The Harlequin

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You're totally right, it's so crazy how the mind can trick itself. I don't really often go in that "super-happy mood" state, but what helped me through the last months was to, as you said, smile to every person I met and this combined with the fact that most of the time people smile you back can cheer you up so much! You've read a book about it so you probably know about all what you can do to feel happier, but what I also like to do is to just be fully aware that today is today and you only have one shot to make it sweet. It's awesome how you can create this "happy bubble" for you and your surroundings, just remember to smile and to laugh and make laugh and if you never get tired of it, and you do it regularly, then yes you will become this way and it will run on autopilot, there is no secret to it.

It's true that you also have to consider why you want to be that way and to whom you want to look stylish, because it's mainly a matter of tastes and they are very different depending on the social groups in which you evolve. In practice, I suggest you to try to dress simply, sober at the beginning. Have some white/grey/black/blue shirts/T-shirts so you have the basics. Then if you want to get a bit more eccentric there are plenty of ways to have your own style and that's the more important thing: dress in the way you like to dress, the more authentic you are the more results you will get. I had a lot of great influences over the past because I used to be friends with really well-dressed people, but you have to look on your own, try to be more interested in clothes and eventually you will get to it. Hope I helped somehow.

What do you think about getting in a serious relationship with a woman/getting married ? It can maybe guarantee you a more stable situation but on the other side, it's taking a lot of time so should it be considered as a distraction for someone who wants to self-actualize ? My question might seem weird, but I'm curious about your opinion on this. I saw you answered to the same kind of question earlier but you didn't say how you felt about it personally.

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