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Also, rather than taking breaks or doing pomodoro, you could try the log method: Very cringey old video, but perhaps worth a shot to get you back into that flow state after your first hour of focus has passed.

@Amannl3in I have struggled with focusing issues for half my life, and have a lot of experience fixing them. Let's begin. I need to know whether this is something you "have to" read, or if it's something you are really interested in and there's no pressure. Just tell me the level of pressure you put on yourself to read it, and also how interesting you find it. Both on a scale of 1 to 10. Please tell me what other issues you struggle with. How calm and peaceful do you feel throughout the day? Do you have other neurotic tendencies, anxieties, insecurities, fears, triggers, anything like that? They could be more related than you think. Please tell me how much caffeine you consume and at what times, and how many hours you sleep. What other interests do you have besides what you are reading? Is there something your mind wants to rather do instead?

@Karmadhi If you insist on being attached to this feeling that something is not fair, don't let me stop you But that is your choice. It has consequences for your well-being. You could try letting it go. Maybe just for a minute. It won't kill you, I promise You deserve, and can have, everything you really want.

@Illusory Self Awesome, then I think your most efficient growth can be had by going on a date sober, blowing it, doing the inner work using that guided video or a written shadow work practice, and repeat. You'll probably feel way more confident on the next date already.

@Rishabh R I'm just giving you the abstract rundown of how these things can go. All you need to do is follow that good feeling and act on it. Take opportunities and realise that doubts are part of the process. Over time you can learn to recognize your inner voice from different mind parts, thereby separating doubts from your inner voice telling you you need to change course. But that's tricky and don't worry about it.

@7thLetter I believe we had a DM conversation about this, but it may have been about something else. Hey, that sounds a lot like me. I also planned to be successful at a young age, but I couldn't really push through on the initiatives I took, and the opportunities I got. But as I look at it today, being 29, I can see there was a good reason for that. I was held back by inner problems I had to resolve first. And doing that also showed me a much more meaningful purpose. I'm happier than ever today, my success is growing fast, literally having to cry tears of joy almost daily. (Ok, I'm having an emotional week ok:)) So it's all good in the end, even though it definitely didn't seem that way when I was beating myself up over still not having started that business, et cetera. An important part for you, I sense, is to forgive yourself? Your view that you "weren't putting in enough effort" is perhaps true, but very one-sided and self-punishing. There must be a mindset issue holding you back from putting in enough effort, or you would have! And that mindset problem is something you either inherited, or built up as a defense mechanism against unpleasant or traumatic circumstances earlier on in your life. So acknowledge that. This is part of your karma, and you can deal with it and heal it, if you respect it and allow space for it. And trust that you will find your success when you are ready to receive it. So keep pushing and working and doing courageaus steps to become ready. I won't go into the crypto thing but I agree with Leo on that.

These doubts are not necessary at all If a job related to that turns out to be the right step, then yes you will. If you don't get that, then that wasn't the right step. Your life purpose exists in many stages and layers. Perhaps you are supposed to actualize what you have come up with now, in which case all you need to do is take opportunities that feel right. Perhaps you are supposed to find a deeper layer of your life purpose whilst shooting for this one, which is completely fine too, in which case you follow this one and use it as fuel, but be ready to let go of it when a more meaningful layer presents itself.

I didn't mean to say don't learn your craft from other people, I specifically meant don't let other people tell you what's possible and what's not possible, or even what's hard and what's easy! They are wildly inaccurate and what they say has no significance for your individual situation, vision and story. You know you are good in your heart, and also from feedback from customers. No need to look at competition, in fact, I'd avoid it altogether because it will just stress you out needlessly. You don't have to output "more" value than them, it just has to be YOUR unique value. To a certain extent you can imitate people to learn the basics, but after that you should get out of imitation as soon as possible. When your work is uniquely yours, you don't really have any competition. Get out of the mindset of competition altogether. No one can provide what you can. Unless all you do is imitate others. Which I don't recommend, because it gets you in competition mode. Stressful, isn't it? I have no idea what my competitors are doing. In fact, as far as I'm concerned, I have none. I do my work for people who resonate with me, and it's perfect for them. And I use their feedback to make it better! Not looking sideways to what others are doing, that's terrible. You learn that stuff quickly enough by doing, trial and error. And befriending and talking to people who are steps ahead of you. That's important. None of this is a good excuse to start watching your "competition". In order to win, you have to do the opposite of what most are doing. What affirmations are you using? It's good that you can see yourself being an artist, but can you see yourself being a wildly successful artist who doesn't have to compete, and can do work he loves in a relaxed way, for customers that love what he does, and happily pay so much that you can work in a relaxed way? Or whatever your version of the ideal state is. If you are visualizing and affirming that correctly so that you actually believe it, your intuition will start to give you clues on how to make that a reality. That will probably involve some scary steps to differentiate your work and which will set you apart. All you need is courage to follow it.

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@Illusory Self Doesn't matter but stay sober so that you can notice the physical and mental effects of being triggered. So if during nightgame you drink alcohol, that's not so good. If I had known about shadow work when I started doing daygame and dating, I would have progressed much faster ... it works extremely well to provoke triggers. And "pushing through" alone is like learning to drive with the handbrake on. Slightly favor daygame then, because you're more likely to journal afterwards.

Excellent post. I would like to make a distinction: the seeking of happiness from the seeking of God. Seeking happiness comes from internal lack-beliefs, which can be healed. But that does not mean that seeking in general should be avoided! The seeking impulse can and should be trusted. Separate inspiration-based from lack-based seeking. Or you may well find yourself one of those people without inspiration. Deadening themselves with misdirected acceptance.

You must be kidding. Every scientific experiment is done either looking to prove or to disprove something. THAT'S A BIAS. Hypothesis influences outcome. Mind and matter are interconnected. There's no way around that.

Decisions are not the source of regret, self pity and frustration. They are merely the object of projection. Regret itself is a decision that can be un-made, thereby unlocking tremendous potential for learning and growth, which can not be accessed from the framework of regret, which implies "right" and "wrong" decisions. @Thought Art I'll stop nitpicking now and just say congratulations on this video! Just realised you made this. Excellent! I like the topic!

This is highly personality dependent. You are looking at this through the lense of someone who uses these tools in order to live intentionally. There's a big section of people for whom these tools actually would be in the way of living intentionally. Personally, I've been either one at different times. These days, all I need to make good decisions are my powerful vision and my intuition, and just being in touch with raw inner power and Creation.

Planning out years is often a pointless effort, I wouldn't recommend it unless you have good reason to believe that you will be going steady for a long time. A good question to ask, is: what is the half-life of my priorities? Which can be answered by looking at your current top 5 goals, and going back in time to see: How long ago did I create these? What were my priorities and goals before? How long ago did I decide on those? From this information, you can deduce how long your priorities last, before you make a growth spurt and change them again. Let's call this value Hp. This is the maximum amount of time that it makes sense to make a plan for. Your current pace of personal growth = 1 / Hp Which means that you are actually developing faster, if you find your priorities shifting quicker. So there is no shame in making a 3 month plan only.

Basically, yes. In more ways than one. Making them think that there is something permanently wrong with them, calling it a disorder, and letting them believe they have a genetic predisposition and that's why their life will always be filled with suffering, is another way. This rabbit hole goes deep ?

This is a very important clue - it's a disproportional reaction. For example, when people without this issue eat food, they only feel mildly satisfied - not anxious. This anxiety and sense of hating yourself means that eating is a trigger for you. Triggers can be resolved by following them down to the root. You can use my video to help you try it out: It's a form of shadow work. You can look up different styles of it. Don't let it overwhelm you. Find a method that works for you. You can make a lot of progress on this problem in only a couple of sessions. Good luck

@Fearless_Bum Trial and error, just like you! Personally, the theobromine in cacao only affects me for about an hour, so I don't get sleeping problems from it. If they hold a lot of caffeine, though, that will be in my system for literally days - so then I have to be careful. But again, find what works for you.

@Tristan12 Beans, chickpeas, quinoa, (sweet) potatoes, pumpkin and the like, and don't forget to add a lot of healthy oils such as olive oil, coconut oil, avocado oil, sesame oil or flaxseed oil. Usually when I don't get full, I didn't add enough oil.

This is a one time experiment which I will never repeat. I thought for once I'll buy a 120 euro perfume and smell awesome on special occasions for the rest of the year. Turns out I'm allergic to that toxic shit. I've been sneezing and having headaches whenever I wear clothes that I sprayed that on. Hope I didn't give anyone else the sniffles? Actually people reported breathing issues standing close to me, not even joking. I'll stick with my natural herbal deodorant powder from now on. Last time I do something mainstream? What I use is called "Scent of Samadhi", it's a small jar with some natural ingredients powder that you rub a tiny bit of under your armpits and smell very pleasant. The jar has lasted me for over a year already, and it was only 30 bucks.

@hyruga People have died drinking too much water. Or from working out in a stupid way. You can also do WHM in a stupid way. It's meaningless.

Yeah, these are good. Also, you can probably find workshops where you can rage and scream in a safe setting. I actually gave one such workshop last week. It was a blast!!!

@ValiantSalvatore Make sure to focus on pictures where you are in the forefront / center of the group, and the other people are standing around you. I make this mistake often, where I am somewhere in the back, thinking about stuff. And then in the picture it ends up looking like I am not a leader but a follower. People can infer group dynamics and your social status from a picture.

@Karmadhi What @something_else said was a good point. Another factor is that women can get laid more easily than men, but just getting laid is less fulfilling to women than it is for men (generalizing). A typical healthy woman will value safety, relationship and masculine containment way more than casual sex, even if she enjoys both. So casual sex for her is typically just a way to get to the good stuff (being contained in a relationship) and have fun along the way. For you, it may be the good stuff itself! At least in this phase of your life. So yes, for her it's easier, but less satisfying. None of this is something to get upset about. You can still have casual sex with women who are physically more attractive than you, if that's what you want. Just takes a little more effort than just swiping

@chakra_7654321 Felt like I should reply because there haven't been many good responses. Except for this: This is excellent. Professionally, I would tell you this: Your post perfectly matches your issue. Being in your head a lot = overthinking, which perfectly matches this long post. It seems you tend to try different approaches / advices, but not with enough faith and follow-through to actually have it work for you, and then quickly go looking for more information, more advice, more different approaches. In the mean time you're not really trying anything, you're mostly building a database of conflicting tips and tricks in your head. Putting you even more in your head. (Over)thinking is a defense mechanism against feeling. Learn to feel your body while you talk to people. It really is that simple. Not easy! Simple. One practice that helped me with similar things, is ecstatic dance. But you don't need another tip or trick like that. That would just give you another thing to point to and say: See? I've tried that too, that didn't work either. Nothing works Learn to feel. Develop awareness of where your awareness goes as you talk to women. Does it float out of your body, into your head? Bring it back. To your hands. To your feet. To your belly. Do this again and again and again. That's all you need.