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@Inliytened1I really liked this outlook and it's how I feel too. Despite Trumps ego I believe there's a higher self at work making decisions. The ego can't be outside of God anyway. It's just God wearing a certain mask.

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As life purpose is such a fundamental aspect of our path towards self actualisation, I'd like to share a recent insight I've had that has given me a real boost, which is that charisma and communication skills are at the heart of everything. I think this ties in with Leo's great video on marketing. I know this seems obvious and rudimentary to some, but like me you may be shocked by how far you can go with it. I love the Podcast Diary of a CEO as Stephen Bartlett is so good as distilling pure wisdom out of his guests. I especially want to reccommened the following interviews regarding communication skills and charisma because as I mentioned, they're the most important thing beside actual talent, apparently even more important, as people often see others with less skill getting more opportunities because they know how to market themselves or connect with people, to gain trust and make others feel a certain way. We're all wearing a mask, so why not wear an appealing one and make people feel good whilst getting your needs met. Here are my top recommends for Charisma training. If you watch these and take notes, work on it..you will see your life change. I've already landed a job using this stuff. Went into that interview glowing, dealing out competencey cues left right and centre, a pause here, a head tilt there, some choice facial expressions, hand movements, slowing down my speech. It's just gold. Please don't disregard this. I say that as I care about my self actualising brethren and I just wish I'd known about this shit sooner. Notice how incredible each of these people are at communicating. Also notice how authentic they are. It's as if the mastering charisma allows you to come across as more natural and authentic. They are almost hypnotic to listen to and watch. With this one, pay more attention to McConaughey's way of communicating than the content, which is still very interesting and insightful. But really he's a poster child for charisma. I saved my favourite until last. Chase Hughes is something else. Look at how calm and controlled he is, whilst also seeming comfortable and relaxed. If you like it, look up his special operations manual. He's written a tome on covert tactics. Use what you can to get ahead as long as you look after people and leave them better off than before you found them. Really by mastering these skills you become more effective, more yourself, and more able to experience love and connection in every area of you life.

@LordFall Sounds like it usually gets triggered when people try and impose their opinions into you? Perhaps it gets your back up and you feel the need to put them in their place, or to give them a taste of their own medicine, like saying, if that's the game you want to play then you will lose...but then you end up feeling like actually you lost something too, maybe some composure, or you lost sight of your values etc I like what you said about the love polarity. It's harder to remain loving when you feel defensive or have an emotional reaction. I find it feels so good when someone baits me, or behaves arrogantly and I can retain a level of care and consideration for them, but it's very hard. This is a very rare skill I think. Sometimes all I can do is just not respond at all. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your experience

@Human Mint Having this realisation is powerful. I had the same one recently and started researching and watching those videos I linked. The book 'Cues' by Vanessa Van Edwards is very good. A couple of the interviews I linked are with her. There are some things you can start doing very quickly to get better at conveying ideas and holding people's attention. It's very liberating when you realise it's a skill you can learn..

@LordFall How did you develop the self awareness to realise you had this issue? Was there a specific event? It's interesting to me as most people stay very ignorant of this and get stuck being self righteous and blaming other people

Very important post and thread. I've had my world rocked recently because I entered a relationship with the wrong person. The worst thing I did was buy into her opinions of me and I'm still trying to navigate my way out of that. My weakness stemmed from craving validation. She gave it to me then when it was removed it was like a toddler having his favourite toy wrenched out of his hand and stamped on in front of him. More fool me in many ways. I should have assessed her level of consciousness straight away. I was just getting some spiritual gainz when I met her and now I feel like I'm back in the stone age. Onwards and upwards though. Let's be careful

I think that learning the levels within spiral dynamics would help. Discovering how that person's non objective processes work. Harder to do if they're a stranger and you're limited for time. The key could be asking a lot of questions so you get them to solve the problem themselves. I'd love to be able to do this masterfully.

I love that you guys are embracing AI for personal development. That's a no brainer to me. I used it a lot in VR to make images for mindmaps and get the info needed to just build makes a lot faster in general. I have a mode I can get it to activate where it will switch to Stage Yellow Spiral dynamics and give me advice from that perspective. I didn't have to do much as it already knew about the model. @Jason G Oh and just to say, you can still use standard voice mode if you create a project folder on the left hand side. When you're in that folder it will always use standard voice mode.

Thanks @Florian that feedback means a lot to me

Hi guys, I created this map using Noda in VR. It's a great little app for system thinkers. Grab it if you have VR. I sent it to Ralson and he said it looks like fun and a lot of effort (fanboy fantasy moment). I had asked him if I'm at liberty to post the video, seeing as it's his work. He didn't say no in his response so I've posted it for now. View it from a Browser Here: https://noda.io/view/index.html?map=eaa6a8a9-2d93-41f0-a39b-cfd8a7fe6293&auth=11e48df6-f3b4-4cc0-8caa-455f2ba004b1 If you want to download the room for your own headset, use this CSV file: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1-DlxCQEnG7SNwPKPa7hNkzuN8PsAW-bN/view?usp=drivesdk Basically you just load your room, open the CSV file on your browser in VR and it will import everything into your room. You'll need the subscription though. It's only £4 a month. Here's a tutorial on how to do it: If you're interested I can join you in the room and show you around. That's the cool thing about Noda, you can get multiple people in there. It's an incredible learning tool. Being able to Map ideas out like this... I have some other stuff on my YouTube channel too, showing various techniques and ideas. I'm going to do Donella Meadows book on systems thinking and also map out spiral dynamics. Get on board with me on this guys. We could collaborate Oh and do pick up Peter's book, it's a gem

@AION I'm afraid not You can buy the app for about £20 but it's missing the ability to use 'export hosting.' Then again you may not ever want to do that. I found this info online: Noda Core (buying) offers unlimited maps, data import/export, and shared access. Noda Plus (subscription) provides unlimited cloud services, export hosting, and exclusive features. It sucks I know. You can still use the free version to see if it's something you might want to invest in at some point.

@OBEler Thanks! The joys of being unemployed Hope you find it interesting/useful I'll warn you in advance, it's LONG (said the actor to the bishop). Then again being a follower of Leo's content I'm sure you're used to it

Just watching Leo's episode on Wrongness and trying to write this list for myself. But how am I supposed to make an accurate assessment when I'm the one making it and I'm so racked with self bias? Sure there are obvious things you can be wrong about, like taking a wrong turn, or buying the wrong brand of sushi, but when it comes to more subjective considerations things fall down because how do I know if I was gaslighting my ex, or whether she was gaslighting me? How do I know if I was wrong when I saw Christ during my trip, because maybe Christ is real and the psychedelic showed me the truth. We've talked before about everything being relative, so if that's the case, wrongness as a concept is a relative consideration and completely fabricated by myself. If I'm making it all up, I'm also making up wrongness. Here are some more examples I can't make an assessment on: Being wrong about leaving my relationship. Maybe I should have tried harder and now we'd be fine. Being wrong about taking that course, because adacemia is a scam. Maybe the problem isn't the course but the fact that I'm lazy. How do I know? Really my ego is going to come up with the answer that suits me. Being wrong about becoming a Christian. Says who? Who's going to convince me that Christ isn't real and faith isn't a good idea? Nobody but myself. And what if I'm wrong about being wrong about that? Being wrong about that friend who screwed me over. Did he screw me over, or did I screw him over, like he told me I did? You get the idea. It all seems like an exercise in futility, unless we're only addressing really obvious things? Which of course does have it's own value

@Terrelllease@Terell Kirby This makes me think of something Peter Ralston says in his book 'Mastery.' He talks about detaching any emotional content or subjective valuations from the truth itself, as it's superfluous content that actually interferes with being able to see things clearly. This content adds extra distinctions that act as a fog. Easier said than done of course, as these valuations of wrongness will probably be made due to the effect the situation had on you emotionally. That being said, you could notice that it made you feel this way or that way, but try not to let all that creep back in too much. I'm probably talking shit as per usual though. I really have no clue as I haven't even started the work. I'm just a theory junkie. I collect the damn things

@Hojo Thank you for taking the time 🙂 I'll put some time into this and see how I get on.

@Leo Gura Thanks for taking me through this. Well there certainly is plenty I feel I may have been wrong about. I wasn't lacking items, I was just struggling with knowing whether I was wrong or not. In many cases I can't seem to find a reliable way of making that call. I'm coming at the list from a very moral standpoint, as I have a lot of guilt and regret about things. I feel like I need to develop some kind of rule that will allow me to know whether I was wrong. Here's a question then. If we were to have some kind of rule, that would allow us to see whether our actions or choices were wrong, relative to ourselves, what would it be? Something like: It caused unnecessary suffering for ourselves and/or others It set us back in life It ran contrary to our goals and desires and sabotaged them It was selfish and unloving @NoN-RaTiOnAL How can we refine this point of view? What system can we use? It seems like we almost need to create a relative template or a map. What would constitute more profound/nuanced, or less so? @Hojo This is good, thanks.I do get impatient if things don't seem obvious straight away. This clearly isn't as simple as just saying quickly 'yeah I was wrong.' Most of the time anyway. I need to work out why I was, why I'm making that estimation.

@enchanted you're very welcome

Anyone got hold of this yet? It's fairly new. The guy basically breaks down the formula for how to develop in any area of life in such a clear way that it might as well be called 'how to enter God mode.' It's actually 'The Art of Mastery: Principles of Effective Interaction.' One of the biggest things to have impacted me so far is the idea that you constantly have to consider what's actually unfolding and whether the actions you take are in line with your objective. But really I just wanna say, please get this book, it will change you. I refer to it daily. It's kind of a manual for kicking ass. You could use it for anything from making a stew, giving head, to becoming enlightened. The first chapter is a condensed version of the rest of the book, for quick reference, so you don't have to look at longer paragraphs. Here's to give you an idea.

@quantumspiral thanks for the recommends. Ralston has trained a lot of athletes I think. Check out his Youtube channel too. He also runs retreats and they look incredible. Yeah he says the more you tune your awareness, the deeper the distinctions you make on a phenomena. Like, if I listen to the sound of birds intently I'll be able to pick out different birds instead of it being just one mass of chirpy loveliness

@BlessedLion That's great to hear. Have you read Zen Body Being? I love how practical all of his books are. I'd love to go on one of his retreats wouldn't you? They're a bit out of my price range though

I've always smoked weed when I've made music and when I'm not stoned I don't find it half as engaging. It's probably the main reason I haven't been able to give it up for the last 20 years. When I'm high I just enjoy it so much. I score Film, TV and Games and I'm studying it at uni, so right now, with a final assignment due, I've had to keep buying the stuff even though I'm in a bad financial situation, I mean really bad. Besides this risk factor from the habit, it bothers me that I can't even do my intended career without being blazed Right now though I'm thinking, shall I just say fuck it, I am a stoner composer and that's how it is. Obviously there's the money aspect and that has to be handled, but I love smoking, watching batman clips and making music, which is what I'm doing right now. I get so into it, like watching a movie but I'm creating part of the mood. What are your views on this? Accepting it seems like a wise idea right now and I'm guessing most of you will agree. Weed enhances everything right? I got some good grades recently which I know I wouldn't have got if I hadn't spent my days living like a hermit, getting wrecked and doing nothing but making music. I sometimes feel like I've cheated almost

@Paradoxed This is a very valid point and one I lose sight of, so thanks. The thing is, when I try and do creative stuff whilst sober I just don't enjoy it. Is it because I've programmed myself with the lie so heavily that I'm living it out? I just find weed keeps me engaged in it. It has to be pure biological programming right? Yeah that's the shitter. I'd probably be fine with the whole thing if I could afford it. I hope I can test that out one day. I do often thing it's made me into a recluse somehow, but I have no solid evidence for that. Yeah man, poor weed gets the blame for it all. This is very illuminating. It has a quite a 'rap sheet' in my mind. lots of people might argue that it's to blame for a lot and I'm now telling myself I should accept it as that's easier than quitting. How can I find out the truth? I also have this belief that it makes me overthink a lot. Looking at it now, my self concept is very defined by the stuff. I suppose I should just let it go and stop reinforcing It right

@PenguinPablo This is a very good question. I've thought the same myself but considering it now, the upgrades that I've received from tripping have been profound. Sure I haven't experienced ego death, but I've felt such an intense love that it turned up that dial for me permanently. Sure the dial went back, but it wasn't fully reset. Also, consider the insights. I'm sure you've had those. Again, for me these were permanent game changers. I've stopped hoping for mystical experiences on them now. I also don't take huge doses as I'm still a little wary. Largest dose I've done is 300ug of acid. Like I say it was a deep sense of being connected, feeling love and basking in the awesomeness and beauty of reality. I'd class it as a deeply spiritual experience, for me anyway. After that synchronicities seemed to occur more in my life and I felt a lot more guided and connected to a higher power, whatever that is. It was the closest I've come to a sense of what I'd like to call God and I've never been the same. So I'm team psychs

@Paradoxed That post gave me a lot to think about, thanks for taking the time. I have had these moments where I feel I should just embrace it and the whole 'fighting it' thing and the idea that I'm 'an addict,' is, like you say, just a friggin mind game and a load of bullshit. I feel like weed also becomes this big scapegoat for me that's convenient to blame because I don't have this or that. More specifically I don't own a house, a car or a pet, don't have a girlfriend/wife and really have bare minimum possessions. Basically a laptop, a VR headset and a bag of clothes.. I decided to go unemployed in my early 20s and devote my life to making music. 20 years later and people around me are enjoying the things they've built, homes, kids and shit, but not this guy! So weed gets the blame. There's all this stuff in our culture about how drugs make you a down and out as well, so that feeds into the narrative. I'm certainly anti social, that's for sure. But I think I was always heading this way. It's impossible to tell. I'm going to just embrace it now. If I run out of money again, God will step in, it always does. I often have this idea or sense that God wants me to be a blatant stoner and make amazing works of art so that's why I am this way. If I got out of my own way more that's the experience I would probably have. God as a stoner composer who gives zero shits