Damir Elezi

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  1. I was contemplating this question a bit today. Why is it that every other life-form seemingly realizes its potential and lives as nature intended it to live, while human beings have all forms of diseases and psychological dysfunctions, making it a life long journey just to become "healthy" and "natural"? What are your opinions on that?
  2. @Charlotte Actually, I don't think your body is craving protein. Protein deficiency is very rare and almost only exists among people who are starving in third world countries or among people with anorexia. The body does not really need a lot of protein and it generally doesn't crave it. If you eat enough and you're not hungry all the time, your body is probably not craving protein. What you can crave however is fat and salt. Meat is usually very high fat and the body literally craves for it, because just like sugar, it is ESSENTIAL to the functioning of the body, and the body needs relatively much of it, yet it is not very present in the food that would be easy to get in nature (like fruit or herbs). Also, meat today is full of spices and other substances which have a slighty addictive effect. If you have eaten this stuff for your whole life, it's natural that you have cravings. Even more if you found it really tasty. My advice to you is to not hate yourself for it and call the mind a "bastard". I know that feeling but actually the mind functions very well in this case. It does what it's designed to do: Provide stability and a sense of coherence. The decision to cut something out that was part of your life for many years is unsettling and scary to the mind, so of course it doesn't accept it at first. I eat mostly vegetarian right now and I didn't go "I'm going to stop eating meat now" and never touched it again. I ate meat a lot of times in between and it took me a while to actually make that decision. What I needed was a kind of shock moment, where I couldn't align eating (or rather: Buying) meat and fish with my personal values. At this moment, being a meat eater was not a part of my self concept any more and I could overcome it pretty easily. Maybe it helps you to find such a point. Otherwise, cook some REALLY TASTY vegetarian dishes, so you don't miss the taste of meat so much. You can do it!
  3. Have you actually found your values? How did you find them? Did you dig deep? To me it seems like the things you mentioned (girlfriend, millions of dollars, great experiences) are pretty much the things everyone is going for. They don't represent your true nature, they are just things that are considered good by society. I also know that these things tend to not be very motivating. What is it that you really want? Deep inside you. Another thing could be that you simply don't see the connection between your goals and your everyday actions. In this case, maybe you could try visualizing your goals more or asking yourself every day how exactly you are going towards these goals with your work/actions. Though, I think that the ideal will never be completely met. The ideal is only there to pull you out of bed. Reaching your goals may improve your life but I don't think they will make it perfect. Be aware of that.
  4. I don't think you will find any Trump lovers on this forum never heard of the other guy though.
  5. As I understand it, we are all inherently selfish creatures by nature. If all these things really "work" for you, I don't see a need to change them fundamentally. But then again, you wouldn't want to change, if you didn't feel some kind of need to do so. So what exactly is it you want? Why do you consider selfishness a bad thing? What would you like to change exactly? At this point in my life, I am striving towards designing a life like yours, but I understand that I probably won't be completely fulfilled by that. Maybe this is the time to take spirituality serious and get into that field? I heard that Leo has made a lot of videos about that stuff lately
  6. @blazed I'd love to agree with you, but at the time I'm still sceptical about this infinite reality notion. Interesting perspective though
  7. @Samra So you see it as a necessity? Like in order to evolve to a higher being, this suffering is necessary for the human being? Very interesting view
  8. @Eden Lol you serious? it is amazing though, you're a good singer. Ever thought about singing the chorus in a rap song?
  9. Leaving the spiritual stuff out, I think you're right. It's optional. However, your choice has to be well made. Is throwing something interesting like your life away just because of momentarily suffering really worth it? What if there is something more to life than it seems? When you're alive, you have an opportunity to find that out. To me, killing oneself seems like a cop-out. Somebody being so scared, so overwhelmed, that they don't even bother to look further. This life can be beautiful and I think we all know that. Also, our whole organism is literally made to protect us from harm. If one's mind is so twisted that it would rather go against human most basic instinct than put up with challenge, I think there is something deeply dysfunctional in his/her mind that should be resolved before making any quick decisions.
  10. Yeah pretty much. Of course not always, but especially when things go well I feel very excited and when I go to sleep I can't wait to start working again. I wouldn't call that addiction, but one problem I have is that I'm still attached to the outcome and get discouraged pretty quickly.
  11. Hmm I think the most practical tip would be to just try stuff out. Try a lot of things and you will notice what you naturally feel drawn to. Also your preferences are a good indicator. What do you like doing/watching/listening to/talking about? Btw I don't really think that everybody is a GENIUS at something. You are better in some things than in others, that doesn't mean you gotta be a unique talent at something. This comes only through working hard at your inborn gifts.
  12. @Jhonny As an introvert myself, I like jobs which leave space for your own initiative. Not just listening to or cooperating with other people but thinking for yourself and making your own decisions. Also it should be flexible and give you alone time to think and reflect. I don't think that there has to be a conflict in any job. You just have to execute the job in a way that incorporates your natural abilities.
  13. Damn you all wake up so early. How do you do that? Woke up at 9, went to university, listened to "the six pillars of self esteem" audiobook in my car. At uni I had one lecture, ate something, checked some e-mails, planned out the next few days and noticed that there is a lot of stuff going on in my life right now. Got scared a little bit but I know I can make it. Somehow. After that went home, again listening to that audio book (great book by the way), studied a little bit at home, then went to take some pictures and interview people for my job at a newspaper. After that grabbed some vietnamese food with my girlfriend. Now I just bought her a birthday present online. I think I'm gonna browse the forum a bit right now, then meditate and go to sleep. What did you do?
  14. Hello you wonderful people out there, I hope you're having a great day. I'm sure there are tons of posts on here already talking about this topic, but I want to adress this again specifically for my case because I am a very selfish motherfucker One thing I noticed lately is that I actually seem very lonely. I must have been lonely for years now, but I didn't quite notice it consciously. I was so involved in my own ambitions, dreams, plans, routines, duties, chores and thoughts in general that I took the general melancholy connected to being alone as proof that "I don't work enough!", felt bad about that and either threw myself into work, or, if I lacked motivation, numbed myself with porn and youtube videos (which is actually pretty much how I found Leo's channel to be honest - I guess good things can come out of that too) I have been home alone for the last 3 days with not a lot to do, didn't really talk to anyone and I felt like shit. Today, after meditating for a longer time than usual and practicing some mindfulness, I could manage to look at that pain objectively without reacting to it (just for some moments) and noticed that I deeply lack other people who I can connect to. I just met some friends I didn't see in a while and it literally feels like a PHYSICAL need has been fulfilled. I never felt like this, always considered myself an introvert. I feel that most of my friendships and relationships to other people are superficial and I don't really connect to people on a deeper level, which is why I am not really motivated to spend a lot of time with them. This is the case firstly because most of my friends don't really share my interests, secondly because I simply don't have that many people in my life. I want to find people who are passionate about stuff that I am passionate about, which is mainly Hip Hop music, Personal Development and Philosophy. Do you have any practical tips for me on how to find people like these? I mean should I actually go on the street and chat people up until there is a "match" or is there a better alternative? What do you think? Thank you all in advance
  15. I don't know if I ever adressed this here on the forum but I noticed something within me, that has been bugging me for a long time now, whenever I start "grinding" more and working hard to create the life I want. When I create a compelling vision and try to make time in my life for taking serious steps in that direction, of course all my other duties and responsibilities in every day life don't disappear. My problem is that everything that is not somehow related to working on myself (like cleaning the house, working for money or talking to my family just to keep them updated) seems like a huge waste of time and I get pretty stressed and angry when I do something like that. Of course I notice that these simple things are part of life as well and they don't have to be distractions, but inside, I feel that they are. Now most of you would probably say "You are living in the future! Be mindful of what you're doing right now! Everything we do is meaningless AND meaningful at the same time! There is no difference, it's all one, just take some psychedelics and you will realize that! There is nothing to do!" Yeah. But Leo also says that a vision and hard work are very important for PD and I resonate with that as I am at a point in my life where I really want to create results. I am 20 years old, just moved out of my momma's house, earning my own money and looking for my path in life and I feel HUNGRY! I am DYING to create something, to do something great with my life and it feels like these small things are holding me back. Did you have the same problem when starting getting serious about PD and how did you come to accept the small tasks of everyday life? I would love to talk to you about your own experiences
  16. Thank you all so much for responding. After contemplating this stuff I got to know some stuff about myself, but I mainly noticed that I might be giving it too much "logical" thought. Maybe a good vision touches you more on a deep emotional level than it actually makes logical sense, which means that I can not sorta "deduce" a vision from my personal preferences (which I tried to do until now, I'm the philosopher type of guy you know). I think I'll just ask myself what my dream life is and write down anything that comes to mind until I have something so beautiful that I am willing to work my ass off for it. Apart from that problem, I am driven like I never really was before in my life. But then again, it feels like I always had this drive, but was kinda scared to show it even to myself. I'd like to thank you for the great advice, it all definitely helped me Keep grinding!
  17. I just watched Leo's newest video (the motivational speech thing) and I loved it! I kinda lost track of this channel a bit because of all the non-duality topics which I don't really feel ready for yet, but this video has really sparked something in me again. One thing @Leo Gura mentions there is the importance of vision. A clear vision which touches you emotionally, even makes you cry, in order to come back to it when times get tough and use it as a guideline. I don't really know how to create a detailed vision. I know what my passions are (at least some of them, there are probably much more things I can be passionate about), I put some habits into place and try to live life as healthy as possible right now, trying to map out what the hell I am gonna do with this life. I have some vague goals, like emotional mastery, financial independence, success as an artist, close relationships and accumulation of knowledge and insight into the truths of existence, which I break down monthly into certain mile stones and then weekly and daily into to-do lists, which I just follow through day to day. Although I manage to get some stuff done like that, I don't really feel a strong passion for my what I'm doing most of the time. How can I turn my goals into a clear vision that touches me emotionally? How did you guys create your vision?
  18. @egoless Thank you for your response, I contemplated about that using a variety of methods. The skill that is most important to me to master would probably be rapping and creating rap songs, but I noticed that the general life style I am living is more important to me than the mastery of that skill. The rap thing would just be a big part of the overall life I am trying to create. I think I am relatively clear now about what I want. Is that already a vision? Or do I have to really imagine it visually and write it down for it to be lasting?
  19. I know that one, good video but I don't know how to create that for myself
  20. @cirkussmile I do meditate, although I often fall off and can't really stick to doing it every day. Been doing it inconsistently for over a year though. But that's what I wanna ask you guys, is there any method to slowly discovering myself or do I just sit and ask myself "Who am I? Who am I?" Over and over again? @Nahm I never really sat down and decided "I will be an artist!" I just always loved to write/make music and so I did. It's part of my personality. The only decisions I make is if I make the stuff I create public or not, if I actually want to build some kind of carreer around it and if I want to create things on a regular basis or just when I have the time and feel like it. But creative impulses and the need to create some form of "art" is always there.
  21. @smd Hang in there buddy, I'm sure you can handle this. Doesn't mean you will, but you CAN, what happens in the end is up to you right? I know the whole money thing can be a tough situation sometimes
  22. @Wasem Wow I honestly didn't think that any Iraqis cared about stuff like meditation, or even heard of that guess I was pretty prejudiced there, thank you for broadening my horizon
  23. @Wasem May I ask how you found this channel and personal development in general?
  24. @YaNanNallari Alright, then I'll see what's waiting for me on the path, thanks a lot