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For the youngsters:

If anyone hasn't seen Don't Look Up yet, that's a banger.

Interstellar fa sho. And I really liked season 1 of Altered Carbon but not so much season 2. Just watched The Rip. Pretty good.

It’s as if you want to collapse all of psychology into 6 boxes and then try to refine those 6 boxes, as opposed to not boxing yourself in and looking at the more granular psychological aspects that can actually describe it in high definition, which is far more explanatory and predictive than SD ever could be. Obviously, SD can’t explain psychology better than the actual domain of psychology. So when you see something interesting in people, if you ask “how does this couch into SD” (which is what you’re asking here), that’s an inferior question to “what psychological configuration best explains this”. IMO, SD is limiting your model of other minds. For example, you’ve suggested I’m green, but usually, the only way I can actually have sympathy is via cognitive empathy, which requires me to model the mind experiencing the plight. So, either your assumption about me was wrong, or your explanation above is, or both. The truth is, the model has no slot for people like me, which is what led me to seeing how utterly flawed it is. Trying to cram every human into a handful of boxes doesn’t work. Hell, even MBTI has 16 boxes, and that’s not enough. You need like 500+ boxes, and here AO is trying to get by with 6. Lol The problem is trying to use SD to understand and label individuals. It takes like 10 seconds to intuit that’s not a good idea, if you’re actually objective and not biased towards it.

Thanks! The colors are the most important lol. It's basically a "component library" built on top of a design system (predefined styles like colors, spacing, font styles, etc). And components are just like building blocks you build once that you can use to build out a webpage or a user interface. So you can make something as simple as a button a component, then going forward be able to use it really easily like <Button variant="destructive" size="small"> Press me </Button> and that would produce a small red button and I never have to think about or manage spacing, color, font size, or anything else. So the idea is to do that with a lot of different components so you can build user interfaces really quickly and efficiently. And if you ever want to update your button, even if you've used it in a hundred places, you only have to update it in one place and the 100 buttons all update from that one component update. Hopefully I didn't bore you! lol

Conservatives be like Pride in the extermination of evil. Which we can all appreciate. It's just a matter of nuance.

Design system/components via Claude Design + Claude Code:

Fuckin A bro. Now we’re talkin

It seems to me that the individual human mind is so complex that without asking a ton of questions and investing a lot of time, the best we can do in the moment is try to make sense of the other person the best we can, toss out what comes to mind and see if it works or gets traction. Our very own shoulds are claims that we later add more nuance to as we see more.

@Emerald I agree with you that there's something to it, but I don't really see the point in breaking the two things apart. I see two lessons here: Lesson #1: when a girl tells you you're special, don't let that go to your head Lesson #2: other guys can get your girl off There was a lie that exacerbated pre-existing insecurities. If the lie never carried weight, and if the insecurities were worked through by clear seeing, there would be no problem. So the solution is to see clearly, not to wish the girl was more responsible. Or maybe I have an avoidant attachment style. lol

There are good nuances here but the fact remains that it's normal for guys to want to be special in this regard. Most likely, even without the lie, OP would still feel these deep insecurities. I think they're very common. I experienced them often, as did most of my friends. And you can see it all over the place. I actually think this is an important topic because of how widespread these feelings are. This is one of those things that isn't really talked about on a deep level because of how hard it is to deal with, but it's near universal. And I feel it's the source of a lot of negativity towards women. Like, when a guy finds out his girlfriend slept with someone else, the first impulse is often to call her a slut. That's largely because he's wondering if some other man has done her better. If the guy she cheated on him with had a limp dick and was horrible in bed and if the the boyfriend knew that, it would make him feel A LOT better. lol. This points to the issue. So IMO, it's very important to get to the bottom of these feelings. And the only way I can see to do that is to accept the fact that your girl is a sexual creature and another man can please her when it comes down to it. And that's normal, and okay. I think that's what men aren't acknowledging and accepting properly.

Prediction is control/safety. Safety → control → prediction → legibility → curiosity 😂

100% understand. And what makes you like it? Largely, I think you like it because your mind is good at it, and you get a reward signal when you make progress seeing more of the map. I'm inferring based on my own mind. The "what the fuck" feeling represents the prospect of a payoff, with the payoff being a more legible map of reality. I don't see it as curiosity + awe + wonder that spurs it on. I see it as wanting the most legible map and the experience of attaining that legibility makes use of dispositional curiosity, awe, and wonder (openness). There's a reason we want to fill in the map. And it's funny because we get rewarded for filling it in, which is why we keep doing it. lol. I'm very interested in this, but it's also very complex.

Plenty of men can give her a good fucking. Men want to be the only one who can do that for her. That's the error. It doesn't make sense. So accept reality and shed the insecurity. I went through this myself. It was heartbreaking to think of some other guy making my girl cum. There I was thinking I was the only one who could lay it down. lol Eventually, you find out otherwise.

Women don't go into sex wondering if you're going to fuck them as good as the last guy. Just like men don't approach it that way. Some guy she slept with in 2019 isn't in the room. You are. The only way he gets in the room is if you keep dragging him in with you. lol

No need for mental gymnastics. Simply accept the truth of reality: there are men who can fuck the shit out your girl and she would very much enjoy it, and more than likely, your girl has had great sex with other men. Because sex is enjoyable. That's the truth. Go ahead and accept it. It doesn't say anything about you. And sure, there are guys who can do her better than you, but that doesn't mean you aren't also good. Just maybe not as good as someone else. Where you go wrong is thinking that being the best she ever had is the price of admission. You're placing too much emphasis on sex and your dick. Women aren't operating like this. Stop measuring.

haha, yeah, I get you. It seems it's so context-dependent that you can't just slap the label on a character. I mean, you sort of can in general, but it's not like it applies 100% of the time, even to the most authentic of us. Good exploration.

I've been lazy and haven't tested Astra. I just don't really feel the pull to since Fable seems capable of doing everything I need. It's kind of nice that we've reached that point. Regarding Claude's verbosity:

@Natasha Tori Maru Thanks for explaining. Yes, it seems very complex. I'm not able to find a workable structure for some reason. I think I grasp the level of complexity. I'm just trying to understand the point of it. Not to undermine the idea, but to see if there's an easier way around it. I used AI to figure out wtf is wrong with my thinking here: For whatever that's worth. Seems legit. lol

@Emerald lol

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Many questions arise when I inquire into my confusion on this. I consider myself very authentic, in the sense that I'm not very willing to dispense with what my being is telling me about any particular thing, and honoring what I'm perceiving - trusting myself. To do otherwise is very unnatural to me and registers as a salient violation. So I ask myself, "what is the difficulty with being authentic?" and don't come up with the same problems. It seems. I may be missing something. Opened to being probed here 😆 Even telling white lies is usually effortful for me. If I'm saying something, it's because that's what I think. I realize I'm probably behind the curve of this convo, so bear with me, lol.

Good video!