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I see young women being constantly distracted by silly games and traps and havings lot of fun, while men suffer enormously. Being distracted is a blessing because you are not forced by Suffering to grow up. If you are an average looking young woman you automatically have a lot of power and leverage on many things. While if you are an average guy, you are f*cked. Look at Ted Kaczynski. 167 IQ. Harvard Graduate. Died a virgin.. Guy spent decades thinking deeply about the consequences technology while women don't have to think about much, other than how to meet their needs. Leo will tell you that you have to work 10 lifetimes to finally be worthy enough. Not to mention how privileged and rare someone like Leo is. (This is not an attack). While women enjoy effortlessly the fruits of sex. This whole society is messed up. I agree with Robert Sapolsky. Agriculture was a disaster for the human race. 10.000 years ago, if you were a male, you were hunting all day with your group, you were fit, you were socializing and at night time you had sex with a female. Agriculture meant that 1 petty humanoid could have 1000000 more accumulated grain and wealth than 1000 humanoids combined. Before agriculture there was no wealth inequality . This extreme wealth inequality is the root of all of our social problems. There was no "i don't have any friends". Yeah you died at 25. But you lived fully. I'm exagerating some things here but bottom line is if you are male nowadays life is not easy for you. The most basic thing such as sex is like you are trying to climb Mountain Everest.

2 days ago i went out for a walk with a woman, that was kinda pursuing me. Her interest level was low and there were also some other things i didn't like (like dismissing something deep, i said once). But because she was texting me, i arranged that we go outside. When i meet her, she tells me that in like 30 minutes, she has to go for a dance class (in other words: you are the least important option for me, so i won't give you the time of the day). This was a big turn off and a waste of time. She will probably contact me again 2-3 weeks from now (if she doesn't find Chad or Bryce or some other guy who will be the "perfect" one). This time, i won't ever see this woman again. This just shows me how ruthless and not caring some women can be. There are very good reasons why many men end up hating women. Very good reasons..

@Applegarden8 No. It's not the same. I tend to treat people in a fair way. I would never leave earlier on a date just because i don't like the other person. Where is your love for your fellow human, if you do that kind of petty behavior.. This is what disapointed me the most.

@Schizophonia I did not force anything. When a girl is reaching to you, you assume she is interested and arrange a date. I don't need any more self-help theory. I need more action primarily.

@meta_male Not victim mentality at all. But Truth-Mentality instead.. You didn't read the post carefully. Bottom line is: many women will give guys preferential, non-fair treatment.

I have done tons of paying attention to my breath but after some time this got boring. I'm a hardcore person. I need more stimulation. Not just feeling like i took a bunch of xanax..lol. I tried Leo's technique where you just watch your hand. Mind was like: "What's this? This is weird. This is a waste of time. Stop doing it". But i kept going because i was getting something from it. Can't really explain what. This eventually progressed to where i just look at a specific location in the center of my left hand. And sit there for as long as i can. It's a Concentration exercise. What i find fascinating with this technique is that when my Mind focuses hard, i get a nice steady, kinda exhilarating feeling of Satisfaction. (Not a shallow, short-lived, cheap dopamine hit). This meditation technique has become the most important thing in my life. Goal is to be able to concentrate for 2 hours at a time but this is a challenge, unless someone else feeds you, and etc. Results so far (after 4 months of continuous practice) is that i can stare at something a lot longer than before. Feel more happy, content and Still. And my mind is sharper and more able to discern and cut through sh!t. Also if someone on the street looks me funny, i just stare at him, i know he won't be able to match my intensity. Lol. If you want a visual representation of the results , check the young man with the dark beard in this video. He is in a very good state of Consciousness. I don't understand why Leo says there is no best state of Consciousness. Isn't a composed calm state better than a Suicidal one??

Do you feel some anxiety and stress after uploading an important video? Does your mind go "what if this or the other scenarios". I will find it hard to believe if you say no because the mind is analyzing data all the time, and gets anxious when it feels overwhelmed..especially when thinking about long-reaching consequences some uncertain action has..

@samijiben One ice-cream. But infinite flavors.

@Applegarden8 @Applegarden8 What siddhi? I think the guy on the thumbnail of the video is a scammer-master manipulator.

@Sugarcoat Thank you! Even if there are infinite, some states are better than others.

@kavaris Thank you! Some states are better than others. I don't think than anyone would prefer a hysterical, suicidal state vs a calm, composed one. Meditation is Mind Training. It's like Lifting Weights for your Brain. That's how i view it. There is nothing woo-woo about this.

Solid advice , i like this That's why Spartacus's story is such an inspiration for me.

People don't really have the capacity for much love. Many will try to deny this bitter Truth but i've observed it first hand , many many times , over and over again. Shunyanurti, a spiritual master often says that : "the ego cannot love. The ego only loves it's own Interests" Most people don't really care about you. Few might care just for a few seconds , and even this won't probably lead to any meaningful action. What most people care about is just their House, their Business, their Sexual partner, their Children , meeting their Needs and that's it It's purely a survival operation. Like the jungle. Like animals. And that is one reason why the world is so insane and messed up . If you even attempt to talk about this obvious fact, people will think you are weird and some will even become aggressive because you suddenly woke them up from their dream and you sent their mind into a direction, that they don't wanna go. Most people only discuss things about how to survive better. Rarely i hear conversations that go any deeper than mere animalistic survival. This is the current state of the world, generally speaking. Maybe 2000 years from now, Enlightment, Love, etc will become mainstream.

@Leo Gura Beautiful image though.

Leo, how do you deal with the stress of Contemplating? When you contemplate about stuff all sorts of hell breaks loose. You face all kinds of fears, thoughts and stress. The most difficult for me is stress because i know that prolonged stress is not good for the human body. If there was zero stress i would be going a lot harder on many things. And when the stress levels are too high i get frightened and also have to over eat to bring the stress down. How do you cope with stress in your life? Any advice?

@Leo Gura How do you do that?

My question is , if Awareness is formless, how do you really know that it even exists? It is like trying to grasp the air. I experience sounds, thoughts, images, etc. That is valid. But then how do we go to the next step, that what is being Aware of All this, is Awareness itself. What if just thoughts , images, etc exist with no Awareness at all? How would we know? Personally i have experienced that there is a Pure Formless Consciousness that is Aware of Everything and Everything is housed "inside" of it. But in my current state , i have no access to this realization except for brief moments.

@integral You can almost never feel sure about anything. This uncertainty can drive anxiety. Especially if it threatens your survival. You make it sound like it's nothing. When the mind gets overwhelmed with data and possible negative ramifications, it gets stressed out. Let me ask you this, if you plan a trip abroad, won't you feel at least a little bit stressed out?

@Cred My mind everytime is gets a piece of data is like "What if this means that or the other? What if it means something negative?" And if it thinks it might mean something negative , stress comes up in the surface. Also, my mind almost never feels sure about anything.

@Leo Gura Good advice. When i Contemplate about deep stuff , my mind is like: "What if this means something bad? What if it means that or the other?" Also, when i contemplate about who i really am, not knowing or not being sure seems scary.. Lastly, yes survival is stressful but also thinking deeply about stuff is stressful. You are releasing glucocorticoids hormones in your bloodstream. It's not like you are sitting with no mind or no care in the world.

I experience homelessness for the past 8 months. I would like to share some insights about the whole learning experience: First of all , let's talk about people. As Leo has stated, we indeed live in the Dark Ages of Consciousness and Spiritual Development: I have not yet met a person in close, that i would regard as high quality. (Not to mention about Awake) People simply don't have the luxury to care about you. It would impair their ability to survive.. Also, most people will try to determine your worth, put it in a box, and then try to put you inside that box. You have to say no sometimes to their limitations and ideas about you. You have to constantly face their stupidity and lack of Consciousness. Also you realize that , death is natural. And it's okay to die. All your ideas about how life should be, or Unfold, or look like get demolished and Crushed.

@Spiritual Warrior You assume that i am in a rut, when i am already doing my best. Meditating, attending NA meetings, taking calculated risks, etc. But noone is really helping me. So it's a lot harder. Just to go out and find a job is a real challenge because you have to be clean , shaved , and with a belly full of food.

@JosephKnecht Lol . When did they teach you about Death, low consciousness and Survival in grade school mate? You are funny.

@JosephKnecht You are talking non sense. Born in Moldova. Poorest country of EU.

All the suffering i experience, is mostly located, in my throat area. Despite having practiced Meditation few years now, i found myself Suffering a lot.. At first i was like WTF : "This Eckhart Tolle guy must be full of crap. Because i don't actively think, but yet i still keep suffering" But lately, somehow i managed to relax the painful contractions (suffering) in my throat and now i feel much bettter. I realised that somehow, everytime i experienced something "negative", i was contracting in my throat area, despite having not many thoughts.. What has helped me also is Peter Ralston saying "Your mind doesn't have a Mind of its Own. You are DOING your Mind". This helped me because i was stuck in a victim mentality, because of the Truth of no free will..