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I'm not sure whether I'm just retarded, or too shy or friendish when it comes to dating women, but warm approach is an absolute fraud. Firstly, when friends choose certain women to go socializing with, they usually choose attractive, taken women, or women who are either neurotic or unattractive enough, that they would be willing to hang out eith my retarded friends anyway, but are not attractive enough to date. Secondly, even if you do manage to find a friend of a friend who is quite delicious looking, and has a cute, cuddly personality, friends make it awkward as hell to approach her, because they expect you to just be friends with this person. Thirdly, you just dont find enough women to socialize with, if you choose to rely on your friends. You probably would meet around 3 or 4 women every 2 years who are date worthy material? Now if you choose cold approach, not only do the amount of women you could probably date increases by 100 fold, you also increase your social circle by 100 fold too. Its like a chain reaction, date worthy girls who friend zone you, generate new interactions with their hot friends, who you can also ask out! How awesome! Plus you dont even have to pay to get into a club, or a movie ticket, like what you have to do in social events, all you have to do is awkwardly walk up to someone, and nervously start talking to them. I personally suck at cold approach, but it is such a superior way of meeting new women to date (and increasing your social circle) compared to warm approach. Unless you have 200 friends, and somehow maintain a decent friendship with all of them, warm approach just doesnt cut it. Any of you agree? Warm approach gets me absolutely no where. To be completely honest, 80% of the reason why i go to social events is to meet new women, and im left completely disappointed everytime, feeling like i would have been better off approaching the cute girl at the mall and screwing the time taken to go to the social event in the first place. Unless the friends you have are girls, or pickup people, or gay guys, there's no point in going to 80% of the social events you're invited to. Its just a waste. Ive spent the last 2 years going to parties every 3rd weekend, and social events every other weekend, in hope to increase my dating opportunities, and its done absolutely 0. No exaggerations. Do you guys agree, or is there a secret to warm approach that I dont know?

Hi Being so called 'enlightened' and being egoic are not mutually exclusive. In fact being egoic and being enlightened is perfectly normal. Realizing the ego is a fabrication doesn't magically stop egoic processes. You could realize that you don't exist, and still get angry or irritated with someone for saying something silly or stupid. The only difference is that you realize those egoic processes of getting angry aren't coming from you, but out of no where. There are people who have visited this forum(most have left, which I understand) who are highly insightful and amazing individuals, yet act like complete assholes, and get mistakenly interpreted by the less experienced on here as 'lower consciousness' or egoic. Don't be so robotics in your analysis of seemingly assholes. All of my growth, ALL hasn't come from the nice guys who have high reputation, and similar writing styles to Leo's overly conceptual, abstract, idealistic theme, but to privately messaging those wrongly labelled individuals about myself and my problems, and man I wouldnt be the same without those harsh but required insights. Imagine if this forum thought more critically about what is said, rather than robotically dismissing anyone who doesn't represent Leo's holy grail of what a 'high consciousness' would look like, whatever the fuck 'high consciousness' means. This forum is great, but when nearly all of the accounts that have had the most impact of my life have either left, because they have noticed growth on here isn't the main focus of the forum, or have gotten banned, something isn't right, and it has to be brought up.

How do you deal with people who are: - more witty than you/are quicker on their feet to insult you. - who insult you in passive aggressive ways i.e. that effectively lower your reputation or self worth, but at the same time the behavior is not resisted by peers because it's funny or seems harmless due to the very subtle or indirect nature of the insult. For example, say you're a vegan, and the user makes a joke like "a vegan restaurant is another word for a grass field". This is targeted at you due to you being the only vegan, the individual not being a friend of yours, and everyone else are meat eaters, or sly comments that aren't noticed as insults by peers consciously, but unconsciously negates their reputation of you. - Who when you raise the issue that the insults are not appropriate, respond by saying its a joke, or that you are too sensitive. Basically every response is countered by another subtle insult or rebuke that is too indirect for peers to notice it's an insult. - Or destructively criticizes you on a very regular basis. For example, your work is too sloppy, you suck at sports, we can't have you on the team you're a liability for the whole class, not just our team, you lie all the time, etc. - Who is too witty to try and overcome the situation by insulting them back. I'm not against jokes and banter, but when the individual does it on a regular basis, and does it deliberately to lower your self worth or reputation, it becomes an inhibitor for the victim facing it.

@Ragib Ashraf what about other people's perception of you being damaged? For example, if you talk crap about a company, the company takes that seriously as it has deep potential to stop customers from going to them. The term legally is called libel laws or defamation. In a personal context it's called slander. From my perspective, insulting someone's self concept has the same negative consequences as ruining a company's reputation: you may be less likely to be promoted, you may be treated or discriminated against in the workplace, due to this lower reputation that one individual is giving you.

And its a good thing that people are skeptical of you. It would be terrible if we all just believed you as gospel, because then you wouldn't be raising high consciousness people in the first place.

You're assertion here is circular. You're saying the absolute truth is everything is relative, yet that assertion is a solid proposition. To put it concretely, how can you know that everything is relative if reality cannot know itself. Reality is Unknown with a capital U. That doesn't necessarily mean everything is relative. That's just the green stage going crazy. Do you have any direct proof that it is relative? Plus you keep saying reality is a hallucination. But normal hallucinations are not permanent. Yet idealistic reality cannot be escaped. Being will keep being no matter what. That's not a hallucination. It cannot be unreal if it cannot be escaped. Being stuck in a virtual reality game for eternity would mean that the virtual reality pixels are real. They would have to be.

There could be. You cannot know for certain that what you experience is true. It might feel like there's nothing beyond awareness, but that doesn't prove there isn't.

im aware that pacman is a hallucination, but that doesnt mean people go " oh pacman is a hallucination! im going to run into the ghosts because it doesnt matter"

Hey guys, I have a really silly issue. Conscious work ungrounds me to a certain extent, after contemplating for a while, and my brain uses this to its advantage to just plainly piss me off. One way is it says "wow you truly don't know whether or not the laws of physics are real, like theres a high chance but you have no idea. That's a fact. That means it's perfectly possible for an alien to pop out of no where and kill you. That's perfectly possible" This scares the shit out of me, particularly when I'm home alone trying to go to bed. This issue is ridiculous but any advice? Thanks

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What philosophies have you found to be the most practical for increasing your awareness? Examples of practical philosophies: - advaita vedanta (my favorite) - Zen buddhism - Taoism Examples of impractical philosophies: - Christianity, Islam, Judaism - stoicism (it's practical for having a good life, but not for increasing your critical thinking skills) Also add any egoic pitfalls that you fell into while embodying the philosophy, if any. And if you would like, highlight any particular reason why you think its a good philosophy(like for example, Taoism has the golden flower meditation technique which is amazing). I made this question because there are millions of philosophies out there, and it would be more efficient to use the knowledge of more experienced guys on here to narrow that search down, rather than spend an entire lifetime seriously trialing each one out. Please no debates on this thread, just add a philosophy that you think practically helped you.

Personal development -> Tony Robbins, Brendon Burchard, Maslow's hierarchy of needs, etc. That's what personal development is all about, developing the biggest, grandest ego on the planet.

@AleksM Now you know how spiritual schools are invented, by a desire to show everyone how they got enlightened, and making the completely arbitrary assumption that everyone is like you, and will get enlightened by this technique just like you.

buy a test kit btw, just so you know, this thread will be locked soon...

There wouldn't need to be this set of rules/contract called a relationship if it wasn't egoic Relationships are designed for people who are trying to get something. There is literally no other reason for having one. Have you noticed that cells in our bodies aren't in relationships? Have you noticed that ants and bees aren't in relationships? It's because they arent individualistic.

Hu? Heaps of people go through failed relationships, yet the population definitely isn't enlightened. That's a strange comment ton make.

I would advise you to not believe in ditties and that reality is a dream. You're gonna fuck yourself up big time by mistaking your beliefs for actual reality. Even if you think youve got it all sorted and that you arent deluding yourself. Talking from experience. What if I told you actually that you don't know if deities exist or not? What about reality is all a dream? Is it really? Do you really believe that bs? Like look around you? All of that isn't a dream mate, its real. Stop being silly. Did that above paragraph trigger you? Do you have an urge to set me straight aftet that? If so you may be holding your spiritual beliefs as a belief system rather than actually knowing it.

When you try and answer those questions, you run the risk of doing the World turtle issue. When you say what is a pen? And you come up with for example a bunch of colours formed together, or maybe a bunch of plastics put together, or whatever else, you're not getting to the bottom of truth. You are just replacing your initial beliefs with new ones. If you mean staying skeptical of the existence of a pen, sure, or the beliefs you have of it, fine. But there isn't much further you can go with deconstructing a pen. Like there is no answer to what is a pen? All there is, is a pen and thats it. There's no hidden meaning secretly underneath a vail of self enquiry that revealed this amazing hidden network that the Egyptians used. That's preposterous.

RSD resonator. Fucken good course. Teaches you how to speak properly. This way you can form social circles easily.

@Dan Arnautu Well... if your goal is to have sex, lucid dreams give you that minus the problems relationships give you. Ultimately egoic relationships have the same problem as everything else, where it cannot fulfill you. So it's not like one is more of a mature decision to make. It's just that society has bad connotations around people who aren't in relationships. They are perceived as nerdy antisocial and weird. Take that away and lucid dreams are a perfect substitute for someone looking for sex.

@Dan Arnautu careful! You can become easily addicted to a real relationship! But your effort into enlightenment instead. @Jhonny

Is believing in deities and paranormal activity, which there is very little evidence of, really making your life any better? Is believing reality is a dream really making you more happy? Life can be described by logic very very well. It does seem to follow logic rules. If you drop a pen now, there is a 99% chance it will fall. Its not just some 'illusion'. Its a fact that there is a 99% chance it will fall. How is denying that fact, helping anyone?

you're reading out of context here... the actual quote was “If someone doesn't value evidence, what evidence are you going to provide to prove that they should value it? If someone doesn’t value logic, what logical argument could you provide to show the importance of logic?” Logic isn't his religion. But truth and evidence is. Anyway the point of that quote was actually about dogmatism. How will you make someone not dogmatic, if they aren't even going to consider they are wrong? That's the point harris was making. Well of course not. Human beings want flashy cars, big houses and shiny jewelry. They don't want the truth. That's too honest. @Shanmugam I think its a very good book. Very insightful.

back in high school. In the library I was scrolling through scientific books trying to figure out the connection between our theories and reality, and I stumbled upon a study that showed that 'we', our core self, wasn't localized anywhere in the brain. It was scattered so to speak. This led me to studying epistemology, which led me to one of Leo's videos.