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@WaveInTheOcean Just did the test. Apparently I'm an individualist. Why asking?

@Zeroguy Life is peachy

I imagine I'm not the only one. It's just hot as fuck. The deeper I awaken; I find myself way more interested in simple stuff like honesty, respect, kindness, the tone of my voice, etc.. Yes; I still love to contemplate stuff deeply and have my cool realizations and all that juice.. But at the end of the day; the stuff that truly matters, is the above mentioned. That is where your true mastery shines - if you got any. That is where you literally act out what you realized to be true. There is no bullshit when it comes to living your life. You can try to fool yourself or others; but you won't get far. All that bullshit will swallow you whole - sooner or later. I know because I used to be full of shit myself. And I still am to some degree. Literally every-fucking-body is. If anyone tells you that they don't have a single ounce of bullshit in them; they're the ones who bullshit the most. They're master-bullshitters. And that's not a compliment. I'm saying because some of these people are actually proud of how well they can bullshit their way through life. They've fooled themselves into believing that it's a superpower or something. The way these people relate to others is disgusting. There is nothing warm or real about it. It's all just a giant lie. They live a lie and they drag others into it. It's kinda like a virus. Thankfully; some of us who have been fed enough of that bullshit ended up questioning the shit out of everything. We committed to doing whatever the fuck it takes just to find something real in this existence. Something that's not bullshit. Not a lie. We committed to finding Truth - even if it costs our lives. And here we are. After all the bullshit we've been fed since day 1; we kinda - sorta - almost found The Truth. Some may be closer to it; others a bit further away. But we all definitely see the Light! There is something worth living and dying for in this shit-show, after all! Hurrah! Haha. Might've gotten a bit too passionate there. But it felt good. And it was real. So yeah. Basically; I'm telling you the following; If you're stuck up in the clouds... Climb down to the ground where the real game is. Show us all just how deep your understanding of Truth is. Show us all how to be a living, breathing embodiment of Truth. Of enlightenment. Of God. Show us how to answer the highest call in each and every moment. Show us how to be enlightened around a kid. Show us how to be enlightened around an old woman on her death bed. A mentally ill person. A mother that lost her child. A lover who betrayed your trust and ripped your heart out of your chest. How does enlightenment look like then? How does it speak? How does it listen? How does it move? You think it doesn't matter? ..You could not be further from Truth. Truth moves through the current of honesty, respect, gentleness, kindness, compassion, patience, understanding.. It moves in very simple and subtle ways. It may not seem like anything that special at all. But it is infinite intelligence itself. All of it. Yet it goes completely unnoticed - more often than not. It does not try to scream in your face. It does not try to let everyone know: 'Hey, you see this? I'm doing enlightenment shit! Look at how full of love n Light I am!' ..No. It doesn't give a flying fuck about anything else but what's right in front of its face. It is committed to responding to everything as if it's responding to God. Because that is, in fact, the case. God. I'm so enlightened. I hope everyone here can see that clearly haha But seriously; I'm not just showing off my enlightenment dance-moves here. I'm genuinely sharing with you a very important message. At least in my eyes. And the message is clear. It's ok that you're full of shit. We all are. Accept your shit. Try not feeding it to others. Let others do their shit. Respect that process. Be kind and compassionate towards yourself and others. Because in case you didn't notice; we're kinda dealing with a lot of shit here. And that - my dear fellow actualizers - is how to be a real, honest motherfucker. Love you all. Peace.

A few more words about what the shadow actually is and why do we purge; The shadow is basically all that stuff that you denied, suppressed and buried deep in your subconscious. It's the 'not so pretty' side of you. You can kinda intuit it's there (in most cases), but you're not really in touch with it. You don't have control over it. It simply takes over when triggered. That is what we want to resolve. We don't want to be avoiding the shadow. We want to become familiar with it, understand it, learn from its lessons and integrate it. Once integrated to a certain degree; there will be a lot more space for you to act appropriately when things get heated. Meaning; you will not be taken over, lose control or go unconscious. At least not as hard as before. You will learn how to hold space for the energy and turn it into your advantage. Into your power. The shadow holds a key to great power, indeed. So why do we need to purge? Well simply because we have been denied of expressing that side of ourselves for a long time - if you will. So there is a lot of built up energy - ready to explode at any moment. This can happen in many different ways. And again; if done consciously, you will unlock another level. You will gain access to more space, clarity, wisdom, stability, intuition, emotional intelligence, etc. Simply put; you will become highly in tune with yourself. Because there will be nothing in the way. Nothing that's blocking the current. You might think that there is no shadow in your experience and that you don't have to purge or anything.. But be careful; that might as well be the shadow's thin voice trying to fool you and keep itself hidden from sight. It does not like the light. Not until you form an alliance with darkness.

You cannot catch it because it's not going anywhere.

@OneIntoOne Yeah, I was kinda disappointed too later on.. But I think there are some cool pointers. Cool scenes. And I dig the concept.

That it means anything; is an idea. Why would it have to mean anything? Once you find your way to being and become comfortable with it; meaning becomes something you play around with - so to speak. It can change and adjust itself. Depending on what's most in alignment with one's truth in each and every moment.

Has anyone seen 'Rebirth' ? I'm half way in and I'm loving it!

@Shin Maybe we have a different definition of a continuum. My definition of it does not include past or future. Or present, even. That would be slicing it, again. It's just a live, non-stop party.

There is a continuum. It's just that perception is slicing it up. Hence the experience of time. Change is constant, indeed.

@RickyFitts That seems like a healthy way of thinking. Good for you.

@RickyFitts Feel ya. But there are times when walking away is not the highest choice. Sometimes God wants you to commit to your truth and stand your ground - so to speak. Say what you gotta say, and then turn around and walk away. Kinda practicing getting nasty in a (semi) conscious way these days. I find that relevant now. I slept through those classes.

@WaveInTheOcean Thanks, but I'm not really looking for a dating advice here. This is just me speaking of my experiences and expressing my thoughts about the mainstream dating scene. @diamondpenguin This is not about one girl. Or one guy. But I get your point. Judgment is not all bad. That dawned on me recently. Judgment can be very useful and effective if done correctly in reasonable measures. Especially while swimming through these orange waters. I can I assure you that I do not lack compassion for people who suffer. I lack this - if anything. Speaking my mind and not giving a fuck about anything else, at all. This is how I'm balancing things out in my personal experience atm. Which, again, is not exactly the point of this thread.

@Roy Haha. Well said. I don't understand... Why can't we have crazy, kinky sex without ruining each-other's lives? And our future kids.. I truly believe that can be done. There can be a healthy way to explore and enjoy all that mumbo jumbo. Without literally turning your lover into your parent.

Yup, can relate to that too. My mother had pretty much zero emotional intelligence. She was always so distant, absent... And my father... Well, I barely saw the dude 5 times in my life. And would you look at that... I don't have the need to turn my lovers into my mommy or my daddy. Because I was dealing with my shit throughout my life. I dared to feel all that crap. Totally hear ya regarding acting child-like in a relationship though. I like that shit too. But that can also turn toxic. If two individuals do not have their inner child stuff resolved before committing to a relationship... It can quickly turn nasty. So yeah... (speaking in general) I don't sympathise much with folks who are pissed about what I said here. You're not special or anything in that sense. You're not the only one who had family issues. You just don't have the balls to face your own shit. You'd rather keep yourself distracted forever and bitch about how hard life is for you. I cannot respect that, sorry. I can only say my thing and then step away.

Yup. It's a bit uncomfortable, but also kinda fun. At least in my experience. And it's not this forum only that reflects this. The world in general praises dickeadness, arrogance and toxic assertiveness. And I'm kinda saying here that that can be done in an honest, no-bs way. It can be a good useful skill to have. Sometimes there is no other way out. You cannot reason with some people the nice and gentle way. It flies over their head. Interesting, thanks. Might look into that deeper. Good one. @RickyFitts Cool stuff, thanks!

On purpose. This forum seems to be encouraging people to be dickheads sometimes and feel no shame. So I guess I'm kinda trying that out. Integrating that aspect of myself - if you will. Because it is, as of now, kinda foreign to me. This forum understands this kind of language the most.

@Proserpina Cool. If it works for you or anyone else - good. It does not work for me. As I said earlier; I know what it's like to be a parent figure to a lover. It was not fun or helpful. It was traumatizing and sick. And I'm sure I'm not the only one with such experiences. This shit can get real toxic. No doubt about. Nothing anyone says here can change my mind about that. Regarding acting out your childish impulses... Take this thread for an example. It is, in fact, quite childish the way I put things. But that is kinda on purpose. There is intelligence behind dumbing things down. And this forum seems to understand that kind of language the best.

@Proserpina Ok. Let's say it can be healthy and helpful in some cases. But is it in most cases? I'd say not.

@kai0 Sorry if you feel judged. That was not my intention. But I'm not going to apologise for expressing a point of view. @intotheblack Interesting point. Thanks.

@kai0 Stop projecting your bullshit on me and gaslighting me. You don't like what's being said? Cool. Move on, do your shit. No need to make things personal. I'm not calling out or insulting anyone directly here. @SamC Why do we care about anything at all? I just do, for whatever reason. Those who don't can keep on doing their thing. It's not my business.

@Emerald Right.. I was not aware of how triggering this can be to subs, or you know, whatever. Excuse my ignorance. I'm not a sex therapist. I do not specialize in this shit. If someone could explain whats going on in a sane, rational way - that would be awesome. My original post was supposed to be a fun way to express my views on the mainstream dating scene. And maybe learn something new. That's all. This is not the 'serious emotional problems' section. People like @Heart of Space should go hang out there a bit more.

@Heart of Space Cool then. I thought you were a massive troll or just batt shit crazy. But it's only the voice of God.. All is well. Anyways.. I'm sleepy and I'm done dealing with you here. 'night.

@Heart of Space Oh, I get it now. You are afraid to lose your power. You are afraid that people might wake up and there will be no one left to feed your bullshit to. Sorry if I'm ruining that for you. It's nothing personal. Just part of the game. You almost got me though. You're a good dom, daddy.

@Heart of Space Thank you for your blessings. Feeling so lucky, ineed. I'm so lucky that I see past bullshit like this. You know why? Because I ate a lot of it in my life. By bullshitters like yourself. I see right through it now. But many might not. Not until they go through all that pain and suffering. So go ahead. Encourage that shit. It's all a circus already, right? Let's all fuck our daddies and mommies and never dare to ask ourselves a single question about anything. Yeah.. I'm not gonna be on that party. Have fun.