Damir Elezi

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  1. Leaving the spiritual stuff out, I think you're right. It's optional. However, your choice has to be well made. Is throwing something interesting like your life away just because of momentarily suffering really worth it? What if there is something more to life than it seems? When you're alive, you have an opportunity to find that out. To me, killing oneself seems like a cop-out. Somebody being so scared, so overwhelmed, that they don't even bother to look further. This life can be beautiful and I think we all know that. Also, our whole organism is literally made to protect us from harm. If one's mind is so twisted that it would rather go against human most basic instinct than put up with challenge, I think there is something deeply dysfunctional in his/her mind that should be resolved before making any quick decisions.
  2. Yeah pretty much. Of course not always, but especially when things go well I feel very excited and when I go to sleep I can't wait to start working again. I wouldn't call that addiction, but one problem I have is that I'm still attached to the outcome and get discouraged pretty quickly.
  3. Hmm I think the most practical tip would be to just try stuff out. Try a lot of things and you will notice what you naturally feel drawn to. Also your preferences are a good indicator. What do you like doing/watching/listening to/talking about? Btw I don't really think that everybody is a GENIUS at something. You are better in some things than in others, that doesn't mean you gotta be a unique talent at something. This comes only through working hard at your inborn gifts.
  4. @Jhonny As an introvert myself, I like jobs which leave space for your own initiative. Not just listening to or cooperating with other people but thinking for yourself and making your own decisions. Also it should be flexible and give you alone time to think and reflect. I don't think that there has to be a conflict in any job. You just have to execute the job in a way that incorporates your natural abilities.
  5. Damn you all wake up so early. How do you do that? Woke up at 9, went to university, listened to "the six pillars of self esteem" audiobook in my car. At uni I had one lecture, ate something, checked some e-mails, planned out the next few days and noticed that there is a lot of stuff going on in my life right now. Got scared a little bit but I know I can make it. Somehow. After that went home, again listening to that audio book (great book by the way), studied a little bit at home, then went to take some pictures and interview people for my job at a newspaper. After that grabbed some vietnamese food with my girlfriend. Now I just bought her a birthday present online. I think I'm gonna browse the forum a bit right now, then meditate and go to sleep. What did you do?
  6. Hello you wonderful people out there, I hope you're having a great day. I'm sure there are tons of posts on here already talking about this topic, but I want to adress this again specifically for my case because I am a very selfish motherfucker One thing I noticed lately is that I actually seem very lonely. I must have been lonely for years now, but I didn't quite notice it consciously. I was so involved in my own ambitions, dreams, plans, routines, duties, chores and thoughts in general that I took the general melancholy connected to being alone as proof that "I don't work enough!", felt bad about that and either threw myself into work, or, if I lacked motivation, numbed myself with porn and youtube videos (which is actually pretty much how I found Leo's channel to be honest - I guess good things can come out of that too) I have been home alone for the last 3 days with not a lot to do, didn't really talk to anyone and I felt like shit. Today, after meditating for a longer time than usual and practicing some mindfulness, I could manage to look at that pain objectively without reacting to it (just for some moments) and noticed that I deeply lack other people who I can connect to. I just met some friends I didn't see in a while and it literally feels like a PHYSICAL need has been fulfilled. I never felt like this, always considered myself an introvert. I feel that most of my friendships and relationships to other people are superficial and I don't really connect to people on a deeper level, which is why I am not really motivated to spend a lot of time with them. This is the case firstly because most of my friends don't really share my interests, secondly because I simply don't have that many people in my life. I want to find people who are passionate about stuff that I am passionate about, which is mainly Hip Hop music, Personal Development and Philosophy. Do you have any practical tips for me on how to find people like these? I mean should I actually go on the street and chat people up until there is a "match" or is there a better alternative? What do you think? Thank you all in advance
  7. I don't know if I ever adressed this here on the forum but I noticed something within me, that has been bugging me for a long time now, whenever I start "grinding" more and working hard to create the life I want. When I create a compelling vision and try to make time in my life for taking serious steps in that direction, of course all my other duties and responsibilities in every day life don't disappear. My problem is that everything that is not somehow related to working on myself (like cleaning the house, working for money or talking to my family just to keep them updated) seems like a huge waste of time and I get pretty stressed and angry when I do something like that. Of course I notice that these simple things are part of life as well and they don't have to be distractions, but inside, I feel that they are. Now most of you would probably say "You are living in the future! Be mindful of what you're doing right now! Everything we do is meaningless AND meaningful at the same time! There is no difference, it's all one, just take some psychedelics and you will realize that! There is nothing to do!" Yeah. But Leo also says that a vision and hard work are very important for PD and I resonate with that as I am at a point in my life where I really want to create results. I am 20 years old, just moved out of my momma's house, earning my own money and looking for my path in life and I feel HUNGRY! I am DYING to create something, to do something great with my life and it feels like these small things are holding me back. Did you have the same problem when starting getting serious about PD and how did you come to accept the small tasks of everyday life? I would love to talk to you about your own experiences
  8. Thank you all so much for responding. After contemplating this stuff I got to know some stuff about myself, but I mainly noticed that I might be giving it too much "logical" thought. Maybe a good vision touches you more on a deep emotional level than it actually makes logical sense, which means that I can not sorta "deduce" a vision from my personal preferences (which I tried to do until now, I'm the philosopher type of guy you know). I think I'll just ask myself what my dream life is and write down anything that comes to mind until I have something so beautiful that I am willing to work my ass off for it. Apart from that problem, I am driven like I never really was before in my life. But then again, it feels like I always had this drive, but was kinda scared to show it even to myself. I'd like to thank you for the great advice, it all definitely helped me Keep grinding!
  9. I just watched Leo's newest video (the motivational speech thing) and I loved it! I kinda lost track of this channel a bit because of all the non-duality topics which I don't really feel ready for yet, but this video has really sparked something in me again. One thing @Leo Gura mentions there is the importance of vision. A clear vision which touches you emotionally, even makes you cry, in order to come back to it when times get tough and use it as a guideline. I don't really know how to create a detailed vision. I know what my passions are (at least some of them, there are probably much more things I can be passionate about), I put some habits into place and try to live life as healthy as possible right now, trying to map out what the hell I am gonna do with this life. I have some vague goals, like emotional mastery, financial independence, success as an artist, close relationships and accumulation of knowledge and insight into the truths of existence, which I break down monthly into certain mile stones and then weekly and daily into to-do lists, which I just follow through day to day. Although I manage to get some stuff done like that, I don't really feel a strong passion for my what I'm doing most of the time. How can I turn my goals into a clear vision that touches me emotionally? How did you guys create your vision?
  10. @egoless Thank you for your response, I contemplated about that using a variety of methods. The skill that is most important to me to master would probably be rapping and creating rap songs, but I noticed that the general life style I am living is more important to me than the mastery of that skill. The rap thing would just be a big part of the overall life I am trying to create. I think I am relatively clear now about what I want. Is that already a vision? Or do I have to really imagine it visually and write it down for it to be lasting?
  11. I know that one, good video but I don't know how to create that for myself
  12. @cirkussmile I do meditate, although I often fall off and can't really stick to doing it every day. Been doing it inconsistently for over a year though. But that's what I wanna ask you guys, is there any method to slowly discovering myself or do I just sit and ask myself "Who am I? Who am I?" Over and over again? @Nahm I never really sat down and decided "I will be an artist!" I just always loved to write/make music and so I did. It's part of my personality. The only decisions I make is if I make the stuff I create public or not, if I actually want to build some kind of carreer around it and if I want to create things on a regular basis or just when I have the time and feel like it. But creative impulses and the need to create some form of "art" is always there.
  13. @smd Hang in there buddy, I'm sure you can handle this. Doesn't mean you will, but you CAN, what happens in the end is up to you right? I know the whole money thing can be a tough situation sometimes
  14. @Wasem Wow I honestly didn't think that any Iraqis cared about stuff like meditation, or even heard of that guess I was pretty prejudiced there, thank you for broadening my horizon
  15. @Wasem May I ask how you found this channel and personal development in general?
  16. @YaNanNallari Alright, then I'll see what's waiting for me on the path, thanks a lot
  17. Seneca, Epicurus, Nietzsche, Schopenhauer, Marx, Camus
  18. @YaNanNallari How exactly do I improve my lovingness? I mean, will stuff like metta meditation actually help me make friends? You got some first hand experience with this?
  19. @Wasem I'm from Germany and even here I find it kinda hard, can't imagine how it is in a country like Iraq, with a lot of problems within society and a high degree of religious indoctrination. I'll try some stuff out. In the end, meeting other people with your level of consciousness and connecting with them is the purpose of forums like these right?
  20. @smd Thank you for the great advice, I will definitely check this out! And being a hermit doesn't sound bad to me as long as you're okay with it your job situation sounds pretty bad, why don't you quit it as well and look for something that doesn't consume you as much?
  21. Everything can potentially be very enjoyable. I think it's just that if people are kinda forced to do something day after day, they won't like it, no matter what it is. That's why imo it's important to find a job, that is challenging, incorporates you're greatest values and strengths and is not too monotone - that is, if you want your job to be a strong source of fulfilment. However, as many people said, you don't necessarily need anything to be happy.
  22. @Jonson What you're describing is pretty much a communist utopia. Everybody has what he needs, machines do the hard work, people have time to do whatever they want. I used to believe in that a lot and I still believe we would have the resources and knowhow THEORETICALLY, but practically right now it doesn't work, because for this humans have to 1) Work together and have the same goals (which is practically impossible) 2) Get rid of cultural and psychological differences (which is practically impossible) 3) Be at a very high state of consciousness 4) Solve all other problems we face as the human race, which is a hard enough struggle already. I like to be optimistic though and believe that we might achieve such a state in another 1000 years or so.
  23. I just worked a little bit on my own limiting beliefs and mindsets and reflected on what my life has been like the couple of years since I first heard of Personal Development and actualized.org. I feel like I am still at the beginning of it all, but right now I feel amazing. It feels like I finally know what the fuck I'm doing, like I know my direction in this world. I have grown so much already just by doing the most simple things. I have overcome some anxieties and problems that have been bugging me a lot in the past and I just now noticed how far I have come and how lucky I am to be in such a place. I just wanted to thank you all. No really, everyone who reads this. Everyone on this forum who is into self actualization, everyone who has the courage to step outside the box, if only for a minute, everyone who has some kind words and advice to other people pursuing a similar path. People like you all have improved my life more than anything else, to the point where I can start to appreciate even the things that harm me. I want to thank Leo for putting all these videos out and making this forum, you have literally changed my life man and I didn't even see you in real life for once in my life and I probably never will. It's so amazing. I don't know if I'm in some kind of emotional high right now but I felt like spreading some love. And to anyone who is reading this who is feeling desperate or suffers in any kind of way at the moment - don't worry too much. There is always somebody to help you, always some way to get through. If you really look, really want a solution, you will find it. I truly believe in you, no matter who you are. Because I believe that anybody has the potential to create the life he/she wants - in fact everybody does create the life he/she wants anyway, either consciously or not. You are a powerful being, my friend. Keep your head up and just keep working on yourself. Thank you everything, I love you
  24. @eskwire If you need help or advice, I'll be happy to help you out as far as I can