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Hahaha! Dude! Embrace yourself or there will be no change, no ending of pain, possible love and accept man see it (observe) without attachment the beauty of this is seeing the end of positive and negative experiences, but embracing it all (this is enlightenment)

wise words of a saint

@jbram2002 AMEN. also i dont remember saying you need to "eliminate" anticipatory" thoughts It may be hard but i wouldnt even judge them....it all goes towards perpetuating thought/self/pain/suffering/ego/story of you It's a wonderful story don't get me wrong, but it's still just a fucking story, no need to make it a serious life or death obstacle

"school villages" the places where kids become adults. Gender roles will collapse and people will do whatever they can to express the most love possible for the world

HAHAHA. The thing is, mankind will have new meanings for the terms "family" and "parents" imagine how empowering this will be

Sorry Nahm you have been elected to be one of the teachers/child raisers also don’t you worry kids will only be in school from maybe 4-12 and they will participate in the teaching process

What I’m sharing with you is exactly what I needed to be sharing with myself. What is it you need to share with yourself? (Give that some thought) you’re fully capable of self actualizing every single moment btw thanks for helping me realize this ✌️ It's so ironic to realize the entire time i spend "helping/assisting" you develops into simply helping myself however it don't mean you haven't received some value to take into your own consideration aye man

@jbram2002 it can be. Stop feeding the anticipation thoughts, take them like a grain of salt and throw your whole attention and being into the process itself, let go of the outcomes and you let go of the resistance/pain

I just created this thread and I think anyone here will find it interesting ❤️ @seeking_brilliancethanks for sparking my vision/curiosity

@tsuki haha there can be no success/progress without mistakes and failure

Bingo. There’s another fucking breakthrough. How well do thoughts of anticipation serve you and how accurate to they actually tend to be? What purpose do thoughts serve without experience to go with them? Battletoads hahaha! There’s your thoughts anticipating again. No way you could know indefinitely what your game will be like and what it may or may not develop into before you give it a try. remember thoughts aren’t the enemy unless we turn them into our obstacle. This is the Information Age, if you truly want to learn something nothing is stopping you from putting in the effort. And I mean NOTHING Btw I’m not sure how to link the athlean x channel on my phone but you can simply type it into the search bar

Ahh yes godhead showing ?

What the mind often so easily forgets/disregards is that your body is your own unique game, nobody else is able to play/experience it. Don’t let others hold you back from experiences the full mystery/puzzle that is YOU in other words don’t let anyone full dictate how YOU do you

What specifically do you want a link of from the channel? No equipment workouts? How long would you play a game that’s been hacked to have all bonuses and levels unlocked and nothing more to do but fuck around... some people learn to like pain but what I’m suggesting is learning to like/be okay with discomfort for the bigger reward

Oh nice profile pic ? “Just saying”

You’re just scratching the surface but it’s good you’ve gotten the wheels rolling. Bill is right, no need to over analyze your methods for “getting in shape”. You gotta commit 100% to doing something even if it’s minimal, every day. Inner work and getting healthy, loving yourself all go hand in hand. It will be a long journey of a life time and it won’t be easy but you will have moments where you experience breakthroughs that change your life forever. Doing what your wife wants you to do will not make you happy. I recommend watching the last video I posted in mirror, mirror as it will point to some deep insight to be had. Anothe thing to consider. People have this idea of working out as being a form of suffering to reep the benefits just like any other sort of job we do for money but it really doesn’t have to be this way. It doesn’t always have to be pushing your limits or killing yourself. You can actually participate in it more like playing a video game where you enjoy watching your body progress slowly and figuring out its limitations. Much pleasure to be had, the suffering is simply your resistance to change and adaptation also ive watched 1000s of hours of videos on fitness and I’d recommend athlean x if you decide to go weight lifting route. He offers some good body weight work requiring no equipment too keep being honest man especially notice when you’re scared, that’s when we lie to ourselves

Loved your last vid dude. Keep putting those pieces of the soul back together ?

@kieranperez nice work! @tsuki I am pretty sure martin ball shares this sort of technique for tripping. You can find him on youtube but basically i think it is keeping body alignment "bilaterally" not curling up or twisting etc but opening up and staying in sync even if the body wants to recoil

amazing shortish video here relating to mirroring

theres a lot to explore and you get to decide how deep you want to go, always baby steps. I know and like how you used a hypothetical example as it makes this less personal but also gives you something valuable to work with. Each of the following paragraphs went directly under your paragraphs. Please note im not trying to personally attack you in any way, just giving my perspective and ways you can go about it im sure it is healthy as a couple to share your problems and work together to accomplish your goals. In the example your wife doesn't have time to take care of the dog whenever she had agreed to carry out that role/duty. Once you notice, you gladly take care of it if you have the time, but i wouldn't NOT bring this up later on in conversation if she doesn't apologize and or thank you for helping her out. yes we are all creatures of comfort to a degree. Perhaps you wish to expand this comfort zone in your desire to be more open and do things you have never really done before simply for your benefit (which equals hers). This is another challenge in of itself. Practice makes perfect in all new activities. How often do you encourage and support her vs criticize/judge? (question you can answer to yourself) Is it possible to create mutual trust and communication to be most effective as a team? To improve your relationship with yourself, this will improve your marriage, something very challenging to see from your pov. How, actually, going deep into your own psyche, understanding your beliefs which you discover through looking into your focus and reactions to particular situations, this is the byron katie process for changing your beliefs to change behavior. You are two different individuals with unique values and perspectives so working together will not exactly address your inner work. Stop neglecting yourself, if you are worrying about the uncontrollable then look into what exactly makes you think this way. Effort has to be mutual for your relationship to flourish again. Figure out how you may have played a part in the problems, then explore what beliefs you hold, then use the byron katie method of questioning them. (i have not given you the method) You continue to make her responsibilities your problems which means you may not trust her to do her part or at least reach out to you for help when she needs it. And you might hold the belief that because you put her first, she should put you first. If this is the case then you would want to figure out why you think you need to put her first. Please ignore what isn't true as i share a perspective and some possibilities links to judge your neighbor worksheet and one belief at a time: both byron katie http://thework.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/jyn_en_mod_6feb2019_r4_form1.pdf https://thework.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/onebelief_Eng.pdf IF you wish to see her process in action, search her on youtube (its very powerful) haha the novel is nauseating! What beliefs will you need to let go of and what mindset and actions will you need to take for change? If you were to envision the strongest version of yourself, how exactly would you think, act, and see/project yourself to be like?

(Id like to explore this with ya) First off we can question if it's really our problem. Then is it something out of our control? I am not sure if you are familiar with Byron Katie's "the work" but it helps us work through negative thoughts/beliefs by questioning them from different angles so we can actually see if they are true. It really is a beautiful process for eliminating our mistaken truths, even the subconscious ones. I think we get conditioned to see "problems" as bad and solutions to be difficult and arguments to be a given. Maybe it is possible to simply question the negatives then create positives for LoA. For your example, can you see how you've made her problem yours? Not necessarily bad but maybe it’s possible to simply offer support, encouragement and communication without having an argument im not so big on the loa but i do think it is necessary to address your "blocks" before attempting to "change" through it. If you aren't able to completely believe/see yourself as achieving abc, address the limiting beliefs, so you can adopt the mindset necessary to produce/cultivate abc

@Shin now has a point! You must be certain about who exactly you’re trying to kill... i want to see “the real shin shady” ?

He is YOU but he didn’t share your def. for extreme in desire. Neuroticism is always self defined, even when you see someone else acting completely neurotic it is still your evaluation THIS is interesting observation and critique! Ive played with the idea of mastery for years. Mastery will never end even once you hit 100% in the experience. The remainding bit is imo the most satisfying to reach because it requires total surrendering of the you. This has been my experience playing soccer

You don’t think his personal life wasn’t “perfect” for him? This is a belief. The harddest thing for the mind to accept is it doesn’t really get to choose the desires. But this doesn’t mean our desires don’t change “organically” as we do. Michael simply did not resist or let go of his extreme desire.

And it may keep you from achieving a goal or desire, from walking into the unknown