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I trust my body first and foremost. Why not test through stretching, moving, or physical activity? But also it's not always what people say (on the surface) that matters, but why they say what they say, where the info comes from, and who benefits. Does adding more calcium to my diet fix weak bones? Maybe, but then why did my bones get weak? Old age is a commonly given answer but i wont settle for that. Why are my cells getting old? Why are they losing their ability to regenerate? Why is the body pulling the calcium from bones? Is it for neutralizing acids in the body? Perhaps diet plays a vital role in health and longevity. What if the body is a self sustaining system able to produce all the nutrients it needs but when it becomes too acidic due to poor elimination of cellular waste, cells/organs get damaged and the system has to adjust by creating sickness and weakness? Of course there's genetic weaknesses but with cellular regeneration, anything is possible If the body truly is a self sustaining system then this might explain why there are people who claim to live without the consumption of food. Why some claim to get a blood test after months and months of living off only liquids and are told by the doc "whatever you are doing, keep doing it, everything looks perfect". But then again, maybe all these stories and claims are untrue and it's best to put them all to the test. Cheers!

@Preety_India it’s about understanding yourself and whomever you are with. Not the relationship but the people in it. Anyways I understand, and also you probably don’t wish to to see yourself flawed or imperfect, don’t forget, your good actions and mistakes dont define you. In fact no thoughts could come close to defining what makes you you, except maybe infinite potential, cheers

This is an amazing channel explaining attachment styles and relationship dynamics, this specific video is about guilt @Preety_India this might be a good video for you

@Strangeloop So what do you want? who do you want to be? Do you wish to be free or just another character of the mind? Allow the feelings and desires to come forth naturally

excellent, i do the same, my primary practice is self observation so i can see if what im bringing forth is what actually makes me feel good. My attachment style is the fearful avoidant a.k.a disorganized or mirror empath

Let me try again. We will always get what we deserve, and what we deserve is what we allow/approve of. Expressing your boundaries doesn't have to be a form of manipulation and blackmail. This would be in a dynamic where walls have already been breached. What i am trying to say is you can express your needs very clearly, courteously, respectfully if you change the beliefs you hold about your self worth. There's a problem with wanting love and respect but not actually believing you deserve it. This makes things unclear, even messy, so you have to learn how to "come off" as selfish in your own eyes to ask for what you desire

@assx95 Okay so there's the anxious avoidant and the anxious preoccupied attachment styles. Both are similar and needing to learn how to fulfill their own needs by defining their sense of self/boundaries without the approval of others. This is in direct correlation with self respect. Can you see the value in bringing love/attention to yourself without anyone else? It's a practice of putting your needs first before the needs of others, so they will reciprocate the same kind of respect toward you

@Preety_India I think it's a dynamic learned in childhood, might feel very wrong to change, but definitely worth it. Like by giving yourself the love and respect you deserve, your partner will feel comfortable doing the same, so you always stay on the same page with trust and respect

Sometimes i think we make too many assumptions about what will make the other person happy instead of simply asking rather than seeking to please, for example. If there's anything i've learned about woman, it's that they don't necessarily want their problems fixed, they'd just appreciate being heard. I agree, surprise gifts are amazing and always appreciated. Not sure i understand this one but it almost seems like you're saying you'd rather not be heard than risk hurting someone you love

@assx95 It really helps to understand yourself, your attachment style and how/why you are dealing with the particular dynamics you do in all areas of life. To me you seem like an anxious-avoidant or anxious-preoccupied, the only sense of self you have is given to you by others, this is probably due to your relationship with your parents and obligation or need to fulfill their expectations to gain approval and the love you desire. Does this resonate?

@Preety_India It really depends on the type of relationships, the majority being codependents, will create a lot of conflict because the independence is lost and power dynamics develop. Unhealthy dynamic means unhealthy self boundaries, one gives too much while the other expects too much, typically both become glued together. In a secure relationship communication is much more effective, needs get met, conflicts settled; everyone can work towards this style, only, as you say, both parties must do their part or it will fail. Too often we feel like doing the other a favor by letting things slide or suppressing how they made us feel, but this only builds the tension and creates further separation, and misunderstanding This seems to be the codependent dynamic, not changing old patterns learned from caregivers; Why would she end it when a guy wants her to return his phone call or text? Because she's unable to request the spaces she desperately needs, a boundary. If this seems impossible, the building blocks are not sufficient for the healthy boundaries needed. this can be the neediness evoked from codependency A healthy individual ready for a secure relationship does not try to take responsibility for the emotions of another Yes communication is key, letting go of expectations and speaking our truth is really all that can be done. I had a stepfather who always tried to do what made my mom happy, he never did it for himself, just for her so he wouldnt suffer her wrath. I really disapproved of this as a kid because i could see how it never made her happy because he wasn't doing it to make himself happy. Growing up, all i ever witnessed was volatile and codependent relationships. I've avoided relationships for years now seeking to understand myself so i wouldn't push away another amazing woman who deserves more than i have to offer I am appreciating your perspective

@Preety_India hurt people hurt people...emotional neglect does indeed promote neediness Mature woman learn stability comes first and grow out of the whole ghosting strategy eventually, then take on relationships with more respect for themselves and in turn, others. I’m not saying it’s wrong to not respond for a day or two but if it’s creating obvious pain on either side, it can easily be subjugated Of course it is circumstantial but I think it’s dangerous to believe all relationships create turmoil, there are challenges and different levels of conflict dependent on maturity

@Preety_India I think it’s easy for woman to forget to communicate their boundaries especially through text because they rather not be mean or assume a guy will get the hint, even when he’s needy but this actually promotes the neediness and demonstrates a lack of boundaries Boundaries get violated if they are clearly stated and this goes ignored. There doesn’t need to be turmoil, just firmly communicated boundaries when there is triggered emotions, this is most likely due to past trauma and it’s resurfacing and can be effectively observed and released

It’s still a personal claim, I am not saying it’s wrong, just that you can’t get away from ownership and being misinterpreted judging someone based off what their teachings are not, to me, is a mistake or at least something to be learned from

@mandyjw Getting lost in thought is the human condition. Some choose to give this attention right out the gate while others work with it

@mandyjw I agree there’s something about love that describes the feeling of oneness or connection nothing else can, but it’s the energy or power behind it all that carries the unique will of being, source love whatever theres a danger and or greater responsibility for a teacher drawing people in, gaining followers through an over amplification, or seduction in a spiritual nature, feeding on the emotional needs Not to mention all the dogmatic religious baggage and history to tarnish the clarity

“Love remains the same”

On my last trip, I was in a sleep state, out of body, maybe called astral projection. During this experience I had 100s of perspectives in a single inbreathe. It was like flipping through pages of boxed realities. Honestly there’s not much to recollect but anything I had the desire to know, I could find instantly, unfortunately it wasn’t necessarily saved for ego memory lol

@Consilience thanks for sharing. You speak of resonance.No other word could do you justice but Love. I’m curious if he is married, he definitely could be limiting himself through his philosophy. But again I don’t think this means he’s suppressing or excluding anything, not in his current reality. I guess he’s just doing him as best as he can

If anything, martial arts mastery is what brought him to his realization. I think It’s actually a choice, an interpretation, to use Love as a faucet of Truth.

Could you imagine a discussion between Ralston and Matt Khan

? love it the devil ? lies in misunderstanding

@Elham Interesting! Thanks for sharing

By not believing what others say is the required amount of calcium and instead, listen to my body I like using my body for reference because it’s much simpler, and it communicates by energy flow

Exactly. That’s why we don’t need to expect to catch an feelings from someone who’s teaching about Truth