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You may be setting a standard that reality doesn't easily reach. People are what they are, and if you're too intense for most of them, you can double down and say you're not going to settle for anyone who can't handle it, or you can learn to modulate it - turn it up or down as needed. Also, them pulling away may not just be about the intensity - it could be about the presentation. Like this line: "Can you express what you want to express right now without words". If you often say things like this, many people will start to think you're "weird" and that could cause them to pull away, the more of this "weirdness" you expose them to. I can tell you now, if you take 10 similar lines and say them all within the span of a week, most people will get "strange" vibes and be put off. So, there's really no way around the fact that if you want a sustained relationship, you will have to measure and calibrate your communications. Which means, you'll have to do what you don't want to: tailor your interactions. lol.

Have you tried not trying? LIke, just going out to have fun and not trying to pick anyone up? Putting myself out there when I was younger was difficult for me as well due to social anxiety, but a few drinks always opened me right up. If I were to set the intention of picking someone up, it would only increase my anxiety. When I dropped that intention, I was able to have fun, which attracts women. No effort required. Just have fun. If you're like me and find that difficult to do in social settings, have some drinks. If your goal is to master pickup, state, frame, methods, and all that stuff, I have no experience with that stuff and I'm biased against it.

Right, you see more couples than anything, even at night. But night time is when you really see the action. Not sure how busy it is down there now though.

Yep, 24/7. You see some crazy shit on there.

Bro, are you already down there? lol. Some muscular black dude was just there doing pickup.

Ah, my bad. Just like 3 coincidences and the writing made me think that. I just found it's easy to get in trouble at the Brass Monkey. Lots of drug dealing and violent types flock there, at least when I was there. I moved out of the keys about 8 years ago, so things could have changed. Key west is a no-brainer compared to Marathon. I'm specifically thinking about Duval street. Surely you've been, right? If not, pull up this street cam: https://liveduvalstreet.com/ at night and you'll see an abundance of nice looking women just hanging out around there. It's not uncommon to see groups of drunk girls shaking their asses and tits to that camera. There's so many bars and clubs right next to each other and things are much more lively than Marathon. The Green Parrot off the 700 block is pretty cool. And Irish Kevins, 400 block I think. But also, tons of other off Duval street like Shannah Key (Irish bar). If you want to do pickup, Duval street. If you want to sit down and make friends with a lots of people, check out Coconuts in Big Pine, or the Tiki bar in Ramrod, just below Big Pine. Only problem is Key West is over an hour drive for you. I'm not as familiar with Marathon but I never really saw much there. I do like that Sunset Grill (I think that's the name of it), right before the bridge leaving Marathon. You're in a great location to practice socializing. Probably want to heal up first though, lol. If you're already socializing around Marathon and doing things like karaoke, what's the problem?

Actually, I think this is a bot account who has picked up on recent posts about grinding web design and mention of the Fl keys. Jesus. What a waste of time. Bots seem to be becoming a real problem.

If you’re 6’4, jacked, and attractive, just go to Key West and stroll up and down Duval street from Truman Ave all the way down to Front St. from 7PM-2AM. Spend more time around the 200 and 300 block. Hoards of loose girls will notice you and many of them will talk to you as they pass. Or, you can just post up right outside Sloppy Joes and we can watch you on their live web cam. Lol. I used to work on Duval St. and saw shit on a daily basis that would blow my mind - especially at night. There’s no way a tall, good looking jacked dude walks down that street for a few hours without a sex offer. Very little game, if any, required. Even I was called out a few times and I’m 5’7 and not that attractive. Maybe you can do that to build momentum and to not feel like an incel. Once you break that spell, maybe start hanging around Marathon at the Sunset Grill by the pool with your shirt off sipping a cocktail. Stay away from the Brass Monkey though. Lol. Seriously. I used to like a bar in Big Pine called Coconuts, but I think it’s changed a lot, for the worse, but still could be good for Fri and Sat night adventures.

Yes, it’s hard for people to track the non-linear. Those close to me still make mistakes all the time assuming I’m doing something that I’m not. If you see me reading the Bible, it’s not because I’m interested in Christianity. And if you see me outside in my yard swinging a dog toy on a rope like a helicopter, I’m more so doing shoulder rehab than playing with my dog. lol. 1. Linear thinker’s version (They narrate every step as they go, keeping it obvious to others.) My shoulder needs rehab. One exercise for shoulder rehab involves circular swinging motions. I can replicate that with a rope toy. My dog also enjoys rope toys. I’ll swing the rope toy to work my shoulder and engage my dog. From the outside, everyone can follow that in real time. No mystery. 2. Non-linear version(All these steps happen internally in milliseconds) Notice shoulder feels tight → recall PT exercise from months ago. Instantly connect exercise motion with dog rope toy motion (pattern match). Remember your dog hasn’t played in a while → anticipate benefit for dog’s mood. Factor in you’re already outside and have space to swing it. Decide to combine tasks: rehab + play. lol. Same outcome, but very different paths to get there. Ni needs Te to reverse engineer what it knows.

If I had AI when I was 20, I think I could be maybe 2-4x more intelligent than I am now. The speed at which I can flesh out insights is much faster when using AI.There are tons of things you don’t even consider, which AI can reveal. Also, intelligence in cumulative. It snowballs. The unlocking of one insight paves the way for the next. I’ve fleshed out many deep insights with AI, but it doesn’t direct my thinking. I plug my thinking into it and tell it to help me get clarity on my ideas. That is priceless. Like having access to a genius coach 24/7.

Exactly

@Princess Arabia Do you stay busy? Does work get slow? How hard is it for you to find new work that pays your set wage? Or does your wage fluctuate?

Strange breed 😂

Ah, someone who knows what I'm talking about! Haha, yes, it's funny you caught that. I almost forgot to add it in when writing, but it's important. Regarding casual acquaintances, it's probably to do with opening them up too quickly. I've noticed this before. They probably reflect on the experience of spilling some of their most intimate thoughts to a stranger or acquaintance, or admitting things in real time that they themselves have not considered before, and when they reflect on the experience, it just makes them feel uneasy without some history. You just have to read them the next time you see them. If they appear closed or hesitant at all, show no eagerness to engage them. I found they will often find their way back to you if you don't appear eager to engage them, but it's different for everyone. Some people show back up with a huge smile on their face, ready to pick up where you left off, while others disengage but secretly wish you would engage them again, while others stay as far away from you as possible. lol. We aren't compatible with the latter anyway. When I first started connecting with people like this, I'd sometimes get carried away with the intensity, but with experience, I learned when to tone it down.

Could it be that's not really what they're after? IME, most people are not trying to attain some new understanding of their psyche so they can transcend their current state. IME, certain types of people are drawn into my self-containment, as they can sense something deep, something quiet, yet intense. Something intelligent, something strong, but it's not so much they they want to attain what I have or even understand how it works so much as it is just alluring to them and they'd like to be with it, explore it, and be explored by it. Many people feel threatened by this intensity but others love to be the center of my attention for a while because I probe and get to know them with the same depth of perception, analysis, and acceptance that I give to myself. So I give that to them and they like it, but I don't think they are after my innerworkings, not IME. You may read my description and think "I detect ego". But I'm well aware of this. For me to acknowledge these things, I had to accept the reality that I am quite different and possess admirable traits. You seem put off by the idea of owning your gifts. It can be tricky to accept them without letting the ego co-opt the truth, but if there's a block with you, I suspect it could be there. I'm not claiming this is what's going on with you, but it did stand out as a possibility. I analyzed you a bit and came up with this: Maybe by accepting that you're quite special, without hedging, the block would go away. I hope you don't mind me analyzing you out in the open.

ENTPs are some of my favs. Non-conformist and don't really give a shit what others think. They're very weird in their own way, which I like because so am I, and they show the INTJ how to extrovert. They're pretty fun. Plus, they're usually flirts and often even a bit slutty, which I also like. 😂 INFPs can only handle so much of the INTJ. Both types would need to be healthy/mature for their connection to last. It's not always easy to balance the give and take with the INFP. For me to sustain a relationship with this type, I have to give them the floor like 70% of the time and it's not uncommon for them to become bored or tune out when the INTJ has the floor. But still, they're decent at sticking with you, compared to most other types.

Why don’t you guys start up a business? Do you have any marketable skills? If one of you knows how to build websites or something, and the other knows how to do marketing or sales, you can have your first clients within 2-3 months time. And you could use this forum to ask for all sorts of advice along the way. Of course it’s hard to escape when you’re in it because you don’t have much energy left to do things, but it can be done, and probably much easier if you band together. Channel all this passion into a business pursuit and it will work, no doubt. This is the same energy I used to escape my construction job. I quit that job and worked 14-16 hours a day making damn sure I would never work for anyone else ever again. How bad do you really want out? Gotta take some risks.

Yeah, I wouldn’t rule out some pathology 😂 What is it they’re trying to find in you that you say doesn’t exist?

Some guys would just like some pussy without a girlfriend. Such as myself, and Dr. House from House, MD.

They're not opposing socialism. That implies they are thinking. We've already covered that they aren't arriving at "socialism bad" from analysis. And they are not intuiting socialism is bad, as that cannot be intuited without knowledge. They say "socialism bad" because homeostasis, fear, propaganda, tribalism, culture war. They tribally adopt "socialism bad, liberal bad, capitalism = conservative = good" like a Pavlovian reflex, not from some magical wisdom that just happens to find them. I smell Jordan Peterson.

So are you saying the electorate has been getting it right?

Gotcha. It just sounded like you were saying the majority position in the electorate (conservative) is more accurate than the position of the one you're calling a socialist, and it sounded like you were using an appeal to popularity and/or wisdom of the crowd fallacy to prove that point. So I just thought I'd swoop in and remind everyone that the electorate is dumb af. 😆

Oh, I thought you said "They understand capitalism vs. socialism better. They understand human nature better." with "they" being the electorate. My bad.