Onecirrus

My life has been very hard. Honestly, I just wish I had more pairs of hands to help me with stuff, and maybe offer financial support. If I was enlightened, I would still like to have people to help me get my car out of the snow, I had to do that on my own.

@Candle You seem like a good person, but if you are everyone’s friend, you are really no one’s friend. A friend is someone you put above all others.

Survival. The more people who care about you, the easier your survival is.

I remember Leo shared on his blog an autistic teenager who is currently teaching quantum physics in university. This is proof nature is more than capable of creating a human brain and mind that is orders of magnitude better at understanding and learning, even before finishing puberty. We have seen similarly gifted individuals when it comes to spirituality and self actualization, Peter Ralston for example. But my question is why does nature seemingly limit our spiritual and psychological capacities? Why is Ralston and this teenager the exception and not the rule? And why doesn’t society acknowledge this as even being a problem? America spends more money on alcohol than genetic research every year, this alone highlights our idiocy.

I’m curious why humans are attracted to/repelled by each other. What sort of people do you like/hate? What values or behaviors attract or repel you? I don’t like people that remind me of my father. He’s always been a hardass and is prone to anger and yelling. He also does not possess any form of intellectual or philosophical curiosity. I generally like African Americans, they seem far more friendly, authentic, and Charismatic than other races, but maybe that’s because I am one as well.

I don’t understand how people give thousands of dollars to strangers on the internet they have never met. I saw one video where a woman gave like 100k away to a Nigerian scammer but claims she’s never given her own husband a dime. What is the psychology behind this?

@Leo Gura My unconsciousness feels like an omnipresent miasma, it’s heavy and all consuming, sustained by the functions of my own mind, which I hopelessly try to understand and change. There have been periods when it’s lifted, but survival as a human always drags me back into it. Maya’s palace is my own self, and it feels so much stronger than me.

@Juns The question was inspired by what feels like a glass ceiling I’ve run into in my development. It’s liked I’ve maxed out my maturity and consciousness, attempting to get more has lead to great frustration.

I’m curious what percent of men are actually “winning” in this dating game. All of my married friends are miserable and tell me it was the biggest mistake of their lives and they feel like they can’t get out, my other friends spend all their time playing Magic: the gathering and vidya and seem to have completely given up on dating entirely, and I have one friend who fucks lots of girls and commits to none of them. Out of like 8 men I know, the last one is the only remotely successful one. We’re all under 30 btw. What percent of men do you think is actually getting the results they want in this dating market?

@Princess Arabia Do you really think most men are romantically satisfied? What about all the incel manosphere shit? What about the divorce rate? What about 66% of men under 30 being single? What about the rising rates of virginity? I don’t think it’s just my relative perspective. Me and people around me aren’t racist, but most of the world is still virulently racist.

@Princess Arabia You said single men were rare, I was just saying otherwise.

@Emerald I think you are like the third person to make this personally about me, but I’ll answer your question. I want someone who is emotional invested in my survival and well-being. Do I believe I can get that? Not really. I am curious about the macro dynamics of dating though, since none of my friends excluding one is happy with their results in romance. If this was an economic discussion, no one would be trying to pry into my psyche, it’s kinda annoying.

@Princess Arabia In the original post, I specified what percent of men get the results they want from dating. Generally, men either want sexual abundance or a fulfilling relationship. Possessing either of these seems very rare for men. As for rarely meeting a single man, something like 66% of men under 30 are single.

@Princess Arabia I think if you polled American men, most would say they are unhappy with their results, even the married men.

@RendHeaven We’ll never have an accurate estimation, but certainly most are miserably unfulfilled. I find it puzzling why this isn’t discussed and any attempt to discuss it is dismissed as incel ideology or something.

@Princess Arabia The most promiscuous men seem to also be the least responsible and mature so makes sense

@Princess Arabia Okay, so it’s a hygiene thing, I understand. I thought it was some kind of reverse slut shaming

@Princess Arabia I consider him a success because he gets the results he actually wants, can’t say the same for those other men I know. I also don’t understand how promiscuous men disgust you but a working girl doesn’t, why the double standard?

@NoSelfSelf Not positive results, cheated on, etc. But even my married friends have talked to me about this.

@NoSelfSelf This place is worse than Reddit sometimes

@gettoefl I’m curious about the entire population, my personal dating successes are unremarkable and unrelated.

I think one of the most profound discoveries of my life is that human interaction does not really produce happiness. It can be a nice experience, but it’s ultimately an impermanent fleeting experience, and it doesn’t really fundamentally make me feel any better than if I didn’t have it. In fact, just being alone in my own awareness is far more satisfying than having to play human. All human conversation is also usually about past, future, problems, and pop culture, it really drags me into concepts, thinking, meaning making, and judgment, which all really produces quite a bit of unhappiness and obscure being. Playing human just ultimately feels like a chore, I was just wondering if anyone else could relate?

@Leo Gura I remember your Life Style minimalism episode and Things you don’t know you want episode. Holy shit, it’s hard to believe I wanted a material life once. No life actual feels like pure life.

And why do these posts get attention but not mine?

I’ve never had sex, why should it feel different from never going on a rollercoaster or something?