Etherial Cat

Sure. But a lot of bad sex is due to a lack of emotional arousal on the female side. In French, there is a famous saying which goes by "there are no frigid woman, only poorly approached ones". The bottom is: a horny woman will be horny and do a lot of work. If she's not doing it, it means she's not that horny. And becoming horny on the female side has a lot to do with the feelings she's got for a guy.

You are interpreting my posts and deducing stuff out of nowhere. I have never said it has to be some niche feminist porn, you said it. I have never said porn was just one genre of stereotypical porn, you deduced it. What I said is that porn if anything would be largely more wired towards a "masculine" type of sexuality, which is true. And then, I said that female oriented porn is niche, which is true as well. All the rest is you arguing with yourself... And distorting my words. Feminist porn and female oriented porn doesn't convey the same ideas.

Leo is particularly petty with me. He earned it. I'm the woman. Nothing else to say.

@Something Funny I'm obviously talking about the average porn. Female oriented porn is niche.

It's your attitude that makes women suck at sex. fixed it for ya

If a girl sucks at sex and is bored... It's most likely because she's not emotionally turned on and/or you're not attuned to her sexuality. If she's not into it, she's most likely not emotionally into you or properly aroused. She's given in physically, but there is 0 proper emotional connection and intimacy. Female sexuality is very different from male sexuality, and porn if anything would be largely more wired towards a "masculine" type of sexuality. So if you're expecting from a girl to act just like in porn or enjoy herself if you wish to fuck her like porn, question whether you're not trying to feed a lion some vegetables. Obviously, it's not gonna work... on both side.

Ego Gura *lamely rolls on the floor at her own joke

If I were you, I'd work on my healing, figuring out what you truly enjoy and then cultivating new social circles. You'll then meet girls there, and have subject to talk about that truly resonate with your experience. Find girls in these circles. Attends social events related to these elements, and start to interact with girls there platonically first.

Do you have the opportunity to meet women in your everyday life? The easiest thing to do is to get familiar with talking to girls without any special expectations and thus have a good basis for approaching romantic relationships. I notice that a lot of guys who claim to be great at pick up really lack this basis, and as a consequence have a distorted image of femininity. Interacting with girls and women from all age casually will help you build a different image of what women are and normalize your relationship to females. If you're afraid of us, or have difficulties chatting with women in general, it means that you're afraid or at discomfort with the mental image you've built up of women. My second advice will be to take the time to reflect on your own hobbies, favorite subjects and so forth, then attends events or social opportunities related to these hobbies and interact with the girls there. Is there any peculiar things you enjoy?

@Someone here What are you hobbies, interests and favorite subjects in general?

Awww. *teary eyes* ? That's sooooooo adorable! Thank you.

It's today. It's so adorable you remembered. I'm very touched. Thanks a lot for the birthday wishes... In the middle of that thread discussing porn. I didn't expect it !

Yeah, but the easy money becomes the trap. The road from just making a few bucks on OnlyFans to sliding into full prostitution and/or porn is quite high. I have this theory that actually the porn industry produce a lot of content where the turn on is to see women getting raped on camera in return for money, while pretending it's a normal job. Pushing consent to the limit, and turning the woman further and further into a powerless, degraded low value whore is pretty much what turns on a lot of people. That's why Lana ended up drinking piss and that type of other mess.

Porn is really a lame business. You should have a look at the documentary Hot girl wanted, produced by Rashida Jones. It's not easy to make a career out of it. There are millions of free videos on the internet, and getting attention to build your niche and fanbase is difficult. There are always money for starters. A first porn video will bring you cash. The reason mostly being that the public is interested in seeing a girl getting into porn and get turned on by the "making of whore". But then, quite fast, job opportunities gets scarce and they've got to escalate to increasingly degrading stuff, and survive in a business where most of the pipeline and money is in producing content that appeal to the average guy's subconscious fantasy. And a lot of it has to do with female depedestalization and going extreme on the whore archetype. Lana Rhoades might be on top of that game, but she had to paid the price for it. I discovered her on that forum, because someone posted a thread on the effect of porn on female body and psychology. Turn out, that girl (Lana) has severe PTSD from some of the movie she shot. I remember she said in the interview, that she's been followed by a therapist, and she's been discussing with it some of the degrading stuff she's been through. Belle Delphine, on the other hand managed to build herself fame ahead, and get on top of the porn game while producing herself content on her terms. But I'm also questioning why she decided to go the porn route. Though, her fame was highly dependent on the male gaze, she could have monetized her fame in dozen of other ways if that's what she was after. In my opinion, it was really much unnecessary.

I don't know. I suppose I am trapped in the same dynamic as a lib baffled at Fox news. Even some thread titles sounds like triggering clickbait.

@Tristan12 Damn, you've just earned yourself a new subscriber! Incredible wisdom for someone born in 2000! When I was your age, my head was full of air. Luck you!

@Loba I am sorry for reading about the number of abuses you've been through. This forum - and especially this dating section, is in my opinion full of inexperienced dudes, late bloomers and guys who had a bunch of difficult relationships with females and are bitter/resentful. I don't find it representative of what can be found in the real world. The worst thing that you can do is to let these guys poison your mind and subscribe to their worldview. Because it is simply not true. While Leo is not an incel, he's subscribing to worldview that aren't so far off. And his gravity pool and leadership turns this dating section into something that matches his worldview, attract similar individuals and turn off those who do not resonate with it.

Yep! There has even been a thread about it not so long ago. Lo siento, Don del Pueblo.

I'm 31 for 2 more days... so you're probably not much older than me. Which also means, you should perhaps not take my incapacity to spot your old age as a sign of youth. Damn, the daddy thing is a bit creepy though. But if that works. Good. It's quite funny, after all!

I'm sure you're not that old? I'm not sure what type of age gap @somegirl was referring to. I thought 10-20+ ?

They know it, but they'll do it anyway. A lot of them don't care about the "how", as they are desperate for the outcome. What they do is that they are putting their own interest over yours. And they don't care about what leverage they use. Age power differential, money, pick-up...

I don't think that's so uncommon. I've been disliking the attention of (much) older guys as well for most of my life. It's like suddenly a bunch of dads are looking at you with a sexual interest when for you they just remain dads. So it comes off as very weird, and a bit like a betrayal of expectations. The reason why it's insulting is because a lot of them usually give you a lot of uncomfortable, unsolicited sexual attention, when you just consider them as "too old" and out of your "dating zone" because you're just not into older dudes.

You wouldn't be the only one. It's kinda the standard. And I'm working on it too ! Well integrated people are very rare. Yes. That's true. Emerald made a thread on this specific point, if I remember correctly. And I had some insights about the way it works lately. Basically, imagine being a leader (divine masculine quality) without love for yourself and other (divine feminine quality). Being rational (divine masculine quality) ) without understanding (divine feminine quality), etc. Great ! Good luck with that. Have you made any type of work regarding understanding your emotions and learning emotional literacy in general? It could be of great help! Oh yes, I'd say that a soothing energy would be probably feminine, though a gentle, protective energy could also very agreeable. What you mean by gay is probably feminine elements that are non gender normative, and perceived as "unmasculine" ? By the way, shadow masculinity really doesn't go well with feminine energy in general. I'm not sure how that shadow masculinity would be attracted to females, there.

Hahah, right. If you can turn a blind eye on how that stuff is made, of course. But I always need to self-deceive myself while I'm eating junk food and deal with my guilt afterward.