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Only to people who are high green or above and only when they show interest, otherwise it's not that great of an idea.

As the latest video on Actualized.org suggests, you would benefit from contemplating what „being rewarded“ actually means.

@Wekz Have you seen the latest video? Leo goes more in-depth into this.

@Michael569 I heard that there are two types of peanut butter, the other one is very healthy from what I've heard.

Ok, I need to get better at knowing what these feelings mean... And work harder.

@Serotoninluv So how do you prevent misdiagnosis? I often have a weird feeling about people (I often listen to my feeling and intuition, sometimes it goes really well, sometimes it sucks) and I don't know what it is. I had this feeling with Yellow girl as well. I don't know which of us is right or wrong, I don't care, I think she can learn from both, but how do I make it so that I don't actually underestimate the problem, without going too far? Is my question clear?

Why do you think that is the case? I actually had a very similar problem, I freaked out many people by talking to them like this and it turned out, that I was also very egotistical and harsh when interacting with my family members... I think that by fixing your relationship with your parents and siblings is a big opporunity to grow Obviously, we cannot know, if this is exactly her case, but you know, it very well could be from what she was saying. It doesn't have to be a big disfunction, sometimes it's just a little bit of arguing and stuff... Edit: I also had some repressed emotions and traumas, again, not something crazy, but yeh...

I know from a personal experience and from some people who told me about this as well, that people have nightmares, when they are working on their life and a lot of negative things are surfacing, I think it's a good sign actually Idk about the physical part though, do you stretch? Yeh, thinking about nonduality is very different from feeling it.

This is exactly why you suffer. You are trying to reconstruct that, which is dysfunctional.

If you didn't have parents who hugged you everyday when you were a baby, you would probably be depressed and miserable. The highest forms of understanding are not intellectual.

@Yellow_Girl Yellow is a made up thing, if spiral dynamics didnt exist, you would still suffer.

Breathing with one nostril is something totally different, at least for me... I think that you need to control it, before it becomes natural. Then, when you become good at it, you can become a swing door, that just lets the wind blow in and out.

Have you tried talking with him about it? Try to find his attachments, his fears, make them surface by questioning him.

It is really difficult not to trail off on the spiritual path. It's important to be non-needy and independent, but enjoying people's company and getting help from your loved ones is absolutely ok. Maybe he should contemplate this issue, what is he scared of, what is he running away from?

We are just humans, we can do mistakes, not everybody fits into your definition of smart. If you expect this to be like this, it is a problem. Maybe there are still many things for you to learn from not-smart people, just be patient.

Not at all It's good bro.

If you just keep practicing, breathing deep into the stomach will become natural, just be consistent with it. Do you think, that people have to take you seriously, that you are something more now?

What about just throwing this model away and pay attention to the things, that are causing your suffering, rather than trying to fit into some category?

@David Hammond Cringe with the capital C

@David Hammond These quotes are kind of cringy though lol ?

wow thanks, I was first introduced to this kind of breathing in a zen book. I never thought about going from sleep state into meditation, maybe I can try it the next time i wake up late at night

This sounds really accurate, could you please elaborate more on that specifically?

Hey dude, I struggled with this same problem too in the past. Fortunately, I have many friends who have healthy manifestations of the higher colours and they helped me solve it. I will try to divide this into points of possible... I dont know if this is going to work for you, but I hope I can help At the time, I was also very much concerned with the development of the people around me and I only wanted to hang around with tier 2 people. I also used to preach spiral dynamics to people who seemed to be interested. (they actually were not, but my mind was projecting things) One of the many advices was to stop building these castles in the sky, stop thinking about things so much, clean up my information intake, ignore confused people, rather than coming up with theories that I created from my observations every single day, watching all sorts of wierd youtube videos and talking to selfish people... I had to let go of this stuff. This other thing that I learned was to stop trying to fix the lower tier people. Stop thinking, that they are interested in your complex problems and contemplations, stop assuming, that they want to grow without ever having to suffer, stop pretending that you are so interesting. I don't know if this is your problem, but be open to the possibility, that there is some reason for this mainstream, it is not all that corrupt, there are many things that you can learn from ordinary people, sometimes they can spot some bullshit that you are unable to find. Seriously, don't disrespect them. I also learnt, that the thing that Leo says about yellow, that it is a lone wolf, doesnt really apply to me. I enjoy laughing with friends, having meaningful conversations, setting up all sorts of meetings and going after growth opportunities, which are associated with people. Try talking to the chefs at the restaurants you go to, try being warm towards people right of the bat when you meet them, it really helps. Don't make this „enthusiasm“ into an excuse to not talk to people, that is not healthy in many cases. I don't really know you, but I actually didn't have any of this enthusiasm, when I was basically lonely. Question your teachers, dont take all the things they say for granted, think for yourself, become more feminine, flowing and authentic. Discipline yourself, be consistent in the work. Be radically honest to yourself about the real work that you are doing and about its results, without that you cannot move forward. Observe everything, try to learn from it, stop seeing imperfection in other things, but rather in yourself. Huh, this is getting kind of long, I hope I've helped you at least with some things...

Hey bro, I see you are pretty confused. There are no „3 ways“ to live life, there are infinite possible ways and you don't have to only choose one, but you can change your path throughout your life. Actually, as you grow, your thinking will change, your attitude towards life will change and your path will change also, therefore growth is not linear, but exponential. But even if everything goes as you expected it to go, your ego will not be satisfied. When you watch a move and you can preditct how it ends, it kinda sucks, right? I am not saying, that you should just ignore everything and let go of everything, this alone will only create more problems. You have to investigate, what works for you. (maybe this is part of the path) If you put a selfish person, a person with lots of beliefs and prejudice about how life should be, into heaven, they wouldn't be satisfied, even if it was literally the best place.