B_Naz

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  1. What he says is mostly true about masculinity I guess, but it seems like a debate rather than truth. It's one bullshit/illusion against another bullshit/illusion. SJW vs Men I feel like this guy is making an identity of masculinity and trying to protect his "masculinity". In my opinion masculinity is an energy that can be tapped in by both male and females, and calling it "toxic" is an judgment. But sure it's obviously toxic if you side only with masculinity in the same way as siding with femininity. A total balance is needed
  2. There's balance in this work. You have to work on enlightenment and your life purpose. So you study to get a good job/success and you also meditate to clear your head. If you want to play video games, go for it but balance is what keeps you from going insane. Do the studying you have to do, plan it and then do your consciousness work. Plan your entire day based on study and consciousness work. After you've done your schedule for these things, go back to playing video games, and to be honest, you won't bother playing it because of the gains you get if you just learn how to balance
  3. Perhaps try to recreate your visualizations? For example, if you want a big massive house, why don't you go to a rich area and see the mansions? Want to travel? Perhaps actually traveling to a place for a weekend, like Portugal, and see the little details in reality That can spark something right?
  4. @tedens I haven't been fair to be honest... Yes it would help people by a lot, and can even solve common problems in our society now that I think about it but it seems that it's would be applying to only one set of norms/values set by the organisation, when personal-development and consciousness should be free and expressive. An organisation to spread awareness of the consciousness would be great I guess, but I would draw the line when it tells strictly you HOW to do it
  5. I don't like the idea of the existence of an organ because that would just be a framework we impose onto something we can't understand because it's external to our thinking and yet is part of us
  6. Acknowledge all of those feelings, and soak it all up. Eventually, it will burn out; through awareness.
  7. What activities do you do to distract yourself?
  8. When people look at who they really are and accept that, then they naturally change. It's not a forced change Most people believe that they are this person/identity, but who told them or encouraged them to be this? Most likely their parents and society -> not created by themselves. People merely believed in this identity that they made by following the influence of the outside to create this authentic nature which validates the identity. The problem with this is that there isn't any investigation or questioning on the self. Also change is kinda bullshit. "Oh I'm going to change my life", well your life is already changed. Every minute you're changing, it's a dynamic mechanic. Authentic self is the self that is reading this now
  9. @JohnnyBravo You've understood my problem exactly lol This is pretty much me right now I've tried even going back to old stuff, like this vision description I made a while ago. I knew that there was nothing to achieve, and I did this work for the sake of it but I think the disappointment got to me when there was really nothing to achieve here but to better myself One step back, two step forwards in my view now My desire is starting to slowly come up, so it's why I said this is probably a phase. I'm still pretty down but I'm being mindful of what I'm feeling The main insight I got is that I'm just in a phase, and I need to burn/purge the negative stuff
  10. I was going through my old vision and goals and realized that it has changed drastically Some changes include Not wanting to meditate for long hours Not anting to be social Be heavily focused on technology, previously I wanted to detach from technology Play more games Career passion changed from making programs for people to making programs for the sake of it Not really wanting to self-actualized anymore - since I want to focus on career/entertainment I think I might just gone a step back in my life. Think I'm being more addicted to games and focused a lot on my studies and my career goals. But I think the reason I'm not self-actualizied is because I'm not exactly sad in my life at the moment, everything seems to be going fine but I'm just no longer interested in bettering myself. However this is where the dilemia for me occurs because as I did self-actualizing work, I did it for the sake of it, not to benefit anything but now, I feel like I've gained a lot of knowledge and understanding of my life. I feel detached from myself, and just want to go with the flow of life or am I just being lazy?
  11. @Deepconcepts Thank you for your kind words; this is one phase in my life where I don't feel grounded. I will recover and carry on
  12. @Deepconcepts The Truth is always within us of course, but I don't want to search for it. I don't want to ask the existential questions because ultimately, I don't care anymore. I've asked them before, and certain insights comes out of it but so what?
  13. Big fan of note taking, and I've always took notes with pen and paper, but recently I've been taking notes on keyboard since its faster and neater However, I've read some research that notetaking with pen and paper helps memorisation and engages you more than keyboard since keyboard seems to only be output rather than input What do you guys think?
  14. Because I feel like I need to keep all my notes in one place instead of having mixed paper and digital. There are just so many studies that suggest that writing on paper engages you more than typing, so I just wanted everybody's opinions https://www.communicaid.com/communication-skills/blog/writing-skillsbusiness-writing-skills/taking-notes-better-using-laptop-tablet/ here's a link to the laptop v paper argument, and there are thousands of these debates. It seems that writing is far better than typing However, I just feel better typing, and I hate writing soooo, probably going to take your advice and just do it for convenience i guess Will do The technical writing or planning is way neater on digital than paper, and you can transfer files easily on your other devices, but I haven't really dived into the emotional writing or journals so I can't relate to this sadly ;(
  15. This makes a lot sense. Either typing or writing, you still have to review the notes regardless of how you recorded them, so I think I will stick to keyboard since it make my notes neater, which can help with recall. I've had a look at the youtube video and wow, very interesting way to actually test yourself. Bookmarked it You should share some of your drawings, sounds very cool. It reminds me of Mooji's drawings as well Tell me about it... Typing just feels so natural to me and I can quickly take notes and think about them whilst in classes and listening to somebody (Leo's videos :D) Overall though, this boosted my confidence in typing. I've had my doubts with typing but it doesn't matter how you record info, it's the recalling. Thanks a lot <3
  16. How do you know that they're not scamming you? This is what you have to do. Evaluate Leo for yourself.
  17. @CreamCat I'll give this a go, and I can see myself taking notes on everything, so... I'll put more awareness onto that
  18. I've noticed that whenever I work, I take a huge amounts of notes. Now I know that note taking is a good thing, but I'm starting to feel scared that if I don't take notes on anything, I will forget and never learn it This is mainly a problem when it comes to personal development. I can't read a book, listen to a podcast, or watch a video without taking notes I can see it as a good habit but it drains a lot of energy out from me... Any suggestions? Should I carry on?
  19. @kieranperez I do feel like it's becoming more of an addiction. I wouldn't say I have a problem of not being able to stop conceptualising . I don't feel like I need to know absolutely everything as well but in some cases this does happen to me and I can't stop taking in all the details. But this isn't a huge problem with me because it's kinda rare now I realised that I have anxiety of forgetting and wasting time. If I learn something, I want it to stick with me and not be lost, and hence for my note-taking exaggeration. However it comes to a point where it's starting to demotivate me. Is it a problem of de-motivation? The main reason for the de-motivation itself is because it's tedious to take notes
  20. @kieranperez It isn't really practical. I can give some examples If I wanted to read a book in public, like on a train, I would have to take a pen and paper If I wanted to listen to one of Leo's MP4 audios, I would again feel like I need to take notes Whatever I listen to or try to take in MUST be written on something, otherwise I won't feel right and won't go in my head.. There could be so many things in my day where I'm not doing anything particular but if I fill that up something to read or learn, it drains my energy BECAUSE of the note taking? If that makes sense? I would happily watch Leo's videos but I feel like I can't watch them because I would have to take notes and that demotivates me But I guess that's how it goes... It's hard work to try and conceptualise everything
  21. I'm actually doing this. I took a step back with the non-dual and spiritual studying as well as the meditation/consciousness section on the forums... I've tried to forget all of that because I felt like it wasn't doing anything but making my brain fry with no actual development. I felt stuck and not moving forward. I started going back to the core self-actualized concepts/values. Started from understanding emotions and moved on like a bucket list, and I've stopped meditation (for the time being). I'm only doing one thing at a time, currently practicing mindfulness hardcore. Been doing this for like, 3-4 months and has helped me a ton. I don't give a fuck about anything anymore
  22. Judgment will cause suffering since it will always backfire. Let's say you judge somebody with really ugly hair on the bus, but the next week you noticed that your hair is just as ugly. What essentially happens is that you either judge your hair normally or judge your hair BASED on the person who had the ugly hair last week. Both cases cause suffering and in this case, it was the second option for me. This happened whilst I was going to the gym But the thing is, judgment is judgment wherever or whenever you do it. Doesn't matter if you judge something that is "good" or "bad", the judgment itself has no value. Judgment can be seen as attaching a meaning to something when originally that something had no meaning and it was created ONLY by you. So when you judge something that is bad, you are the only one assigning that value and vice versa. It does get tricky when you judge something that is seemed to be "good" because you may not realise it as a judgment . Let say you saw really nice pair of trainers and they were so good that you bought them. Then next week, you find another pair and judged them also as really nice, but you already bought a new pair and so... You no longer like the pair you have. This may not come to you straight away but you judged the pairs of trainers! These are really naive examples but the principle is the same It's sorta like Karma, there is always a balance Eliminating it can be done by mindfulness practice. Just always observe what you're doing and try to spot out when you're making a judgment on something. Don't try to stop it thought, realise first that you're judging, then question WHY you're judging? Are you actually in control who judges? Takes years though to get rid of it
  23. Remind yourself that you are reacting to the words that have no meaning