Javfly33

Well said ??

And is getting worse. Comparing to how my fathers used to mate, nowdays dating game and man-woman relationship is a brutal jungle.

??? Nah, but seriously, I think findom will not be an issue in my life when I have enough women on my life and I'm stable in the assertive masculine energy and not in the nice guy-expect validation from woman mode. I don't think there's other way. I spent a lot of time trying to heal me and all of that but it hasn't worked. It just seems I've been avoiding the harsh reality that this dating game is a jungle and one has to defend itself and become strong within. I've tried to deny this harsh reality but is time for me to accept the rules of the game.

@Carl-Richard The point is it wasn't a famous brand. It was a niche small brand, so seeing that brand as a store on your borough would be a significant coincidence, so the question is not dumb. Is a question I would have done if I was with my mum or a friend, it didn't have anything to do with trying to be funny or ingenius. You guys are being nonsensical

Exactly

@Something Funny Yeah, absolutely. And this type of girls sometimes exhibir explicit psychopathic behaviour. They perfectly know most of his clients have mental health issues and even sometimes use it as a shame trigger to relapse with them. Is one of the most dangerous cruel people I´ve seen out there.

I don't know if there is something outside of the dichotomy of 'beta-alpha'. I just know I had experienced tremendous, utter, brutal suffering being beta. A extreme suffering that almost killed me. So I´m not going to roll the dice again trying to 'connect'. Another experience could kill me. I have to construct a solid barrier between me and the woman, and just use her for sex and play with her. Is that really conscious? NO. But she responds well when you do that. So why would I try to connect with her and trust her since that particular perspective was the one that made me lose her. I tried to connect several times in the past with women and the bet was fatal. But I don't know actually what happens after sex. Maybe after sex you can connect. I only had sex with hookers so I wouldn't know what to say in this regard.

?Thanks, I'm slowly coming out of it and now and integrating the lesson. It has been like a 2 week long psychedelic trip lmao. There's actually a woman on YouTube that does coaching about healing the inner child and literally says Reality works in a such a way that puts you people that will trigger or make you see some things you need to see. Kind of macabre but maybe is true.

Yesterday I was going to watch some porn and I realized nah this doesn't solve anything and doesn't feel right. Still thinking daily about this rejection I had with a girl some weeks ago but It feels I've learned a hard truth. I need to accept that women like and are attracted to and NOT judge it. Important to not judge how things work. Accept their desires and my role as a man. Never again I will have a date like the one I had with this girl.

For the girl is the opposite. Is when you have sex that she starts to want to connect. If you try to connect with her on a soul level before sex, you fucked up she won't feel desire or feel you you are a man. The game is actually very macabre. As a person one of the most sweet feeling you can have is that feeling of connection and love, but choosing that perspective will make the girl NOT be attracted to you and see you as a friend and lose interest. And if you play the game she actually wants you to play, in other words the masculine, leading, dominating her (assertively, not in an narcissistic way) she will be attracted and like you, but you won't get that feeling of connection and love, you will be in that macho survival aspect role, which at the end of the day, is much much more pleasurable and good feeling that being mr nice guy beta, but still crushes your soul because it doesn't feel quite right, you are just playing a role. Overall I would conclude that you can not have connections with women and at the same time have sex, for her to become attracted to you you can not get into this high conscious perspective, because this high conscious perspective eliminates the possibility of her being attracted to you sexually/romantically. Is a macabre game. In summary, don't try to seek love or connection with women, is not the place to get it. Offer what she wants and get what she can offer you.

Interesting. I haven't done regression work but have taken some big hits lately lol...I guess that also works for the pain to become conscious.

Really? I would say foot fetish is related to low self esteem, shame energies, inferiority with women...etc. Me myself I've found I'm not longer excited to that after some "consciousness" expansions in regards to my unhealthy relationship with women and fundamental disconnection.

@flowboy is complicated. On one hand they have their part of trauma and psychopathic tendencies to be taking advantage of someone on a vulnerable situation or mental health crisis. On the other hand, I do believe ultimately the responsibility is of the individual, at the end of the day no one puts a gun to my head to contact one of this girls to get humilated. So in summary I would say the responsibility is mine to change my attitude and behaviour, but it helps to explain the fact that this type of fetishes exist because there are also perpetrators on the other hand that are ready to take advantage of the situation. Is similar to other things as the drug world. No drug dealer puts a gun to the head of the drug user to go use fentanyl, but at the same time it must be recognized that for that situation to happen it needs also someone with very low morals to be selling fentanyl. It helps to explain, it doesn't mean that ultimately the responsibility is of the drug user.

Is normal, it happens to me too, especially with more stimulant-like psychedelics, LSD or similar. With DMT or mushrooms doesn't happen. What psychedelic did you take?

I feel that whole "masculinity" motto is being used for almost anything to justify exploiting one self. Masculinity doesn't have to do with suffering ...

After something with a girl I recently met didn't worked out, it came 6 days of utter hell and extreme suffering, Life showing me the darkness and lack of love there was inside me all my life. I had to go deep into the pain and realized I feel I do not deserve love and I'm not worthy of being alive. I had to drown myself in the pain of that belief, trying to look at it clearly. All my life I was running of this belief, of this energy. All of my schemas and goals for years and years were subconsciously desired in order to feel love, always from outside, the love I couldn't feel just being ME. I saw clearly the love and unconditional acceptance I was projecting to her, I was not giving it to me. Now is clear to me, I deserve Love, but not a love from others, but Love itself, from Life, because I'm Life. Because I'm Love itself. I completely love and accept myself. And 100% worthy of being alive, just being me, with no conditions.

Of course now you have to insult. Cool bro, cool. You are so better than me for never doing a mistake. Yuppy! Hurra to you. Go enjoy your cognitive perfectness. Guy that never mistaken anything. Lmao. You are being absolutely nonsensical.

Yes, is crazy, it seems we all in one way or another always trying to seek that lack of love is being felt inside, clouded by our mental strategies and thoughts. What is the core? I suspect is just memory, karma, it might not be even childhood stuff, it might be even karma from past generations. So not sure if is possible to heal it completely, maybe we just have to transcend it. Sadhguru have recently talked about it and said to completely clean that karmic memory takes incredible hardcore sadhana and most people won't be able to do that. And that trascending it or "making a distance" from it might be more doable for most people.

Don't worry, since you are not a girl, I'll just punch you in the face if you would laugh so hard and call me an austist In sure you wouldn't find it so fucking funny that way

@Leo Gura yeah, I think that's a good point. But I must say, this sucks, I thought when going on a date with a woman the point was connecting and having a good time. Not trying to have a strong frame and overpower her/lead her with your frame over hers. Aren't they women out there that you can just relax with and they just won't fuck with you? @Scholar ?¿ How is that a strange question ask? Literally I thought the brand of the shop was the same as the purse. Is literally as if I saw the Chanel Shop and their purse was a Chanel one. How the hell that is a "strange question"? Hello? @scholar0 @Scholar

When I have a date, my intention is not to go like I'm going to war. I feel nonsensical to play this games just because some people haven't healed some obscure aspects of themselves. Yes, this starts to feel like twitter in the era before Musk. Yeah I think I get the point. Unless I find an Unicorn women, dating is like a jungle. Constantly in fight or flight mode in order to defend myself and counterattack those "teasings". Like for me is just ridiculous. If you go on a date with me why the fuck you going in "teasing mode"? The whole point of dating someone is to have ONE PLACE, one place in life where you can relax and connect and trust. Not to be again in that jungle push-pull mode. Is fucking pathetic that women play this game and I can't wait to fuck some more women and get sick of it and never come back to this dick shitty game of superior-inferior games. I fucking hate humanity and so pathetic and unable to love is.

@Osaid If you were consciousness incarnated in an ant body, I wouldn't say anything. But being consciousness incarnated in a human body, then if you just think all there is to it is realizing X and calling it a day, well, I'm not saying that is bad, I'm saying is a waste of possibilities.

That's my point. Have you guys actually contemplated that's there might more to it than just realizing something and going back to watch TV as nothing happened ?

I guess we have different motivations then. In the past I was all about truth but then I realise nah I must be honest with myself, arising to a conclusion that feels like truth is nice but at the end of the day what seems that God or Reality cares is about feeling good within itself. Just look around, everyone is running around chasing a high, a freedom, an intense experience, entertainment, etc ... It seems for me that the point of Reality is experiencing itself as complete and and satisfactory as possible. Which it makes sense since people try to seek states of actual unity and completeness (careers goals, family, sex, success). I don't find that many people stopping at a conclusion or "truth" and being satisfied with it. I suspect that is because a conclusion is never the truth. Saying "Reality is a mind" sometimes doesn't mean you are actually experiencing a unitary mind. I get the sense division and separation is what is being experienced, no matter how much people want to tell themselves is all one. But I could be wrong. Speaking from personal experience. I've had it. But then what? I don't find myself screaming that all the time. Time passes and it seems reality being mind or not the ego is driven by the same attachments. (Speaking from direct experience, maybe for some of you guys realising that has actually made a difference?¿)

The question is does saying Reality is a dream changes anything? Because it hasn't changed much ime. That's a good one @Leo Gura