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@kag101 Wow thank you for this, this has really helped me. I am contemplating a career in that field. I have a couple of questions for you: What would you say are the biggest criteria for being a good psychologist/psychiatrist? How do you find/recognize one?

Sometimes if you tell someone directly, they're gonna freak out

@supremeyingyang Ok, I am learning statistics, I am about to do my own psychological experiment at my school with a friend of mine. I am also talking to people a lot and I have a lot of good feedback so I think I am doing great at the moment, thank you for asuring me hahahaha. I still don't know whether I should read about therapy and gain experience, probably get better at maths by myself and study something like psychiatry or neurology or something else... There is so much to master hahahaahaha. Maybe if I studied multiple things, I could go interdisciplinary or change career if I realize I made the wrong choice...

@supremeyingyang Wow, thank you so much! I'll make sure to read some of those, I resonated with Authentic happiness from Martin Seligman and Radical honesty by Brad Blanton, both are from the field of positive psychology. Did your girlfriend and friends give you any feedback on their past decisions, as to what major they would choose differently or whether they did everything well? PS: Merry Christmas! <3

@Identity Thank you for responding Yeh I am kind of trying to do that now... Developing myseld in this field, doing the work on myself very seriously. I don't want to be a hypocritical therapist, too many of these already. But yeh... Have you tried anything like that? What would you recommend? Other than that, education in Czech Republic is free/cheap so I am not limited in terms of money Gonna hit you up hahahahaha, sounds super cool!

I went through it quite quickly, haven't read all of it, but it was funny how they tried to find mathematical patterns in koans

You can question an illusion with more illusion. Any question is illusory and any answer is illusory. Even the distinction between the answer and the question is illusory and the concept of an answer being an answer (to a question) is also illusory. You aren't digging deep enough.

You can have periods in life when you are reasonably happy and aren't suffering too much, but the existential suffering is inevitable, you cannot run away.

@Fede83 Good, you already know it's a realization! It's on you to see how the law of attraction is already working for you Maybe if one thing went differently for you, you wouldn't be here, trying to work on yourself, you know. Even the worst things that have happened to you were the best in the long run, life works in mysterious ways. Thoughts are just stories, don't tell yourself stories that hurt you. Any pain is unnecessary. It might sound cold, but there really isn't any reason why you should suffer. There also isn't any amount of suffering you should go through in order to be worthy of Love. Having enough suffering = realizing Love. Listen to your body sensations in the moment and follow goodness.

@Fede83 It might take a lot of work, but also don't let this false belief that „you don't deserve Love“ blind you. Big Love to you.

@Parththakkar12 Why do you then have to care so much about this social stuff when you have so much power in you?

@Parththakkar12 You can achieve such level of emotional maturity that you'll realize that the only person who is abusing you emotionally is you. I mean, many people are low consciousness and abusive, but if you spend time with those people and get affected by them so easily, it also says something about you... There are many wonderful, interesting, loving people out there, you can just stop spending time with most others and still have a social life Have some respect to yourself.

@LoveandPurpose Learning from others is great, but you still need to gather your own experience and insights, otherwise you will get lost. If you just blindly listen to others and copy their behavior, that's useless. No real growth comes from that. Also some things are just impossible to take away from others you know. ❤

I have a similar experience, I used to have a crush on many girls at the same time, flirting with all of them, but then I noticed that it's creating a lot of mental mess and dishonesty, which aren't exactly my values, as they hinder growth. You have to decide this for yourself though.

Do you realize how absurd it is not to think for yourself?

@Leo Gura Have you met any extroverted, actively socializing seekers on your path?

The world is better than *you think*

@Bazooka Jesus why not?

@Nivsch When there is no challenge, no question in your perception, there aren't any chains that would bind you, nor anything you could do by yourself, not even yourself. And not even the question. It's quite silly how that works

I used to have a similar problem, guys are often communicating in a way in which they are just measuring their dicks, trying to say something cool all the time, come out on top as the strongest... Women are trying to relate, have fun, not take things so seriously maybe... Try to see how you can enjoy a conversation without being right, without showing of, without roasting someone, just don't take it so seriously There really is nothing serious about words in this context.

Gotta watch the documentary about him, I wonder why people talk about him so much Why are some of you guys so fond of him? I am curious

Your wife is a part of Everything, you cannot love Everything without loving your wife Separating your wife from Love is trickery.

There is also just a story of Leo Gura defining Love and God, Leo and his teachings aren't beyond story, though they might be useful in some way.

Wow, that's a perfect definition of what Enlightenment is! You got it! ...or did you?

Wow this is so interesting... What do you think is the main difference between kids and adults? I mean, healthy versions of these labels, by adult I don't mean someone who's inner child has died...