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Please don't discuss drug trafficking here, not allowed.

It is not like you can cure someone's pain, it is usually better to just take distance don't you think. It is also often necessary to cause pain. Or how do you look at it?

@Displayname1 Lmao have kids just to send them away. Now that I got this reproduction business over with, what's next? Jk maybe you didn't mean it like that.

@Javfly33 Bro that's always been the reality, what's your problem, stop imagining things!

@Javfly33 Good job, now you finally feel capable x) Happy to see that. That's the truth about you. I'd say go for whatever you want, but then for some people it might not be worth to make someone else cheat. I mean you might say that if the girl feels lonely with her boyfriend if he just goes out of town for a short time she deserves and he also deserves better and it is moral to cheat or whatever, you might argue like this. But I get that for some people this doesn't work, they become like super agitated. Even with psychedelics, some people might do them illegaly and then just have this placebo fear of police, thinking they will get them or some shit like that, it can be unpleasant. But I guess you know whether you are that kind of person now. And I guess you can certainly become both. @Leo Gura Have you ever tried dating in countries where sex is a taboo topic?

@Javfly33 Right I see. So basically you value feeling good very highly? But you are trying to seduce a hot girl and see how it feels having sex with her. Which implies you do not know how it will feel in the end. It is very easy to project that it will feel good, but than that doesn't have to be true. I mean it can be true, but then that also depends. I guess you know that though... I mean I could just tell you that you can be physical with a really hot girl, hold hands, kissing, sex, whatever. And it doesn't have to feel good. There are more important things, like connection. And I am not telling you this without experiencing it, it's not just some omg this girl is shit compared to my pseudo-orgasmic, even orgasmic awakening state kind of advice. I mean sure you are a guy and physical contact with another person, girl or a guy, can give you these biological benefits and make you feel better no matter the individual, but the emotional factors are impossible to ignore. I cannot say that all physical contact is always good, because there are scientifically proven physiological benefits to it, such as the release of oxytocin. (e. g. rape, also actually holding hands with a guy non-romantically can also have physiological benefits!) I guess you are like this seeker who has to learn everything by themselves and I get that. It seems kinda appealing and it definitely makes you understand things better. But still pay close attention to what you are actually doing. It is very easy to miss this when you are thinking.

What is it that you are really trying to achieve here? I think it is often useful to make sure you are not trying to achieve the impossible, that which doesn't resonate and feel good. For example - this girl will get me happiness but I can never get her - I can never get happiness. These things don't feel good because they are not true. Perhaps you have some deeper ideas about what relationships are that are keeping you from staying grounded in good reality.

Right hmmm... People only care about punishment and not prevention. Labeling people criminals and locking them up doesn't solve any issue. It's not like all of them will get caught and even if they will, the killers will live in rooms with rapists and thieves etc. 'I teach you how to kill, you teach me how to steal.' Maybe the government would find more white people who possess weed if they tracked Actualized.org followers

@dflores321 I hope you didn't interpret what I said as 'you shouldn't approach girls'. I just wanted to say that compassion helps. @Javfly33 I agree with what aurum said. It seems to resonate with you too You got it bro.

You can also say: But then compassion feels good oftentimes. Actually better than being a victim of your dick.

@Username Well some people for example do not look at girls even when they are attracted to them, because some women struggle with being approached and liked by too many guys and they simply cannot handle this. They don't enjoy being looked at you know. And there are many of these women. You can give up some of your momentary pleasure for this purpose. I mean, it is not easy and all I get you, just stating the counter-point.

@No Self There are also white criminals you know. There are more white criminals than black criminals. Also there are not only muslim people who kill other people, there are also christians who do terrible things. But the media is just biased that they do not show this to us. They mainly focus on the things that are the most racist and xenophobic etc. Innocent people suffer from this and events that are much more important and more people die during them are not looked at by the media, because they do not affect the West.

I can move this to the Government and Politics if the OP doesn't have a reason to keep it here

@AMTO You can be with a person who is rationally above average and still the sweet feelings go away. It is not in that.

I wonder why you believe this.

@Keyhole Thank you Keyhole! I appreciate your help

Hello everyone, Recently I had some insights into shamanism and healing and I just fell in love with it, my sensitivity is through the roof right now, I am drawing, doing energy practice everyday, about to make a dream board centered around this topic and talking to people from this forum who might know more, so I thought it would also be great to start a thread. If you guys have any experiences with any kind of retreats (psychedelic or non-psychedelic), books or other resources on this topic, book lists, groups, forums, contacts, maybe even have an experience with studying under a shaman or a healer, I would appreciate just any kind of advice. I really have this strong calling that I need to go down this rabbit hole and develop myself. Be as specific as possible. PS: I already have the booklist and am reading the books about this Leo has recommended, so no need to send me there

@ColeMC01 Don't focus on a girl, but on how you feel.

@BakeJeyner I am sorry this happened to you, at least next time you will know how the right dosage is important. There is no shortcut to this. I understand that it can often feel like you are stuck in sameness and things cycling over and over again, while nothing new is created. But you can actually create new things, have you tried?

Even if it does, literally the whole media creates more division. For example, media focused so much on this case in France where the teacher got beheaded for making fun of Allah. That is not nice, but at the same time period, there were many events in Africa for example, where many more people died, and the media did not give a shit at all. The media does not care about interconnecting the world, it cares about views, islamophobia, shocking people, definitely not about unity.

What is really your intention? What do you want from her? Does this intention mean stealing the other person's freedom?

@Brivido This sounds so fruitful good job! Some of these words really do be like that is magical.

@Elham Yes yes, Nahm's presence too <3

@Elham Right right, thank you for your insights

@Red-White-Light Don't be so quick to judge social life, it can make you grow like anything else and you can enjoy it.