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Yes, being locked in Fi makes you that way but most of my time is using Ni-Te. When I do get rolling around in Fi, I become selfish. Good point. As uncomfortable as I fumble about with Se, I know I’m weak there and submit to higher skill. I used to work construction under a skilled and moody ISTP who was 15 years older than me. He was often on my ass, making me feel like a total fuckup. Lol. I usually allowed it because I knew I was fucking up. It was uncomfortable, but it was good for me I think. But of course, I used my Te to accept that, which the INFP likely won’t be able to do.

Haha, yes, that too is inevitable. Your energy will still press for expression though.

Acknowledge inherent worth; practice self-forgiveness; connect with others who affirm your value. Accept that mistakes are part of growth. Small acts of care or responsibility; exposure to inspiring, supportive environments that awaken will. Is the life of a newborn baby inherently valuable? At what point does life lose its value? Your life was once precious, just like that of a newborn, and it still is, but you’ve forgotten. If you know how to love someone else, give that same love to yourself. Try to see you are inherently valuable and deserving of life and love just because you exist.

Yeah, he knew it would resonate with his target audience. I remember being quite entertained by such tactics. It was delivering insight via entertainment, which is awesome. I used to laugh so hard at some of the shit he’d say, and I don’t even think he was trying to be funny, which made it even funnier.

Do you allow yourself a window or specific meal times? I usually eat whenever I want within an 8hr window. Kinda fell off the wagon as of late. Been doing OMAD and feeling decent.

When I first started getting on here, he kept popping up on me talking about “mirror effect”. I was like, “who is this Dunning Krueger mother fucker”? Lol. But here lately, I actually think he has a lot of potential since he’s only 21. Independent thinker and access to insight. Some of it is actually good if you look close.

True.

Yeah, I’m having to learn this. Some perspectives seem so trivial or foolish to me that I dismiss them and even experience agitation from them. But the other night I remembered that I can learn even from those. They show me how I get agitated. I experienced a spiritual opening I hadn’t felt in a long time when I dove into that insight. Not sure if this is coherent but essentially, I saw how to rid myself of cynicism. Something like: The shallow teach you what matters. The foolish remind you what not to do. The arrogant teach you how to spot fragility. The boring teach you where your attention dies. The hostile teach you how to stay centered. The dishonest teach you how to detect misalignment. The needy teach you the pull of validation. The clumsy teach you about patience. The close-minded teach you how to open further. The scattered teach you the value of focus. Everyone has something to offer.

I don’t think that’s why I do it. I think I just like their nature better. Not as much to prove. Open. Soft, even if not expressed. I like that.

It would definitely change. Lol. I tend to be softer with females. I was thinking the other day, I think I’ve gotten more insight from female perspectives here than males, if I were to add it all up.

Im waffling back and forth on if he’s actually a bot. Lol. Or maybe just opened an account to plug Kortex AI.

Makes sense to take into account. I mean, the whole point for me eating blueberries is the antioxidants, so if they’re being diminished by the banana in the smoothie, that’s no good. I also intuited this was happening with all sorts of foods but the complexity compounds quickly. I was thinking it might be best to take multiple antioxidant shots in between meals to avoid any possible diminution, but also to have a more steady supply in the bloodstream. Thought about doing this with anti-inflammatory compounds as well. Something like 4 shots per day of black seed, broccoli sprouts, turmeric + pepper. Tried it out for a while but it’s a lot of work. Need a good system to maintain it.

Plus traffic accidents and fatalities. It’s like the most obvious thing, yet people insist on following 1 or 2 car lengths apart at 60+ mph.

I was specifically thinking about ENTP women. I like how open they are. I don't like ENTP men. My best friend throughout life was INFP. Their selfishness was always a nagging thing in the background. They do more often than not value the Te, but they don't always respect it and will put their feels above it, even if you use Te to perfectly show them why that's a mistake. Sometimes, they can agree with you and accept everything you've laid out, but they still can't bring themselves to accept the truth. Even if you get them to follow every line of the Te and they agree with it, they will not accept the logical conclusion if their Fi is involved. That's annoying. But at least they're willing to put up with us. lol.

😂Sounds about right.

That's a good point. I never thought about it like that before, but that's spot on.

You may be setting a standard that reality doesn't easily reach. People are what they are, and if you're too intense for most of them, you can double down and say you're not going to settle for anyone who can't handle it, or you can learn to modulate it - turn it up or down as needed. Also, them pulling away may not just be about the intensity - it could be about the presentation. Like this line: "Can you express what you want to express right now without words". If you often say things like this, many people will start to think you're "weird" and that could cause them to pull away, the more of this "weirdness" you expose them to. I can tell you now, if you take 10 similar lines and say them all within the span of a week, most people will get "strange" vibes and be put off. So, there's really no way around the fact that if you want a sustained relationship, you will have to measure and calibrate your communications. Which means, you'll have to do what you don't want to: tailor your interactions. lol.

Have you tried not trying? LIke, just going out to have fun and not trying to pick anyone up? Putting myself out there when I was younger was difficult for me as well due to social anxiety, but a few drinks always opened me right up. If I were to set the intention of picking someone up, it would only increase my anxiety. When I dropped that intention, I was able to have fun, which attracts women. No effort required. Just have fun. If you're like me and find that difficult to do in social settings, have some drinks. If your goal is to master pickup, state, frame, methods, and all that stuff, I have no experience with that stuff and I'm biased against it.

Right, you see more couples than anything, even at night. But night time is when you really see the action. Not sure how busy it is down there now though.

Yep, 24/7. You see some crazy shit on there.

Bro, are you already down there? lol. Some muscular black dude was just there doing pickup.

Ah, my bad. Just like 3 coincidences and the writing made me think that. I just found it's easy to get in trouble at the Brass Monkey. Lots of drug dealing and violent types flock there, at least when I was there. I moved out of the keys about 8 years ago, so things could have changed. Key west is a no-brainer compared to Marathon. I'm specifically thinking about Duval street. Surely you've been, right? If not, pull up this street cam: https://liveduvalstreet.com/ at night and you'll see an abundance of nice looking women just hanging out around there. It's not uncommon to see groups of drunk girls shaking their asses and tits to that camera. There's so many bars and clubs right next to each other and things are much more lively than Marathon. The Green Parrot off the 700 block is pretty cool. And Irish Kevins, 400 block I think. But also, tons of other off Duval street like Shannah Key (Irish bar). If you want to do pickup, Duval street. If you want to sit down and make friends with a lots of people, check out Coconuts in Big Pine, or the Tiki bar in Ramrod, just below Big Pine. Only problem is Key West is over an hour drive for you. I'm not as familiar with Marathon but I never really saw much there. I do like that Sunset Grill (I think that's the name of it), right before the bridge leaving Marathon. You're in a great location to practice socializing. Probably want to heal up first though, lol. If you're already socializing around Marathon and doing things like karaoke, what's the problem?

Actually, I think this is a bot account who has picked up on recent posts about grinding web design and mention of the Fl keys. Jesus. What a waste of time. Bots seem to be becoming a real problem.

If you’re 6’4, jacked, and attractive, just go to Key West and stroll up and down Duval street from Truman Ave all the way down to Front St. from 7PM-2AM. Spend more time around the 200 and 300 block. Hoards of loose girls will notice you and many of them will talk to you as they pass. Or, you can just post up right outside Sloppy Joes and we can watch you on their live web cam. Lol. I used to work on Duval St. and saw shit on a daily basis that would blow my mind - especially at night. There’s no way a tall, good looking jacked dude walks down that street for a few hours without a sex offer. Very little game, if any, required. Even I was called out a few times and I’m 5’7 and not that attractive. Maybe you can do that to build momentum and to not feel like an incel. Once you break that spell, maybe start hanging around Marathon at the Sunset Grill by the pool with your shirt off sipping a cocktail. Stay away from the Brass Monkey though. Lol. Seriously. I used to like a bar in Big Pine called Coconuts, but I think it’s changed a lot, for the worse, but still could be good for Fri and Sat night adventures.

Yes, it’s hard for people to track the non-linear. Those close to me still make mistakes all the time assuming I’m doing something that I’m not. If you see me reading the Bible, it’s not because I’m interested in Christianity. And if you see me outside in my yard swinging a dog toy on a rope like a helicopter, I’m more so doing shoulder rehab than playing with my dog. lol. 1. Linear thinker’s version (They narrate every step as they go, keeping it obvious to others.) My shoulder needs rehab. One exercise for shoulder rehab involves circular swinging motions. I can replicate that with a rope toy. My dog also enjoys rope toys. I’ll swing the rope toy to work my shoulder and engage my dog. From the outside, everyone can follow that in real time. No mystery. 2. Non-linear version(All these steps happen internally in milliseconds) Notice shoulder feels tight → recall PT exercise from months ago. Instantly connect exercise motion with dog rope toy motion (pattern match). Remember your dog hasn’t played in a while → anticipate benefit for dog’s mood. Factor in you’re already outside and have space to swing it. Decide to combine tasks: rehab + play. lol. Same outcome, but very different paths to get there. Ni needs Te to reverse engineer what it knows.