Inliytened1

What do you mean by high quality? Money and status? Agreed. Kings had multiple women all the time even if they had one wife they had a mistress or two on the side. It was pretty standard.

Well then you live happily ever after. I really feel that any couple that does is very blessed. It is hard to find.

See..but you almost ruin it by putting labels on it. They should want to move towards it without the labels. When you do that you could scare us off. We don't like to necessarily put everything in clear boxes. I think we like the chaos. But we do come around to it. So let us.

Yeah. What's your vision? I think maybe you should lower the bar a little. Not every guy is gonna share your vision but he still might be a good fit.

Well that's what I'm saying. Women need these things. The simple things that we idiots take for granted. You understand them and you understand how to value and cherish them. While we just piss our lives away waiting for the next lay. You have your hands full. That is all i can say.

Now it becomes clear. Yes. Absolutely. That's something I am trying to learn. Certain things need to glow by their own right. Like the relationship. It needs to glow, Separate from everything else. It needs to be it's own entity. To identify it as such should not be necessary if he is doing it right.

Was it the lack of him using labels or the lack of him being able to distinguish distinctions. Because that's all you really need. You don't need to put labels on things if you already have them separated in your mind.

Well, labels don't make much sense to me either. Why would you try to label anything. That doesn't sound like a relationship breaker. There is something you're not telling me. But it's OK. It sounds like like you needed to move on from him and did. It sounds like you were more developed than he was and he couldn't adapt or rise to your level. That's not about being better or smarter, its about being connected. And you're right, I have actually had failed relationships due to both scenarios you mentioned. I tend to be more of the homebody.

So what makes him compatible? Is it is calmness? You mentioned anxiety. So..with the incompatible guy it sounds like tension is in the air. But with the compatible guy it's just smooth. No tension. Is that the difference? Sounds like the guy trying too hard loses.

Unfortunately I know all of it. I wish I didn't.

My last one was ultimate punishment of what winging it, not vetting brings. I literally let psycho in my door to play.

You guys find a way for us to be incompatible.

Yeah no keep that shit buttoned up. But if she asks be honest. Because she will know when you are lying. They know. I don't know how but they do.

No. I've just been through the ringer with women.

No. Yours is a bit immature. And you admitted so..because you said your views could change in a few years. You are taking on a lot. With everything you're pushing. And it's good stuff. So heck, you can end up ahead of both Leo and I. But right now we have the experience game on you.

You clearly said not telling her certain things right? Well. Be careful..women are like the lie police. They will know when you're lying, and then it is shit on you. Just be honest with her whatever you do. And then you can't go wrong. I learned fhe hard way.

Bro. Yeah if you sign up. Like i said. Empty world. Dollar signs that is it. Be careful not to glorify the porn industry.

That's how I roll. I wing it. How I am still here is another matter. So now that I recognized how reckless I have been, is it time to stop, or go full throttle? I say push it to the limit.

Yeah that's going to go far. Lying to her.

"Reality is imagination" --Leo Gura 😞

I was too busy reading about physics. Shame on me.

There is something fundamentally wrong with this though. It is too robotic. I'm not saying you aren't on the right path. Hell. I may have slept with 200 girls but what do I have to show for it? A trophy on the wall? But it's just the way you analyze everything seems to be missing the human component somewhere. That's what I want you to bring to mind. If it is all a game of chess, when you win at the end, you want to feel like you have played, otherwise none of it was worth it.

You guys put it in front of us. So. We are like caged beasts.

That's a fucking understatement. I learned the hard way folks. Just stuck my head in and got it nearly knocked off. Don't do that. VET VET and then VET some more. But I'm almost convinced now that they are all crazy. As for the value she would bring - i don't want to look at women as property or a kind of asset. I did love her and I still do. Living together wasn't feasible though.

That's absolutely correct. I got nagged because I wasn't doing "my duties" around the house. Even though I was flipping the bill for everything and she got a free ride. She said I made her into nothing more than a hired maid. I disagree completely.