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Pickup is basically the science of pøø$$¥-hunting

research drug sensitization ( NOT DESENSITIZATION ) and neural pathways formation. Chemicals physically rewire the brain. For topics like this, plowing chatgpt for half an hour will resolve all your questions in terms of biochemistry and neuology. You're really missing out if you arent using it for your studies

Ahh man I've randomly read through this thread and Im thrilled to go clubbing again. I've done a lot of things over the last few months that arent directly game but that translate into game, like improvised speeches in front of a crowd, hosting a toastmasters event, improvised stand up comedy Infront of a hundred people, lots of bachata clases, singing in public, picked up the kazoo, improv theatre, lots of guitar playing and lastly this thing called Contact improv which Is absolutely gold for practicing physicallity and eye contact I'm hyped to see how this translates into game when I restart this challenge

That specific girl has trauma and emotional injury around dating, as she verbally told you. Those emotions bubbled up when talking about her trauma, which put her in a sad/ down emotional state. This affected and colored how she saw you in that moment. Together with the fact that opening up like that to a stranger is too much of a serious and non playful topic, she subconsciously put you in the BF category ( big commitment , emotion investment...) over player category ( low commitment, nothing serious, just fun , down for hooking up) - but she's not ready for a relationship, she doesn't want to get hurt, so this closed your door A playful fun vibe would have you taken you further in the intaction If you managed to have sex through an initial player vibe it would actually open your posibility for a relationship even though she may still not be absolutely ready and still dealing with trauma , and potentially help her heal That's just my opinion , and you will never know the actual cause because human beings and specifically women are extremely complicated creatures

Basically break the fourth wall of existence

That sounds more like the definition of "guilt" Shame can be that but also be about who you are and not only what you did. Like your self-image ( identity) and how you think others perceive you. Like being ashamed of being broke or short has nothing to do with doing anything, it's an inner game issue. Guilt is a about consciously doing stuff you know is bad by your own or societies standards ( stealing, telling lies, hurting people... )

I didn't even know the concept of bad air. Pretty cool to put a label on it that situation Plowing ChatGPT on " bad air" is gold Maybe release a conscious relationships vid for the big comeback :0

@Ben Landrail yup. Normal people practice tuning their voice against the piano This dude tunes pianos with his voice , no joke. We have an example of that few pages behind That being said I actually don't like the tamber of his voice. His harmonies are mind-blowing though

Google game global

Men are borderline autistic compered with women The kind you're describing is an exception

@Majed ofc. I personally met some that went there on and off. Check the game global group

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Perhaps it misses an compassionate approach , but the root causes are that all men are horny, some barely get laid if at all, and these men, who by definition are insecure ( to some degree or another - I put macho men in that category as well , one degree less insecure than than feeling helpless and depressed ) feel powerless and rationalize all kind of stuff to cope with their situation This is just a modern manifestation of a certain demographic that has always existed. It's the kind of social demographic that over hundreds of thousands of years would have to resort to r*pe as a reproductive strategy ( im really stretching and exaggerating to make a point) Being compassionate has its time and place, specifically when dealing with people, but let's not loose track of what their shenanigans are really about . Nothing personal but If you strongly disagree about that being the very core of issue of we are discussing, you don't understand the straightforward nature of men Yes the pressure of modern society is a heavy weight for men, In a similar way that women compete with plastic surgery barbies . But that is an adittional factor, not the core

You did the elaborate analysis. I boiled it down to the very essence. Both are valid. It's not being reductionistic or condescending. It is accurate and the words are carefully chosen

Aka insecure horny frustrated men making noise edit: add to that the psyches tendency for forming ideologies

@aurum that is definitely a part of it but I'd argue the core of "creepiness" is poor understanding, misunderstanding and misinterpretation of social dynamics aka bad social skills. You can think you're being respectful but much of socialization is intention vs perception Not understanding social norms ( they depend on culture/context, not knowing how to " read the room" ), lack of self awareness ( how do you potentially come across to people, not understanding physical communication ( cues of discomfort, lack of reciprocity , consent , poor calibration, not understanding boundaries...) poor emotional intelligence So given the crucial role of social skills throughout evolution, back then but also nowadays if women sense a serious degree of any of this, it will feel creepy, not only because they personally don't feel comfortable but because their genetics pull the kill switch on any potential attraction BY DESIGN , and scream " don't have offspring with this man!! , the child will have bad social skills !!

Attraction ques are hardwired over hundreds of thousands of years if not millions of years. It's the wise software that maximizes the chance that your genes go on. Modern humans are roughly only 200.000 years old . Economic factors are a very modern variable. It definitely can be a factor but most likely attraction to bigger women is more linked to ethnicity ( some races tend to be more chubby ) or your genetic background : "was storing body fat a proven effective survival strategy for your ancestors? then you will find females that store body fat attractive " Being pregnant is absolutely for sure an attraction killer for new partners, period. It's crystal clear from a male POV. It's almost the same non-existant degree of attraction as if you were thinking of having sex with a relative. Unless they are your partner, or they have some sort of fetish, or unless there is absolutely zero downside for the intercourse happening, chasing that woman to make anything happen will not cross your mind . (ofc there are exceptions ) Female's risk of sex ( evolutionary speaking ) is DEADLY. Getting pregnant at the wrong time or without a social support structure is the end of you ( a social support structure is extremely important during pregnancy, thats one of the big reasons why women are more social, calibrated, empathic, caring... ) Male's risk of sex ( evolutionary speaking) is not pregnancy, but getting your head smashed with a rock by a gang of males for having sex with a protected / taken woman. ( Which is actually one of the big reasons why approach anxiety exists for men ) So sex with a possibly pregnant woman is shooting yourself in the foot . Not effective at all from an evolutionary POV. You can possibly die and your genes wont even be forwarded. ( fun fact : this is one of the theories of why auto-erotic asfixiation even exists . " one last ejaculation before death" ) But yeah different people have slightly different preferences. Some preferences have an evolutionary background and some preferences have been developed and shaped thoughout their current lifetimes . Most men have a notoriously low standard anyways

@Princess Arabia Creepiness comes in a degree. From poor eye contact to borderline sexual assault @nhoktinvt learning game is creepy AF. But not learning game is even more creepy. Hence that video

Wikipedia has a decent take on this. Read with discernment as some takes are simply wrong https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness

This may be BS , but aparently people with light colored eyes like blue or green can see better in the dark. Some animals like cats have a genetic mutation that allows for better night vision. It's called Tapetum Lucidum. It's the reason why Cat's eyes glow in the dark

Creepy dude at gas station. 4:45

The fux did I just watch. How does no one notice it's a dude. The end is hilarious though. So many creeps

The challenges of mating are asymmetrical for men and women. Guys struggle is to get laid, women can get laid easily. It's biologically easier for a guy to make a woman stay after sex ( from an evolutionary PoV, she has your seed in her , and wants you around to raise the child) But for women the challenge is to make the guy stick around after sex I deeply contemplated the nature of male attraction triggers in women in a different thread and this is a question I'm curious to contemplate. Most likely there is little to do unless a guy really chooses you willingly due to chemistry and attraction for your looks, but we can still consider what works or what doesn't work The first thing that comes to mind is ... Be hot ( described in that thread ) But on a more practical level: Looks play a crucial role. Don't let yourself go, and stay looking as sharp as possible. Looks are a priority for men. Don't listen to critiques like " i don't need you to weak make up or dress cute etc". Even if the conscious words don't mean harm, mens attraction is driven by instincts. Maybe you don't doll up every day, but definitely do it here and there to remind him you get attention But maybe you don't have that level of looks, maybe you can have a different lane. Is that even possible? I think this will be a fruitful conversation. Try to put at least a little thought into your answers

Story time. You choose how this ends. Today I went to my local Mediamarkt ( European Best Buy) to return a speaker I had bought over a week ago that turned out to be crappy The customer support girl ( around my age) was kind and helpful. She struggled reviewing the big box as everything was tightly packed so I helped her out. Once we were finished, I got the receipt that I'll be getting my money back soon A few seconds later, her manager comes by the corner and barks at her "have you checked checked the box " ( with a bad attitude and talking down at her). She submissively explained that she has , after he kept yapping that " later he doesn't want to hear nothing from her about needing help checking nothin" This happened in front of me. I almost said something but I'm pretty non-confrontational . It's one of my personal weak spots and it also caught me off guard. Anyways, I shake my head, get out and walk around window-shopping at the mall that's next street. A few hours pass , and as I begin to head towards my van I notice it's pouring. Heavy rain. I didn't bring an umbrella so I wait untill It gets better for one second and make a run for it As I hop through weird paths in between cars, looking out for big puddles not to soak my fake Converse shoes, I notice a small cloth coin purse laying in a pool of water. it looked like an armband and I almost didn't pick it up. But I did because I allways find shit everywhere ( until today I may have found around 5000€ of sh*t in my life , absolutely by chance and obviously not stealing) I get in my van. I open it. It has soaking wet 15€ , and an ID, drivers license and other documents. I don't know the name but the face looks familiar, no idea why. I Google him. " Mediamarkt Electronic Department Manager pops up on LinkedIn". His address is 55km from here. I get an ah -ha moment. I had found the wallet from that f**ing douche that was rude to my cashier before. Your turn to play martyr and exercise Karma. I don't care personally. Do I give it straight to him? Do I write him a sassy note? Do I throw it in the trash? Do I send that note to his mom? Do I ask the cashier what she wants me to do? Do I spend the 15€ on scratch-offs? Do I commit cyber-crime with his ID? ( jkkk) Again, personally I don't care but he did rub me the wrong way. Dude seemed to be the typically sociopath manager. And I literally was thinking about him when I had found it, pretty nuts movie sh*t If you don't come up with anything I'll have to ask reddit 🥴 don't be boring

@Asia P do It. I was skeptical of the idea at the beginning but I've met a few girls that told me LITERALLY the exact same story you are sharing . Apparently some brains are wired to be less jealous ( or they managed to mentally rewire their jealously and not get triggered by it) and open for polyamourousness. I thought that once you start having sex with different people the relationship will crumble but apparently these people are so above the baseline emotional intelligence that they can really handle it You've also hit the jackpot with your X guy. If he's willing to open the relationship up, you're free to explore. You will meet more Y's later in your life Usually an open relationship has to be an expectation you set from the very beginning. Because if you start exclusive and later you want to go non-exclusive, there is a perception of " losing the exclusiveness". You don't have this perception of losing anything if you start with the expectation of polyamourousness Your communication with X seems to be very good and he seems to be open and serious about the idea. This can definitely work, at least short to mid term, if your emotional intelligence is high, and he sees your joy and pleasure as his joy and pleasure and vice versa. This is the way one of the girls explained her open relationship to me. They would come back from their other partners excited to share every that happened and they enjoyed. Pretty remarkable relationship and emotional skills. Men are more open to the idea of open relationships overall because it benefits their reproductive biological reproductive strategy of impregnating as many women as possible Also you are extremely young and inexperienced. You have a very long time to experiment around. And the best time is likely now.