Hansu

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  1. Thanks for the detailed answer! Im going to try this contemplation technique as soon as possible. I have done some unintentional contemplating on relationship in my mind and had amazing results, but only now I thought about using it on other problems as well. Meditation has been great but in meditation my results have been kind of like sudden realizations of different kind of self-sabotaging actions and less of a laser-like problem solving. I trust this will work wonders, thanks!
  2. Can you elaborate on this? Im having problems with occasional social anxiety when im dealing with strangers or schoolmates, but with friends im always confident no matter what. Its almost like I cant be myself when im with my schoolmates unless get a buzz running, and it sucks Any tips on what I should work on?
  3. I love cravings of alcohol and sugar. They are my cues to grab a stick and beat my monkey mind until it calms back down. Thing is, I don't even like those substances EDIT: It would be awesome to learn how to tap into the confidence power that alcohol gives you, does anyone know if its possible? Because if it is, then it would be tremendous self-growth substance when used in a right mindset
  4. Awareness alone is curative is easily the best one. It switched something in me that helped me to finally get my life on a steady spiritual upwards thrift. Second would be masculinity vs femininity which to me is incredible because it helped me to open eyes to how people complaining about women's logic is simply just closing your eyes from something you don't want to believe to be true. With this video i learned about masculinity and femininity, and at the same time I began to open my understanding towards all kinds of different people who have different beliefs and ways of living than I have. This led to me becoming more authentic and dropping a lot of my false acting All videos based on emotions, particularly "How to deal with strong negative emotions". They have helped me develop social awareness and my understanding of emotions to a level i never thought I would have before. I was always a little autistic before (thought I dont lack the ability to form emotional intelligence like they claim autistic people are unable to develop) and these videos have helped me immensely when developing relationships with others, and while they have become a little more fake, they are becoming deeper. They also have helped me to distinguish people who are their authentic selves and unconditionally loving to those who are imago driven and egoistic. "How to stop caring what other people think of you" and "How to exploit other people to grow yourself". The reason is same as the one above
  5. Get a very repetitive job ?
  6. @billiesimon "Because of being born in wrong race" Check your privleges, whitey
  7. You are probably from USA but OP, this opener is like the most finnish thing i have ever read written by an outsider
  8. (And women) Im looking for autobiographies that share the lifes of people rising to power and success against all odds. Preferably audiobooks and longer than 10 hours, for example Jackie Chans 4 hour long autobiography taught me nothing of the man that Bruce Lees 19 hour biography taught me, expect that Jackie has a son that was told in the last 5 minutes Im looking for: Political struggles from leftist, right, nazi, communist, marxist, taoist. People who are responsible for driving those dreams, their struggles viewed objectively People who achieved their dreams beside incredible struggle due to racism or character traits, preferably african americans when racism was mainstream, Africans with albino trait and asians who fought against the system. The Jewish people from multiple points of view. I have heard so much contradicting arguments for and against things like holocaust and the "Jewish people trying to put European countries in eternal loan prison" that i dont believe anything anymore. I need perspective from multiple sources Exhausting list, but i would really appreciate to get some insightful recommendations! Already read: Jackie Chans autobiography Bruce Lees biography (excellent example what im looking for) On my list: Mein Kampf (not a bipgraphy to be truthful. Also i dont trust any books about Hitler published in english language to truly be objectional) Martin Luther King Jr biography The rise of Theodore Roosevelt Unspecified books on Leo's book list Thank you!
  9. @St Clair No problem! I recommend the Audible version. Hours just fly by as you listen to the book
  10. I recommend reading Bruce Lee's biography. Its nice view into life of a ruthless man with no clear goal but still acing everything what he decided to do. Its a rather long book, but full of details about everything he did ‎"The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus." -Bruce Lee
  11. @Girzo Totall recall seems very promising. When i first saw it i thought it was the same story as the movie, lol @doucey24 I appreciate the details, thanks! I'll add them to my list @Erlend K Added Neverheard of the man but seems promising. I love the fact that he was born in a very rich family, i have always been interested on how it affects a person
  12. Lol, i had forgotten there is biographies on it Added few promising ones on my list @okulele Seems promising, thanks!
  13. Im not sure if the five strawman comments in this thread is due to trolling or genuine lack of understanding what OP says. Just because giving advice and receiving advice is generally stupid doesent mean that you are hipocrite for doing it. Advice are just signs showing the road, not the road itself. They are the fastest tool of self-developement to be thrown away after implemention to your life, generally after one or two books you read about the subject you got adviced on. I love how some people claim to have meditated for a year or even two, and they have no fucking clue or understanding of their own emotions. This is taking advice seriously, someone says you need to meditate for 20 minutes a day to get superpowers and then you think you progress while you dont progress at all. Dont take an advice, instead look where it points at and pick a fucking book
  14. Can someone help me understand the life of a bulk monk? Just like how there is bulk engineers, meaning 90% of people with high degree doing "dream job" but who never accomplish anything and are literally replacable by another bulk engineer, what does the bulk monk do with their lifes? Im baffled because i cant see a reason, anything else but to enjoy the satisfaction of being in the now and not introducing anything challenging in life when your life revolves around monastery. So what do they do? Do they travel the world? Do they leave the monastery at some point to live a life of a normal man, to learn it in first experience? Highly detailed biography would be awesome. Plus 15 hours preferably, i hate when biographies jump years for no reason
  15. How many catholic priests really follow their spiritual path due to spirituality and not for the fear of a big bearded man striking them to hell?
  16. I have found that being stupid and doing bad things is essential for growth. I see that what separates wise people from... Less wise people is that wise man is ready to do stupid shit like its the most important thing in the world, but he is also ready to drop the activity as soon as contradicting evidence comes up. Like how you have to become blue in spiral dynamics ladder before you can become orange, or how you have to pick up people pleasing before you can advance to the higher levels of social awareness so you can drop people pleasing. Or like some spiritual teacher say "in the end, you have to unlearn everything about spirituality"
  17. A good diet is one that makes you feel good. Dont listen to anyone telling you what to do, listen to your body and mind. If your mind tells you to go vegan because of life in animals, then the choice is a no brainer. If your body tells you to go more vegan, go more vegan and vice versa. Just dont go overboard and listen to your body when you make chances in your diet. Full vegetatian diet is not for everyone, and neither is full carnivorous diet. Its really up to what is balance in you own, unique body. Sure its easier to print a list from internet and follow it like a sheep than it is to gently adjust your diet for years to achieve balance, but remember that your body is better teacher than Leo Gura or any nutritional scientist. Only you see inside yourself, if you know how to listen.
  18. @Vipassana Ah, heh. Im more used to direct approach so i can sometimes miss something But accidental raping happens all the time. People with low social awareness have sex with other people who also have low social awareness, where the raped person is unable to show adequate signs of refusing sex because of low social awareness, and the "rapist" is unable to pick up the signs and stop the act because of his/her low social awareness. The "rapist" however is not usually prosecuted even though some people in society nowdays would love to send those people to jail. I think it is the same with eating meat. If your friend accidentally or unknowingly of your veganism prepares meat to you, i dont see a problem eating that meat for the same reason i dont see it as a problem to NOT jail people who commit accidental rapes. Why? Because i see raising awareness as more important than following an ideology. Raising awareness regarding veganism is much more powerful way to turn more people into vegans, than spreading your meme-generating stick-assiness to your friends and loved ones. As long as you act like those people in memes, you are causing more harm than good. My message derailed a little but i hope it opens how i see my veganism diet. Btw: eating vegetarian is awesome
  19. If i didnt have personal problems with eating human flesh and i enjoyed it, yes. This would be true even if i had dropped eating human flesh earlier for health reason, then eating it now and then wouldnt really make noticeable enough difference in my overall non-human based diet. Clearly your reason to avoid meat is different, so i would appreciate hearing your viepoint instead of you throwing smartass strawman. Thank you, #noattack
  20. He could have had those foods to help with the retreat in some way. I dont really understand stick-in-ass veganism. Just like smoking a cigar once in a year dont turn you into smoker, why is there such a stigma inside and outside vegetarian/vegan community that committing to the ideology 100% and never breaking it? "Oh he ate meat! So he is not vegan loololol" Im planning to move into vegetarian diet, and if i do i will allow myself to eat meat in such situations like if my friend is offering food he/she prepared. If i can cure whatever negative things 25 years of eating empty calories and meat has done to me in 3 months, then surely i can eat meat once a week and not immediatly turn into a sluggish loser
  21. Im aware that im bumbing an old topic, but holy shit! This technique immediatly gave me more awareness on everything! It feels like my senses are picking up much more than previously, especially my sight
  22. Or you can contemplate all you want before actually starting the video. Also i imagine that many video's titles have changed 2-10 hours prior to uploading
  23. Lol, i have been wondering whether im stupid or intelligent all my life, and i have found plenty of answers that indicate to both directions but none are what i seek. I have dropped the question completely. Assumptions are fine as long as you keep questioning them. Keep questioning them until you either have answer or you drop the question. You cant rely on other people giving you answers to your questions, you have to seek them yourself. Like if there is a screaming child in grocery store and you make an assumption that the child is horrible person, and immediatly you get the feeling that "fuck, i shouldnt assume things like that" Just let yourself assume without critizising your assumption, and start bombarding yourself with questions related to why you are assuming, and whether the assumption is true or false. In the end, you either drop it or you poop out a fact. You dont need other people to get that fact I have found that being my own teacher has been the greatest discovery of my life
  24. I used to do the same on my local 4chan and get angry for the same reason. But then i looked inside myself and understood that my need to change peoples opinions were my own ego jacking off and trying to become "cool wise guy who everyone looks up for wisdom" Today, i still do discuss these things on 4chan but mostly just for my own amusement to see how absurd self-contracting shit people can let out of their minds. And whenever there is soneone who get interested, i shift my mind to explaining mode, but still wont get angry if they dont understand or accept my opinions. Fuck their problems, I wont make them mine ?
  25. Dayum this is a sexy picture Anyway. I have a quick question for you: Do you hate people who bash science, or do you hate the idea that too much hating science makes people not research it? We can use laws of gravity and Newtons third law to somewhat understand what we need to build in order to build a rocket engine. Then we have to use facts discovered in other areas of science build us a rocket engine that can take us to the next planet so that the humanity is not doomed if a mere rock hits the earth. Does this make me a firm believer in science? Lol no! I still keep the option that maybe i am everything and maybe non-duality is true, and i will keep searching for them. At the meantime im going to finish my engineering diploma and continue researching the subject which i believe will change how every singe one of us lives on earth during next 2-3 decades I don't have a problem holding two contradicting beliefs. I just hold them.