DrewNows

All the world really needs is for you to be YOU! For me this work has gotten me full ⭕️ and from here I’ll be content in being all i can for the sake of all those I encounter and my own petty yet absolutely beautiful existence

@Truth Addict ??

@Truth Addict but with a strong desire theres normally co-arising fear of failure and this often leads to suffering

Cool. So the desire is isn’t selfish but arises spontaneously and acts indifferently?

@jbram2002 totally ?❤️

Sure this is great but it seems you still do judge if you can identify toxicity and try to change others. Anyways it's all good man i am simply enjoying this discussion and I find it extremely difficult to notice when there are aspects still in the shadow

Interesting, what does projected love look like? I mean of course it's obvious everything is love disguised but im not sure i understand, maybe you refer to parental love as "always" being unconditional? some parents/people don't understand any kind of love that goes beyond selfish love (what you mean for me) and other people/parents may have selfless love where they create a dynamic to be easily taken advantage of because all their attention is on you.

exactly, it was a shallow ego expression. In actuality, just a poor attempt at humor in relation to your post. Huge respect for you both, even if i don't know your personality as well as ive gotten to see hers. @mandyjw is adorable, smart, brave and funny dude. What i got from your response was your own insecurity, which is okay because it is just my assumption and i know you must be pretty damn awesome to be together no matter what your "strengths and weaknesses" are. I wish the best for yall and always welcome your feedback and opinions @jbram2002 Also want to add mandy is much smarter than i and many others on here based off what i see and i hope i did not offend or disrespect you more jbram

it was a joke to go with your post about shame/ego and expressing yourself apologize for offending yall. im surprised part of you doesn't find it appreciative to hear, or at least be agreeable. Would it change if i was your best friend irl? Anyways, again my apologies, you are good people

@Truth AddictFriends who "love" us actually love their projections of us. What are you saying? Are you saying we don't play a part in the toxicity of others? Trauma is what causes fragmentation and toxicity. Sure we can be ignorantly fluid in life but if you can't see our own role in allowing toxicity, it will continue to find us. yeah sure but why did you have to take them seriously if they wouldn't take you seriously? The problems you had with your parents were "your" problems and this is because of the dynamic you used to have as a kid

ive dealt with this for almost 2 years now. We don't have to get what we crave from here. You seem pretty extroverted so this must be even tougher for you. I have developed a fear to get too close to people during this integration process. I basically have no friends in my city and mainly toxic family to interact with, other than strangers. ive probably gotten a little too comfortable being alone because it doesn't fit all the aspects of myself It is probably unavoidable initially to have that need to share your wisdom with others, but it will fade away and life can/will carry on. The mind uses spirituality as a new way to feel secure. The only addiction anyone ever has is their addiction to thoughts. Edit: It's taken me this long to realize much of my future growth will be in new experiences integrating boundaries without being tied down to a specific ideology or set of beliefs.

your wife is HOT! OOPS!

People are generally going to "love" their projection of you. But what happens when you grow and are no longer a person congruent with their expectations? Generally they will try to remold you or they will be forced to change their projection. When they are unwilling to do this and you don't allow them to remold you, then they will be forced to walk out of your life. Toxicity leaves your life the second you stop giving it attention. In certain situations, your boundaries may not be respected, or in my case, i didnt respect someone's boundaries, therefore they or i must be cut off

@Truth Addict Indeed. That’s what I’m saying I think what we really want is not to have to want just one thing and commit ourselves to a single identity based off what we feel we should do. I think this is fear and it creates the all or nothing mentality of sacrifice and commitment. It blocks creativity and opportunity to flourish in all directions, enjoying the ride of life

Yes that’s a thought implying there’s actually an i that wants something. Trust in the process of life to bring clarity to that thought does this make sense?

Okay what I mean is, once I recognize someone is toxic in our relationship, I can either tell them to get lost or I can create healthy boundaries and if they aren’t “okay” with my new behaviors then they will be forced to change or leave the relationship not specifically speaking of intimate relationships but relationships in general

What is the type of therapy?

Cool man You know what i want from us? Simply to recognize that any kind of limitation we have is self created. Ordinary? That sounds like a safe word. The super humans are so wonderful in showing the impossible is self determined. Thoughts can and will get in the way but we can be ready for them ordinary, super, authentic - all illusions of the mind

Very true! And for the top portion: let’s take two extremes, a monk and the professional athletes (Michael jordon) do you think either of them have a unsustainable or unsatisfactory life? I’d say no because they have paved their own path and each extreme is no longer their extreme but way of life

@Truth Addict is there a difference between pushing someone out of your life and driving them away? y’alls discussion brings up thoughts about my relationship with my father

Glad you are sharing your insights. Admirable to see ya doing it in a second language. It’s interesting some people tend to find themselves operating the best in the extremes, either very busy or always chill. For me I am unsure but anxiety kicks up when I’m feeling overwhelmed so if it’s a busy schedule I gotta have it on my own terms ha

Excited for you man. This looks like a great way to practice your vulnerability. I may find myself doing this exact thing sometime soon. It will coincide with more time off the forum focusing on growth. (Sharing my thoughts) the mind has a way of expressing itself to seem all loving and accepting but don’t hesitate in here to express the sides of you you might normally go against or hold back simply to be seen as a friendly open person. I’m finding it’s necessary to express all sides of me to truly grow as a person

Okay well you misunderstand maybe as I don’t advocate any sort of “killing”, only making whole the various parts of us we have suppressed or falsely limited ourselves to

Cheers man. And you’re totally right the title is actually a projection Ps glad you enjoyed that Teal Swan vid, quite enjoyed it as well, never actually thought in terms of superego