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@Dario1995 If you are trying to get into a different state than into the now, or if you watch yourself from a remote point, it might seem as if (not be) stillness is indeed somewhere different than here, in the background. The here-now lasts always and you are in it every time, not just while playing cards with friends and being joyful x)

@Dario1995 Maybe letting go of ideas will do the job. You can say that truth is an experience, a peaceful or loving experience, or maybe it is not, I don't know Or that it is for everyone or that you, as an ego that exists, are experiencing it as some sort of reality. But by adding these perspectives and thoughts, all you are doing is dividing.

@Sandy6 I think the problem is kind of hidden in all places, including Europe, where I live. But it's great that you are trying to put some light on it and aren't giving up on loving yourself. From my experience, people are generally understanding of this issue, but I don't know what your environment is like, never been there, although it would be nice. So just don't do anything crazy, choose the people you seek help from wisely, you will be good <3

@Member Most people are not young, maybe about half of them are. I see you are very eager to help, but please, save yourself the time and energy wasted on thinking about and trying to fix people who don't want to change. Change must happen from within, you cannot change someone by talking a certain way. It's much easier to stick to the people who ask for help themselves, then you aren't fighting for change, but cooperating.

@Member Yeh that's true, some people just whine where they could actually do the practices, like yoga and meditation, and improve their lives, or they just preach their nonsense to others. But some people just have a lower tolerance for psychological pain, especially older people, whose minds aren't as flexible and fluid. They would literally collapse if they tried to be more conscious of some traumas.

@Member For some people it can be extremely challenging to change, you really cannot judge them for staying the way they are.

@Nadosa It seems like you are realizing many things, good job on spotting those. Change is harder than realization though, take your time, it's ok I think you don't want to invest in people because you might need some time for yourself, to heal your wounds, don't skip this, because otherwise you are just postponing the work. Reality is indeed complex, there are infinite possibilities and you cannot try out all of them, you cannot understand all perspectives - therefore believing anything others say you should be doing doesn't actually get you closer to understanding yourself. Spend some time alone, clear up your mind, do something you like. By doing this, you can unattach from the programmings of others and just focus on what your values and beliefs about what makes you feel good are. Then focus on those, it's about direct experience with reality, not about beliefs about it. You have it in you, just stop believing nonsense anyone tells you This present moment without beliefs is very clear, not confusing.

Many of my friends find her very attractive, she is not exactly my type tho x) Hah, I was mostly refering to your definition of crazy xDD

Sounds like you are very responsible. So overall you feel happy about your relationship, you feel it's evolving in a good direction, you are also evolving in a good, more authentic direction, but you still feel insecure and maybe confused sometimes? Is this correct? What do you want to improve, what are you doing for that?

Even things beyond nutrition, like yoga, less screen time? Maybe it's stupid to ask but I really want to make sure you've done it all. Yes, it is very different and it is alright to feel both, really. And I really like your mindset, I remember also having this kind of safety net ready for myself, it came in handy a couple times. I don't know whether you have people who support you along the way, but feel free to pm me. How does your day look like, what do you like to do?

I am sorry to hear that. What have you tried to fix those already? Do you feel like you want to kill yourself? True x) You can use imagination. It's certainly interesting to think about what kind of flaws do birds/cheetahs have in their lives, thinking about how they go around doing things. Are there a lot of traffic jams where you live?

@Nadosa Do you agree with the statement that you / your girlfriend / any other part of your self-concept are not as you would like them to be? Do you want to be somewhere else in life? That you are trying to accomplish someone else's goals or that you don't know what you want/value? Do you have some insecurities or things that bother you about your relationship with your girlfriend?

@tatsumaru Do you actually want that? Does your heart burn when you think about it? Actually imagine what that would mean. Perhaps you haven't asked yourself what you truly want/value, so your thoughts are hectic. Then it might seem like there is no goal or that you are doomed or that you are going in circles, but actually, if you do not know what you want, it means you aren't going where you want to go, because that direction isn't a part of your existence.

@zeroISinfinity Awwww :)) Thank you bro.

@tatsumaru Why do you think you cannot express yourself as you wish at any moment?

Choose the books that really are interesting to you, use your time wisely, there are infinite things to do so just pick the ones that resonate the best.

Those can be tricky. You can call it a survival thing, so it depends on how afraid you are of dying, or giving up the old truths and understandings. If you don't give the old up, there is no space for the new. It's exhausting to operate on two softwares at the same time. If you are really confused and really brave, you can explore not-knowing, not-labeling, to which you get by un-knowing, un-labeling. It gets difficult for you when you label your true nature a state that you rest in, that is a state, therefore not permanent. Or even if you label it as literally anything else. Just rest, it's alright. When do your self-esteem / confidence issues appear?

You cannot fake the desire for something, be it girls or truth, just enjoy the moment, it can feel good if life is happening the way you think it should be

What specific patterns are you talking about?

Potential unicorn zone, we should capture it below 3 crazy

Hell yes, that was a really good interview, thanks!

Hello, do you Chrissy Hodges' youtube channel? She is an expert on pure OCD. I don't know about the situation in Southeast Asia, but have you told anyone already? It seems like you've come to the phase where you are not so ashamed of talking openly about your condition, which is great

I liked the book too, havent watched to movie you posted tho

Have you read his book about spiritual materialism?

@Hank Galaxy Brain Yes, I see what you mean. But also the money from your taxes contributes corruption in many countries.