Etherial Cat

Ouch. Sorry to hear that Farnaby. You didn't get lucky with this one. I also got my 1st shot of the Pfizer vaccine recently.... it was exactly 7 days ago. I got a sore arm for 2 days, and very very mild headache few hours after the shot. No fever. But my nose has been running slightly since then and my throat is a tad painful. Seems like my tonsils are a bit inflated. Also I've got a bit of a wet cough. So perhaps you'll have also these extra symptoms popping up. One must say- this Covid virus is a strange one. The variety of potential effect is astonishing. Thanks for the info! I'm now totally unexcited about that second dose. And shitting my pants like Fanarby. Hahaha

Tchooo! Petit commentaire pour te laisser savoir que je suis admirative de ce que tu écris dans ton journal. J'aurais tellement aimée être aussi mature et aware à ton age. Tu as de la chance!

Well, just tell us then, because I'm curious and I find what you say a tad mysterious.

@eaaaeaeae Lemme guess. You're french !

Intimacy is the ability to see in another person. You'll have often individual referring to it as "into me see" to define it. Unless there is intimacy, you are not being present with another person but projecting on them. In that context, is a very shallow knowledge of someone where the person is a mere object in your experience, instead of being a portal to your own Self. Intimacy can occur on many level. Intellectual, emotional, spiritual to name a few. What you get as a result of it is a feeling to inhabit the same dimension and understand one another. In this space, there is unity. A connection of the highest quality. There is... Love . It is being able to see beyond ego, the Self. In all vulnerability and acceptance. It allows for heart chakra based characteristics to emerge and enter a place of true generosity, nurturing and care for one another. Emerald put it so beautifully when she said intimacy is particularly important for women in the context of a romantic relationship because of the heart opening feelings. In my case, this heart opening feeling is the doorway to my most intense feelings for merger, unity. Which is also what makes me want to have sex.

Yes. Putting the emphasis on the survival game in relationship is a big mistake. It also hurts men in the long run, who end up seeing everything through this lense... and miss out on the most important, which is love.

I would say that time is what appears as creation unfolding itself, from the vantage point of eternity. And this would be why the moment is always "now" while forms are dancing around.

No we don't. Enjoy making yourself unattractive and dangerous.

@Parththakkar12 I'm not interested in addressing your points any further. Sorry. Best wishes of growth, though,

She was screaming at him after he did "something evil" from his own words. The reason why you and Starstruck are not getting laid has nothing to do with women. So far, I understand totally that a woman would want nothing to do with men acting this way and holding such toxic views on top of nurturing a large amount of resentment towards female. Misogynist make poor partners. You are just being low value acting this way. And Starstruck has proven himself to be dangerous and losing totally his control in front of a contrariety. This is piss poor quality behavior. This girl would have been better off not having crossed her path with him. That is the hard truth that you need to let sink in. Now, if Starstruck and you want to redeem yourself and work on rising your value, it starts with healing yourself from the feminine wound you have and taking responsibility for your feelings and resentment. Starstruck had already started looking on that last week before he give in to his spite. I think this case is a great example for why it is important to encourage a multi approach coming from men doing PUA and work on developing both their relationships skills and their inner wounds. Obviously, it is the latest that has been and still is sabotaging Starstruck efforts.

@Parththakkar12 So, you are telling us that women are evil for having the right to deny sex from guys who only want to use them to dig their dicks?

This is not a male vs female issue, so there is no need to frame this as such. And also calling out the women on the forum for pointing out at this totally inadequate behavior is kinda strange because a lot of men have been also disapproving of his action as well. What are you doing out of this? What he did was not okay and he knows it. You are making him a disservice by siding with him and encouraging his spite.

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What is this non sense? What you've done is not okay and you should stop being in full denial or taking any type of satisfaction from it. Taking any type of pride, joy or relief, or having a fire "sparked in your eyes" is the sign of a major dysfunction. Stop approaching girls and go talk to your psychologist instead.

Probably one of the most profound and empathetic post written in a long time. I see what you see. Though, sometimes it is hard to keep this in mind, reading some of the stuff being said. Kudos to you for not getting triggered and staying so firmly grounded.

Aww... so adorable!

You've got this girl.

In general, I really question the idea of building a relationship with someone out of wanting something specific from them. Nowadays, I just meet people trying not to have much expectations to what it will develop into and let life do the sorting. When you meet a person, it is normal that they enter the acquaintance zone for a while. It takes time to discover someone and know who you are dealing with and what is the underlying potential of the relation. It allows to check the overall compatibility. Even when you enter an actual romantic relationship, you kinda have to act the same. Detachment of outcome is important. You need it to stay grounded and not be needy. That's also what makes someone attractive. Here is quote from Rumi I just found on patience and accepting the process..

You should talk about this with your psychologist during your next appointment.

Yes, of course. Your average bum is most likely a broken, unhealthy, low consciousness human. But let's not forget that you've got also people who give up on social status and material possession, because they see little meaning in it and hang out in limbo for a while after severing the tie with their previous life. You can't exclude the idea of meeting the Eckhart Tolle or Siddharta Gautama of the world in odd position at some point perhaps even hanging around your local train station. Eckhart Tolle was literally a bum hanging in parks and sleeping on London benches. Yet, even with that he was largely of higher value for society back then than your average psycho driving a Porsche and working in the City. The dude was fully enlightened and about to become a great spiritual teacher! So you can be a bum and still be high value even if it doesn't show. What I mean by that is that someone's value is not entirely tied to stuff that you can observe and quantify. And also from one day to the other, a "high value", financially at ease individual can lose it all. So I'd beware of assigning value in people mostly to transient/added things, outside of who they are on a character level for reason such as this. Most of the value you've got depends on who you are as a person and occurs on the being level. These are very desirable qualities, of course. But you can have all of them and still be an ass. These exist through different expressions. Basically they need to be incarnated with wisdom and balanced through some integrated feminine energy as well. So I'd say that they are great, but not sufficient. In a nutshell, ticking all of these boxes can still land you the Ramzan Kadirov of the world and someone who will not make a good partner. The "lofty spiritual values" are kinda necessary for these qualities to be complete. Otherwise, what you've got is very likely a shadowy, ego-driven sort of masculinity. So... Aren't we agreeing here?

I've bought the book on audible like 2-3 days ago. It really seems like a book that deserve a read.

Why aren't you driving a Ferrari, or going systematically for the most appealing superficial thing then? You might as well find much more value on a car that suits your actual needs and wants than jumping on the flashiest thing available- knowing that it comes with a set of inconveniences as well. Yes of course. I'm not denying this. It's very likely that I would be very much unattracted to a homeless hunchback. There is a threshold for sexual attraction, and a relationship can only flourish if the parties involved are able to sustain their bodies and not be too worried about their survival. So I would totally try to avoid this extreme, because it has very clear problem in there. But also, a homeless guy can be of far greater human value than a successful athlete. For instance, Rumi fell in love with Shams who was a penniless wanderer. And I've also read that Shams wasn't particularly attractive. We value in others what we value in general. And for me, at the end of the day, I value stuff like consciousness, self-love, respect, integrity, development and all that jazz. And while I also appreciate cash and physical attraction, I'm also well aware of its limitation. That's it. It's not that I am trying to be a special snowflake but that's the reflection of my experience.

A 6th tall player with a 10 million home can still be of low relationship material. Successful athletes like Tristan Thompson, or O.J Simpson are great illustration for that. It doesn't take much to see how these were premium quality mate for their female partners... Absolute trash! Anyway, I feel like you're missing the point here Leo. Of course, a wealthy, physically attractive man is much more appealing than its opposite. But it is not the sole criteria for value. These factors are great but not enough to guarentee a successful relationship. And the missing elements are what I am mostly interested in.

You shouldn't be valuing women just because they are hot. It's foolish. And she'd be an idiot to get in a relationship with you if that's what you care most about. If you value hotness primarily in a partner, you are missing out on all the other aspect that makes a relationship great. Hmm... No! Not at all high value. ? You are projecting your own masculine value system on women as a group in general. Your "bad boy with good vibes" has as much value to me than an old McChicken who's been sitting in the trash for days.

If you want to have a relationship with someone, it is clear that you should be attracted to them to some extend. But attractiveness is also subjective. A good bank balance is basically survival capital and it is of course very appreciable. But this shouldn't be part of the relationship goals. Ideally, you'd wish to have your own great bank balance instead of finding a partner with one. Otherwise, you are using your partner as an object towards a bank balance. Charm/conviviality is a nice quality. But it's great to have in any relationship with humans. In my opinion, your three "objective factors" are valuable to you, and while I see the appeal in them they are not "objective factors" and I don't base my value in a partner in them. So you're just projecting your value system on everyone else.