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Maybe. I think the OP meant regular porn. The porn you're referring to might not be consumed by the majority statistically speaking. I didn't vote for that.

I voted a net positive. Does it reduce the rate of rapes? Who knows. Great points by that neuroscientist.

I'm a bit confused about the current state of affairs tbh. I want to collect all of my physiological and psychological stuff together. Currently I do a lot of meditation, evening and morning walks in between the hospital visits. It's like life comes with different stamps and you're the creator of your own life. I also want to have some entertainment programmed into my life. I don't want my life to be just a cheap thing. Make better decisions every time. Don't be stuck.

So it's time to go over my life once again. Things are going slow. I'm battling an infection and the doctor prescribed me antibiotics. I'm not that great at raw survival. I have to struggle a lot before I make measurable progress. I'm not going to divulge into a lot of the things. I want to protect my internal state. Start with a fresh new slate. Social media has been ruining my life a bit and I'm thinking about controlling it as much as possible.

This video makes me very sad. Sad days. One person attacking another and having a probability of losing their career. How strange. Cancel culture at its finest. I'm glad the tide is slowly turning. Reality is whipping itself. Some people can see through the bullshit clearly. Victim hood doesn't pay forever. I mean at some point this had to come to a halt. At some point it goes beyond what's manageable. Most unlikable obnoxious self proclaimed victims that feel entitled to damage someone's career.. I think the video illumined a lot of what was going on in my mind about the cancel culture rhetoric. You cannot be British and just not want to be proud. We never wish bad on anyone. Safe trip back. We should never in fact. So he handled it right. I hate how overly sensitive society has become. The security guard of your building works very hard so that you feel safe. Some people just cannot be grateful enough.

Yes. We live in society. The baggage we have to deal with is social survival. If anyone wishes to avoid this, they would have to be living in a remote cave somewhere. That is survival too but I'm not sure what it would look like, probably simplicity. Sophistication of technology and evolution comes from a cohesive society that has norms and a structure designed for competition, progress and survival. Why are we researching ways to cure cancer? We wouldn't be doing that in a cave because we wouldn't need to. Social empathy drives collective progress. Self deception yes. Pure truth no. Living among humans has a price to pay just like living as a chimp among chimps. We are pigs. Yes we are capable of much more than pigs. But at our core being, we cannot escape the pig matrix, aka being an animal that mates and reproduces for continuity aka survival. This is a 100% true. But dealing with shit all your life itself is life. That shit you're soaked in is the truth of the nature of reality. You have the benefit of living with social civilization and the conditioning is the added baggage that goes with it. It's like living in a cage of lions. You might get food to eat in the cage but you also have to fight lions. This implicit baggage applies to almost every aspect of life and living. You can minimize this baggage though as much as you want to, to your degree of convenience, as in living on the fringe. True. You get social survival in exchange. Yes. Politics is survival of the common man. That's why politics is so polarizing, it cannot be neutral. Politics is hard core in fact. There is nothing soft about politics. That's why the elite don't care about it as the outcomes of political situations don't affect them financially. Politics is appealing to the lowest common denominator because their survival hinges on it. I mean you cannot be a pig and not be roiled in shit at the same time. Truth is separated from self deception but truth alone cannot survive on its own.

Social survival also aids physical survival and physical survival aids social survival. I don't understand how anyone can miss this essential link.

Absolutely!

(first off you made really good points) living a completely ethical life is practically impossible due to interconnected global systems. it's nearly impossible to live a life free from complicity in these harmful systems, even for those who strive for ethical consumption. It is fairly understandable that empathy conflicts with truth on a foundational and ethical level or let's say the other way around, that truth conflicts with empathy in lieu of survival. I agree that it's nearly impossible to be completely 'pure' in our consumption, and that many forms of suffering are indeed out of sight, out of mind for most of us. I acknowledge all your points while defending my stance on empathy versus truth. I'm just saying that it's a bit more nuanced than truth is brutal for survival because empathy is woven even into this brutality. You might say that these electronic chips needed child labor but what if these same mobile phones were used in emergency services saving lives calling ambulances. Do you see this as empathy in motion? Truth might be brutal but empathy is not just about feelings. If a life is saved, this is empathy in action and this action is survival too. Do you look at it with this perspective? However, I don't think acknowledging these realities necessarily negates the importance of striving for empathy or for reducing brutality where we can. While brutality might always be a potential in human nature or within global systems, the degree to which it's expressed and tolerated is precisely what we have some agency over. My point about brutality being 'phased out or replaced' wasn't to say it disappears entirely, but rather that societies can and do evolve to diminish its overt forms and establish norms that condemn it. The fact that we even discuss and deplore child labor or environmental destruction, for example, is a testament to an evolving empathy, even if the systems haven't caught up. Do you consider this? Just trying to add a bit of mine to your perspective as well. I basically agree with you wholeheartedly but adding a bit of nuance where empathy is concerned. Perhaps the 'truth' you speak of and the 'empathy' I talk about here aren't mutually exclusive. Empathy can be a powerful motivator for seeking out those uncomfortable truths and then working to change the systems that perpetuate them. It's about finding a balance between acknowledging the harsh realities and not becoming paralyzed by them, instead channeling that awareness into action, however small. The alternative—accepting brutality as an unchangeable constant—feels like a more dangerous reductionism to me. So how about enmeshing both. To some degree both go hand in hand. With survival surplus as you said, we begin to think of empathy more and more at the top of the chain. What I'm suggesting is that empathy isn't just about feeling good, but about driving change. Positive change like technology that helps disabled people operate better? The fact that we can even have this conversation, that there are movements dedicated to ethical sourcing, environmental protection, or human rights, suggests a collective moral evolution, however slow and imperfect. This evolution, I believe, is fundamentally driven by empathy, by our ability to recognize and respond to the suffering of others, even if they are distant. My argument wasn't that brutality vanishes, but that our societal response to it can change. The 'dormant' brutality you mention is precisely what empathy seeks to expose and, ideally, diminish. The "truth" you're highlighting, while painful, can also serve as a catalyst for greater empathy and, consequently, more informed action. If we accept the 'cost of truth' as simply being harsh without any call to action, then what's the point of uncovering it? For me, the discomfort that truth brings should fuel our desire to mitigate harm, not lead to resignation. That's what I meant. Of course I don't condemn brutality, in a more moralistic frame, yes, but fundamentally our survival is connected with brutality but love and empathy are core components of driving change to accommodate max survival I'd what I meant.

Good points. But there's always a but. You can't survive without empathy. This is also a truth. I understand that the core mechanism is brutal. That's how nature designs it. This is a very reductionist evolutionary pattern of thinking, the cavemen, hunter-gatherer nomad reductionist type. Stage red survival is very typical but it evens out as more empathy begins to seep in, as in collective consciousness, yes it takes time but it has to start somewhere, it's very threatening to the survival impulse because the brain is programmed that way through eons of evolutionary patterns of survival and is deeply rooted in conflict. But. Where's the but here. Truth exists on multiple levels of reality, as you said. You can have the truth of collective cohesive survival or you can have the truth of individual survival. Collective survival truths will clash against individual survival. So it's not the matter of truth, it's about how relative that truth really is. Your explanation is birthed somewhat from Maslow's Heirarchy of needs. It slowly gets replaced by higher consciousness broad spectrum.

Wasn't truth less about survival and more about leading to God or am I missing something?

I have to look into productivity apps.

Haha😂 omg. Dude you click.

I think I will need to jump on the bandwagon of elitist mindset, that in some way I'm someone special to neutralize the feelings of being made to feel like an outcast, it's just hard to deal with everyday, it's like I have to become more biased myself in order to deal and cope with biases floating around me. I was a victim of biases after all. It matters who is victimized. It matters who is being oppressed. I'll later feed this into chatgpt.

This is the exact problem with academic institutions. Just more theory but not coordinated or integrated with real life experience, nothing to consider as a base. Logically speaking, all kinds of permutations and combinations are possible. Clarity wise this only enhances your analytical skills but doesn't help with outcome based contemplation. True. This is probably the most successful formula for sharpening intuition. You keep building it over and over, being more objective than subjective. Your pattern recognition ability just keeps improving. Abstract models help temporarily especially when a new piece of information arrives in the fold. But as you continuously perceive and process information your reptilian brain will automatically focus more on pattern recognition, this is also a survival mechanism. Yes the reptilian brain operates this way and that's why people who are disconnected from mainstream academics seem to thrive better on intuition and common sense. We live in a relative world. Abstract theories apply better to abstract models of living or something less relative and neutral. Integration only comes from direct observation, and perception. I would consider it to be more realistic than spiritual. Spiritual understanding leads to integration of meta thinking and both subjective and objective experiences which is hard to do because the human brain always looks for context.

Yea I mean it also reduces distractions. Keeps you more grounded and focused on what you really desire and want. Better connection to your inner self and consequently your higher self. Not to mention less dopamine.

So this was one of the life problems I had been facing. And I can't say I was able to handle it fully or successfully. But I have achieved some bandwidth in this direction. I notice that I make very slow progress. It's dampening. But knowing that you are healing everyday is better.

This ^... Yellow is most triggered by group-think than anything else. Just knowing that most biases actually stem directly from group-think. So yellow is more triggered by the root rather than the outcome.

12th. "how to respond to so and so" different people" Yea you have to respond to different people differently. That's just how things work. Do not react. Do not jump. Control that impulse. Just respond calmly and sharply.

11th. will be "don't move or rattle your peaceful energy, keep it strong and focused, don't let it be disrupted by outside forces".. Once you're peaceful, stay that way. Don't move it. Things will try to rattle it. With negativity of course. But you have to instantly cling on to it, hold on it and not let it be disrupted by anyone with their volatile hostile energy. You can detect that monstrous unpeaceful energy right away.

10th. seek peace in your energy in whatever manner possible. This is important. Seek peace within yourself. This is not about resolving inner conflict. But it's about seeking peace within yourself. If you're peaceful yourself, you will see a flow, a balance in your life. A general feeling of goodness. Just be an embodiment of peace yourself. Seek your higher self. How to do this? Clean your own energy. Meditate. Relax. Relax yourself. Monitor your own state of mind. Listen to calm music. How do you feel inside? Grow that energy in you as you would grow a plant within you. How can you be peaceful yourself? Give yourself that boost. Empower. Remain calm. Remain savvy. The moment you wake up in the morning. It should be a routine to always be peace seeking. Truth only comes after peace. Be a peace seeking peace loving person. If you feel angry or aggressive, just relax and forget it and let go. Let peace be your identity. You have to seek that peaceful energy yourself. See how it affects your time everyday. It will make a huge difference.

9th Decode body language early on. This is an important exercise. It's important to understand what's coming to you. Don't miss red flags at all. Even the slightest should not be ignored.

8th is "mostly keep to yourself." Mostly keep to yourself. Just do not indulge in people that do not share the same interests. You will seek more peace that way by simply disconnecting with something that you do not find yourself blending with.

7th is find alternative means of communication. Alternative means of communication can be books, TV, animals, YouTube, your school friends that you trust, family members, soft toys, writing, journaling, reading newspapers, sitting in a cafe watching people, being in nature, keeping yourself busy, cutting out toxic people from your close circle. Also talking to your therapist helps. Doctors etc..

6th. "feel deeply appreciated yourself first and foremost" how does that feel? Just knowing that you are actually appreciated. A new beginning eh? These are self esteem uplifting patterns. Engage in something every morning that makes you feel upbeat, appreciated, uplift yourself on the regular. Positive affirmations. Whatever that works. Six pillars of self esteem. Read that. Do you appreciate yourself enough? Do you desire to feel appreciated? Would you be bored of it at some point? Maybe it's a validation seeking pattern or process. But it's still good in the meantime, not long term as it can turn into an addiction. But short term self esteem boosts are a requirement for those who struggle with self esteem really badly.