration exercise) on a single object non-stop for more than 3-4 hours per day. Concentration exercises where you focus non-stop take a lot of energy and.. Also even if you could focus for 12 hours a day, that doesn't guarantee better results. I have not met anyone in my life being able to concentrate for that long. I think you are setting impossible expectations. Being able to sit and do nothing for 12 hours, maybe is possible. But being able to focus for that long, i don't buy it. Nor have i ever seen it happening. Also, your stress hormones levels would go through the roof, if you tried to concentrate more, after a set period of time.

@Leo Gura I do 40 minutes of concentration exercise per day and have seen very good results thus far. You make it sound like 3-4 hours of meditation is nothing. I don't see anyone meditating more than that long term. Unless he is a literal robot with no feelings. I focus on a very small point in my hand. I don't buy it than anyone can focus on such a small point fot multiple hours. If anyone can do it, i wanna see it. If you pay attention to your breath that's a litle different because you have pauses where you rest a little bit. If you concentrate on a whole wall instead of a small point then i guess you can do it for longer. Also, few years ago, you did strong determination sitting (concentration exercise) and lasted for 1 and a half hours.

The dude in the video says that this existence, this Maya is all "nonsense", that nothing makes sense and that there was no reason behind the holocauast. "There is no reason, it's just God". I don't understand what he means. If God is an intelligent Creator then by necessity, everything would have a reason behind it. Imagine seeing a car and saying that there is no reason that it has 4 wheels instead of 2.. Any insights about this particular topic? Suffering without a reason seems even more cruel and dehumanizing that it already is..

@Someone here Nice explanation.

@Ishanga Consequences are a reason too. God is or he is not. Everything is planned down to the last detail or not.

@Sugarcoat What is this supposed to mean?

Is there anything to fear or not? I think the only thing we should be afraid of is being a scared, weak person. We should not be afraid of the content of our fears. We should be afraid of fear itself as a structure/mechanism that may be holding us back. Lately i have been conquering a lot of fears, every day i give it my all. Sometimes i get very scared, but in the end i always feel stronger and more Godlike. My fears are constantly telling me all sorts of lies "don't do this, don't do the other, you may lose your health if you do X". Yeah all sorts of things could happen , but what is the alternative? Becoming a timid, small-minded person with a weak heart, who is constantly afraid of everything all the time? That is no way to live. I get this sense that we have nothing to fear at all. Of course one should be wise and smart about facing fear. If you go too hard, too fast, you might end up hurting yourself in the end. Check Howard Hughes. Miserable billionaire suffering from Ocd. Ocd is just another form of fear. I know because this is the thing Torturing me the most, the last years, but i have made progress, and it doesn't bother me nearly as much as before. Ocd/fear is a very tricky beast to kill..

@MarkKol What?? This description is being used in the field of evolutionary psychology. Yeah, if it only was that easy.

There is no love at this level of Consciousness most people on the planet are. Just Survival. You do what i like and what suits my needs? Then great, i love you. You make me uncomfortable or serve no function in meeting my needs in any away? Then i want nothing to do with you. You threaten me in any way? Then i might even destroy you, without thinking twice. I see no love. If love means having pleasurable taste experiences, then i guess i see it all around me. People are animals. I don't blame atheists for not believing in God when they see how evil and selfish people are. People talk about how they love their wife for example. Yeah, because she gives you accesss to that koochie, and cooks you nice tasty meals. And when she doesn't , your false love crumbles like a house of cards. Nobody talks about this. Because the Truth is way uglier than people want to admit. What love are people taking about? No such thing.

@theleelajoker I don't care too much either, if i am being honest. But i do my best to be a positive influence on others. And if i see someone hurting, i will go help him. I do the same with insects. I just throw them as gently as possible 'outside'. The situation on the planet is really terrible. This is coming from someone who has been facing Reality and all kinds of people every day for 10 months straight. I am engaged with the world and the level of compassion or care that people have for one another is terrifyingly low.. Maybe humans have not evolved to care much about other humans, etc.

@Breakingthewall That is the problem. Nobody gives a damn.

One of the biggest realisations of my life is that the number one reason i have suffered enormously and fell into addiction is because of traumatized low-level people who have deeply hurt me, over and over again. How toxic and evil these people can be is very disturbing. Maybe for some it's their 1st human incarnation (just graduated from the animal kingdom). Lol. I do my best to stay away from idiots and find high level people but it's almost impossible to find quality people in person. Some may think i'm exagerrating but i'm not. I live in Greece. Greece is super low-level. Everyone here is an addict. Smoking cigarretes in the norm. If you are pursuing higher Consciousness you will automatically be in 5% of people. And you will have to deal with the other 95% who are lost in the sauce. I have been atttending NA meetings and stopped using weed as an escape. I'm very serious about doing my best and i am for the 1st time in my life , feeling like i am doing my best. To make things short. 8 months i have been going regularly to meetings with no issues. Yesterday i went to a meeting and i had a bad experience. The guy who runs that meeting was very stressed and was verbally aggresive towards me.. I was kinda disturbed. But i don't expect better from people who have never meditated in their entire life. Also he told me that i maybe should not talk 1st (when it's time for every member to share). His intention behind this was not pure. I felt it. Maybe he feels threatened because he sees me going hard at it, with fearlessness and no hesitation. I don't push myself to talk. Nor i suppress myself. I just talk naturally, effortlessly, with no stupid ego gimmich behind. Afterwards when i was sharing, at some point i was talking about the mechanics of personalities and how each personality tries to dominate over the other. He did not like that. And interrupted me saying that i should only talk about my problems. I replied "this is my problem". Then he continued. I just left and not going there again.

@James123 That is a terrible, autistic response. As long as you eat, sh!t, piss, it means that things are very important. Imagine telling a cancer patient, you are not important, lol.

"You are not better or worse, you are caused." You are like a leaf being blown by the wind. Just being in the right environment will yield better outcomes. Just being in the wrong environment and your life will become a living hell. What people call "success" is just being born or 'pushed' into the right circumstances. Look at Bill Gates. Great mother. Private school. Family connections, etc. The topic of free will is way beyond the little human mind. This i believe is the most important topic to focus on, to actually change the world for the better. Realizing how mechanical everything is , is both profound, beautiful and scary. Because what this means is that just the wrong kind of triggers and your life will go to the toilet. And just the right kind of triggers and you life becomes more beautiful.

I was watching a documentary about the lives of people who were "stuck" in mental institutions, some of the worst ones, like the one in Leros. I felt very disturbed afterwards. Why God would dream up such a crappy life? It would seem better to be a fly flying on a wall rather than being forgotten , unloved, and left to die on such crappy conditions. I think noone can really answer this. Many just use denial as a coping mechanism. Some moments in life are really really terrible but maybe it's not that bad. I don't know.

Everyone keeps telling how God does't care, yet they provide no explanation. Why God would create something and just abandon it? Doesn't make sense. https://youtu.be/WI2m1WW33H0?si=Wol2aON2rNHMbr2K

@PurpleTree Why not?

@Leo Gura I don't get it. Doesn't God want the best for everyone? What is that 'something' larger at stake? You say that things are even worse. How one should react to this other than being terrified and scared for the rest of his life?

I was abruptly kicked out from my house 10 months ago. Without a warning. Without a single penny. By my "family". Ever since then i have been trying to get back on my feet. But it has been extremely challenging. Incredibly challenging. I can't go find a job just to make money . While at the same, feeling like i wanna die, all the time. I found a job working at a kiosk few months ago. I was doing well at that job but i wasn't satisfied because i wasn't getting properly paid as the law says i should. And after politely pointing this out to my boss, i got fired (because he was afraid he might get into legal trouble and pay a fine). After this, i was at a job interview for a well-known company here in Greece. As soon as i enteted the building i realized that all the family members of the boss, even his grandchildren were there "working". I didn't get that job . Just looking for a job is a serious challenge. I can't convey to a normal person who has never faced homelessness how much of a challenge it really is. I don't even have wi-fi on my phone. I have to walk 30 minutes just to get access from somewhere. Also i don't feel moved to chase , chase, chase , chase a job like many other people always tell. I feel i am already doing my best. I keep myself clean , i attend NA meetings,i meditate, read, i push myself everyday, i don't do drugs. Most jobs that are easy to find are traps: jobs where your mental and physical health gets ruined. So many jobs are also filled with toxic cigarette smoke, toxic people and disgusting car pollution. I would like a job where i can be learning something valuable. I wanted to be a software programmer and i have intermediate level skills in Javascript, html, css. But noone really gave me a chance. My biggest passion is non-duality , raising my Consciousness, peak mental performance, health, and exploring radical altered states of Consciousness. I live somewhere in the woods in an abandoned old building. I have not really received much help from other people. I have talked to church people, to people who work for the town, and got very little help, if any. There have been many idiots who have said to one another "this guy is homeless", but have offered no help. (They have seen where i stay). This has made me hate people even more. Many days i feel suicidal. The last couple of days i have been feeling a nice sense of Serenity. Hope it lasts. I was thinking to go to tourist areas and sell artificial intelligence images. I have already printed them. But i haven't done it. My goal is to consistently make money every day even without a regular 9-5. Below is one the images i printed . I also put it inside plastic. I feel bad because i have something to offer but i don't have the social connections and the other unfair structural advantages that other people were born with.

@Leo Gura There are people who earn money just from working on the streets. The guy in the video was making drawing and earning quite a bit of money. Trucking requires license that i don't have the money for.

@AION I have received very little help thus far.

@Jannes I was working some shit jobs in my early 20s that didn't pay much. And i was very unhappy at those jobs. This is why i didn't work for 5 years . All i did was self-actualization, meditation, programming, etc. An addiction to weed and some other issues didn't help achieve some results that i wanted. Basically i was kicked out for not working and some other reasons.

@Hojo Yes. I could sell them 2 euro a piece (They cost me 1 euro a piece). Haven't attempted to see if it works..