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It actually can be beneficial to you, when it comes to experiences especially in managing. BUT don't neglect school. In my eyes school has a higher priority.

@MartineF You can edit your posts afterwards. I do too if I notice a mistake

Well that's interesting. I finally found someone who does this too. I feel enthusiastic when I see this

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What's your actual problem with facing your fears? What will happen to you if you do? What fears are you precisely talking about? What's the result you are hoping for if you face your fears? Do you really fear something or are you just overthinking?

You mentioned important facts here, but mostly I believe women get it wrong. Unfortunately many women or even society itself are not open minded enough.

This is what I found about this topic:

I don't think he is going to remove them. I guess he is aware of the fact that many people use / watch his old videos over and over again aswell. I do that too. I also noticed he has two videos on the topic "judgements" an old one and a new one. So I believe if he ever decides to delete one he will make a new one with deeper content to it. Soooo you see one is about the influence judgements have on your life and the other one is about how to stop judging (yourself). If he decides to delete them, he will probably make a new extreme long, 1h 30 mins video , out of the two. This is what I think.

This story doesn't sound healthy to your mind at all. Even the title says it all. Maybe you should watch this video:

This story doesn't sound healthy to your mind at all. Even the title says it all. Maybe you should watch this video:

@Pallero I'm a bit overwhelmed by your story. I literally was about to post the same today. I feel the same and you just described my situation. @Ayla Thanks! I guess this will work for me too. I also found the root cause / thought for this chaos in my head. Finally! This helped a lot!

Once you had an enlightenment experience you'll realize self-actualization and personal development work is important to get there and also be stable. You'll never stop learning and like Leo said, you grow until you're dead.

I struggled a lot with aggressions and I got into conflicts quite often. So what you mentioned here would have been a good starting point to me. Especially to calm down the mind and finally be aware of what's going on there. Luckily I already managed it and I'm pretty balanced when it comes to arguments. Hopefully more people will read your post. In my eyes it's really helpful!

Don't worry about your height. There is nothing wrong with you! I instantly thought of "Florian Neuschwander" when I saw your post. He is 5'6" aswell and an ultrarunner from Germany. He is extremely fast and his confidence is shining from within. You see, short guys can accomplish great things. Size does not matter. And another fact, from a woman's perspective, I notice the height of a guy, but this is not what catches my attention. I rather look at the proportions, his behavior and his character. Women observe a lot. So you better work on your confidence. Your height is something you can't change, accept and love it as it is. You are beautiful the way you are! And believe me a short guy with a strong character and confidence is far more attractive than a tall idiot.

I guess everyone has his/her own way to do it. Basically I write a summary of every self help video I watch. Also: important thoughts, solutions I found for myself, things I realize in a moment of clarity and so on. Sometimes I need an abstract like a mind map of all the thoughts I have to see what's going on in my head. You can see your progress, you can write letters to yourself, set goals, set up plans on how to achieve your goals... It helps you focussing and keeps you on track. So I don't know if this theme is worth a video. Maybe it's easier to just post this topic somewhere else in this forum? And you should take a look here: http://www.actualized.org/forum/forum/16-self-actualization-journals/ Maybe other journals will give you an insight on how to do it.

@Falk Maybe this video will help:

Maybe this will help too: What about a combination of stop worrying / stop overthinking and calming / clearing your mind through meditation? It worked well for me.

@An actualizer I know it's hard to see, but try to stay open-minded. Don't take the chances of developing good relationships away from you. There are a lot of toxic people out there, I know, but there are some good ones aswell.

@An actualizer I understand your situation. Maybe this is the root cause of your social anxiety? I remember a post of you where you said you struggle with this.

Got it. I had a similar situation with a woman who was a friend of mine for about 2 years. We had a lot to talk about and laughed really hard sometimes. I loved it... BUT she was extremely depressed, anxious and sometimes the situation turned into pure negativity from one second to another. Especially when it came to things like her love life, how lonely she feels and her money situation she couldn't handle. She also got into toxic relationships herself and wasn't ever able to break up. I can handle such sensitive / disordered humans, because I experienced a lot myself. What I want to say is, it became a toxic friendship, when she just talked about herself. She was not listening to my problems anymore and the whole thing sucked up my energy. And this made me quit this friendship. So whenever you realize this is sucking too much energy from you and it's more toxic than fun, I would say: quit. Think about it carefully. This is just my opinion.

We also have to other posts about this topic:

You experience real growth when you solve the problem and stop masking it. Leo explained it well in the video. So I noticed real growth in the area "panic attacks, social anxiety". I'm still working on that and I'm constantly facing my fears, but work pays off by now. I already have a post about it here:

I organize my stuff on a regular basis. I always ranted when I saw my mother hoarding stuff. I also think twice before I buy something. Saving money for traveling or going out seems more beneficial to me.

@Irina Irina I know how this feels, but never give up. Keep your head up I especially experience this up and down while searching for the roots of my disorders. Exhausting, but definitely worth it

This video helped a lot.