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Does anyone else know better growth strategies or important things/concepts that I'm missing?

I'd like to pay for leo's life purpose course. I haven't yet done so because I think I cannot benefit much from it at this stage. For now, I can benefit a lot from personal development. I'm running low on money. There are many things I'd like to pay for, but haven't done so because I cannot benefit much from them at this point.

I don't choose between the two. In my direct experiences, when I work on personal development, I become better at skill development fast. Personal development is a foundation for mastery, deliberate practice, and career planning which are in turn foundations for skill development. Without foundations, you cannot build high.

I think deliberate practice is also important. Just practicing a lot can lead to plateaus beyond some point. I'm going to learn about deliberate practice from Scott Young and Cal Newport. In Cal Newport's book named So Good They Can't Ignore You, he explains how deliberate practice is done. Scott Young and Cal Newport recently released https://www.top-performer-course.com The gist is Figure out what's important in your career Practice the important stuff. Stretch your comfort zone as often as possible. Leaving comfort zone often is uncomfortable, but it's worth the efforts. Seek and embrace honest feedback. Feedback is not the same as negative criticism. Be patient.

Success in any field requires personal development. If you want to succeed big, you need to grow big.

I see a few possibilities. She is a trojan horse. She wants to test a relationship with a guy. Perhaps, you are too ugly to believe that a girl actually starts liking you right after you meet her? She is also into pick-up. She is a traditional girl or was never in a relationship with a guy before. Her parents have maintained a good relationship, so she thinks marriage is a good deal. ... You don't want to have sex with her? Either, she is not hot enough, or she looks dangerous.

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You cannot stop yourself from criticizing yourself and others. How can you hope to stop others from criticizing you or people you identify with? It's not going to happen. Criticizing others for criticizing you is not going to magically help them develop self-control. There is no magic pill for this. Criticism is an unstoppable cyclone. You're still going to criticize others for the next few decades or until you die. Just realize how it's difficult for others to do the same even if they want to stop criticizing others. If they want to keep criticizing others, nothing but death can stop them. Realistically, the only way out is to stop exposing yourself to criticisms and stop caring about criticisms. Here are some videos to help you escape criticism.

Not exposing yourself to something is not the same as avoiding it. Not exposing yourself to negative criticism means you don't seek negative criticism. Seeking negative criticism can be a form of distraction.

I was talking about negative criticism which is not the same as constructive criticism or feedback. Exposing yourself to negative criticisms drags you down.

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It is said that a few luxurious cruise ships pollute the world more than every car in the world. The cruise industry and its customers are not conscious enough of how cruise ships cause cancer and various diseases in people who live near harbors that accommodate these massive cruise ships. While the customers are playing on cruise ships, citizens of nearby harbors suffer cancer.

@Aeris Asia. I look for mastermind group members and mentors rather than co-workers. Your core competency doesn't seem to overlap with my career.

I read and heard about benefits of a mastermind group. Now, I'm trying to create one. I'm just a very beginner in my field. People of intermediate, advanced, and expert levels don't want to form a group with only me. I've tried to pick specific persons, but picking specific persons does not work well for now because I cannot help them as a beginner. Now, I'm thinking of announcing a scheduled voice group meeting on an internet community. It seems announcing it is far more efficient than picking specific persons for now. How would you go about creating a mastermind group that organizes bi-weekly or monthly voice group meetings on a chatting service(discord, slack, ...)?

Were you a sex monkey that cannot stop masturbating till death?

You can still tell others to stop judging you or women. But, it's not going to help much. Personal development takes long. Telling people to just grow up doesn't make them grow up. That's like telling people to cure cancer. Imagine that you were a cancer patient and I told you to just cure cancer. There are ways to cure cancer. Be patient.

I've had large teams of radical feminists in my country call me a tiny dick on the internet for years. It's still going on. We, the men in my country, eventually got used to being called tiny dicks. We know their judgments are obviously baseless. According to them, we are short, are ugly, and have tiny dicks. They also emphasized that white guys and black guys are far more handsome and have substantially larger dicks. If I shift my attention to female-dominated communities, I can read about judgments about men. Some are valid, but most are just their survival/reproductive instincts disguised as common sense and morality. From them, I've learned to let go of most judgments. I wouldn't expose myself to such criticisms on purpose because their low consciousness antics drag me down, but the lesson is that judgments are inevitable. Don't let them drag you down. Until people do serious personal development for years, they are going to keep judging others.

You can certainly make judgments out of nothing. I've seen shits flinging around from both sides. If you had to wait for the approval of the opposite sex or your own sex, you would never be able to do anything. Don't wait for approval. Don't take judgments seriously because they are relative to one's survival and ultimately groundless.

I can imagine a double D chest. But, different bra companies use different sizes. Bra companies in different countries use totally different sizes. I also don't know what negative 3 looks like. Anyway, I am not specifically into girls who have smaller skeletal structures if that's what you mean by negative 3. It's something that you can't know by playing a number game without picture references.

I don't know what that looks like.

Define thick and curvy. Different men have very different criteria for thick and curvy. I love both thick and thin as long as they have curvatures.