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One of the things I like most about music is how it takes me back to a time in my life where I was blind to many things. Making me remember the coal I've shoveled. For example, I used to listen to this when I was a teenager. And when I hear it today, it's just as good, if not better. So when I love this jam today, it's for reasons you can't tell from the song itself. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

lol. Classic.

Great song. I love some Skynrd. My favs:

That's awesome dude. You're on your way! I did some phenibut the other day and had insanely deep insights into how to be more socially likeable. I worked a lot of it out and started systematizing it, but then abandoned it because I just really don't care, lol. Your socializing is very good for an INTP. It seems totally normal, so props to that. If I were you and wanting to maximize, which you seem to want to, I would figure out how to effect any interaction in the way that you want. You can systematize affect while also being authentic. It was some deep shit that I came across and would like to share at some point. If you've never done phenibut, you can get some from nordic chems and try that out socially and see if/how that changes things. Good shit bro!

Sweet, looks interesting. You're still young and full of zest. That might not always be the case. I do like the idea of planned, minimal meetups though. That could work for me. What do you do? Just social media outreach invites? And what is the stated goal of your meetups? I could only get so far into your profile without an IG account.

I thought the same. All this fleshing out of God leads to some strange realities.

@LordFall Thanks! That's cool about helping the community. I'm too introverted for all that, but I do like helping people and it's definitely good for the soul. What exactly are you doing, if you don't mind?

"Chad wound", lol.

I've known many women in my life and they all basically operate this way. So if your manual doesn't see these viewpoints as representative, it's a bad manual. I was best friends with a couple of serial fuck-boys and it was insane how easily they got laid. Once had two hotties (or is it "baddies" these days?, lol) in the car and I already knew the 10 was going to my buddy and figured the 8 would be mine. Nope, they both wanted him. Crushing! I could have interpreted the experience as "This is unfair. Women are shallow sluts. Fuck them, and fuck guys like him". Or "Well, this motherfucker is producing an effect that I'm not producing". Notice the second interpretation allows for agency. "What do I have to do to compete? Obviously, I can't rely on my looks here." So yeah, on the whole, women are more likely to fuck guys like that, because who wouldn't go for the most attractive person if given the option? You can't allow that fact to make you resentful toward women. You are the same way. In my 2-girls 2-guys car story, everyone wanted the most attractive person, lol. That's just how it works on short horizons with little history. Both girls from my story used to called me regularly and the 8 eventually did come around and the 10 grew a little attraction toward me over time as well, which only happened after I talked to them a good bit. Luckily for us, women actually do care more about deep connection with an ordinary dude more than they do about shallow connection with Chad, even if Chad gets them easier and they're willing to put up with shallow connection for a time because he's attractive. It's an interesting idea that pickup is an attempt to be an antidote not just for getting pussy, but to deal with the emotions of not being wanted the way Chad is wanted.

When you haven’t eaten for 3 days, you desire food. If you run intensely, you will desire water. If your member gets hard, you will desire release. This means that non-acceptance or transcending desire doesn't necessarily make sense. It’s about survival, but it’s also a driving force for evolution. Also a driving force to comfort the human organism. Comfort is important. It seems the question is best asked from multiple angles. What is the evolutionary function? What is it phenomenologically? What does it produce individually? Is there really a difference in the desire to eat when you’re hungry vs a desire to accomplish some goal, aside from your stomach growling? IME, they seem like the same thing. The mind identifies something it wants and fixates on it. It’s hungry for something. The only reason to transcend the hunger is if you don’t want what it will produce. Spiritual people don’t say a desire for God is bad, because God is what they want. Don't let spiritual people gaslight you that all desires except for spiritual desire are pathological or should be transcended. Desires for non-immediate physical survival are preferences you can drop or maintain, depending on what is best for you, and the extent to which you can set them aside.

It’s a preference that AO treats like the one cosmic mission. Some prefer a cosmic mission. After years of spiritual work, meditation, inquiry, and putting in the “work”, and we experience the so called fruits and are just like “so what?”, and we struggle to see why that way of living is better, it’s because we have a different preference. And of course AO will gaslight you for having a different preference, because it is blind to the nuance of its own trait psychology. “You don’t want what AO wants? You’re a fool.” That message is implied all over the place. “This work is the ultimate thing a human could do.” = a preference dressed up as the one universal goal any intelligent human would pursue. AO doesn’t understand it’s own trait psychology and preferences that stem from them. Which is a bit interesting given how it likes to understand everything. The machine never probed itself with the same depth and intensity it applies to everything else.

Please, do tell!

@Leo Gura what is being done to improve the quality of this community? Imagine if you had 20 great posters (you've currently got like 4). A lot of people are looking for higher quality engagement.

Not really.

I'm actually shocked by how often Emerald's articulations match my own intuitions that I myself never unpacked. Upon examination, most of what she says almost always tracks with my own intuition and understanding. Which leads me to believe she's actually pulling it out from her own intuition and lived experience, as opposed to an adopted/biased logical framework. That's the vibe I get. I think she's probably just very good at understanding her intuition. To make them legible to others necessitates linearity, logic, or a bit of intellectualizing.

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@tvaeli I have to agree with Leo. I've been involved with website design for a couple decades now, and there's something called visual design fundamentals and user interface (UI) design fundamentals. You're breaking many rules. A complex UI only works after the user has bought in and has a reason to explore it. Your homepage or landing page should be about selling the idea/making the offer clear. So I'd go back to AI with something like: - Can you take screenshots of my site and let me know what design and UI fundamentals are violated? - Can you help me get clear on the offer so we can figure out how to present this? - Can we explore information architecture? FYI, sounds/music should be very intentional with websites. You definitely don't want to have users hear viking songs when they come to your site. This isn't mere opinion.

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Sorry for butting in, none of my business, but can you elaborate on what specifically you want elaborated? I'm asking because it always feels like you're trying to insinuate or hint at something, but I don't know because you don't share enough of your yourself. I suspect it's to do with being paranoid of other people's intentions. For example, the other day you insinuated I was doing frame control on Natasha and you're always talking about how we don't know who the person behind the profile really is. Just a perspective of someone who's been perplexed by your online behavior. Take it or leave it. I'm guessing you'll leave it, lol. Either way, I mean no disrespect. Just trying to resolve my confusion.

@Natasha Tori Maru Thanks for explaining. That tracks with your previous reports. Yeah, I knew there was a woman in there 😝 What makes the difference is what I'm interested in. I'm sure it's nothing super exciting. Probably mostly explained by traits.

It's interesting because these are actually two archetypes that exist in the wild. Some women are receptive even if they don't plan on doing anything with you. They'll let you play your game while knowing it and they won't tell you they know it, and you should be able to tell when that's going on. Maybe they're waiting to see if you can catch on. lol I love it.

It actually would be interesting to figure out what is the difference in Natasha's perspective where she's receptive to being approached so long as it meets her standards, and the other girls who aren't interested in that approach at all. Like, try to answer this question. I have intuitions about the difference, but not sure. I suspect Natasha is a bit on the wild side a little bit. Can't unpack what exactly that means at the moment, but it has to do with spontaneity and potentially a specific flavor of openness. Almost like she actually wants it happen or welcomes it because it's an opportunity to be excited/interested in something new. Just the first few things that popped into my head. See, this inquiry is gold because if you spend the time figuring this out, you enhance your models of women and therefore can see the patterns when you're out and about and you aren't stuck with a one-size-fits-all approach. Imagine being able to get a read on both and calibrating for what you think would work on them specifically.