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@Serotoninluv thank you so much! That helps a ton

I just broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months tonight and she is having a rough time taking it. It took me around two hours to calm her down enough after telling her I didn’t want the relationship anymore for me to leave. Now she keeps calling saying she has no one and needs me, what do I do? I understand I was in a codependent relationship and she had a lot banking on me; but how do I deal with this? I felt so stuck I had to leave but at the cost of her life because she put so much on me. Thoughts ?

@Anna1 thank you

Hey forum, I have something going on in my life that I literally have no idea how to handle. Basically my girlfriend that I love dearly is severely depressed and is even suicidal. She has faced waves of depression on and off her whole life, has been on Zoloft when she was in 8th grade, and then attempted killing herself when she came off them but her attempt didn't work, so she has a long history with her depression. This past week she has been telling me that this is the worst it's been in years, that she wrote suicide letters to her family, and stopped and broke down when she came to write my letter. She also is constantly sleeping, and barely eating. When she tells me these things I get emotional and just tell her I'm there for her, and that its all going to be okay. I have a pressure on me because I know I am really the only one there for her, but I don't know what else to do - I feel hopeless and trapped. My question is what would you do in this situation? She has said she doesn't want help from a professional, and to not tell anybody so they don't worry, but should they? Is this a cry for help or is it a bad idea to do something she clearly has told me to not do? Any advice is appreciated, thanks!

@remember thank you

Just a question for all of you, I have this build up of excitement and amazement for this path and everything you want to share with everyone meaningful in your life... then you go and talk to them about it and not only do they not understand or talk with you about it but it puts off a very religious and pushing vibe. I’ve struggled with this as it truly is my passion and I want to share that with the people I love, but I just can’t do it without pushing people away from it. I’ve told them that my door is always open if they are interested. anyone have any solutions or similar situations and how they worked through it? I know Leo has a video on loneliness on the path and I’m going to rewatch it. Thank you.

@How to be wise thank you, I’m sure it has to do with their curiosity and the fact that your eyes gleam like you’re sitting on top of box and they really want to know what’s in that box. But if I’m like “look! Look! Look in the box!” It makes them not want too.

I have a personal Instagram account with around 700 followers, this account is one I don’t really use anymore. Do you think it’s a good idea to promote my YouTube channel to my followers? (my channel is focused around creating unique personal development and spiritual videos) The only reasons I am hesitant is because I have a fear/insecurity of putting myself out there, although usually the people that put themselves out there get the most respect and exposure which is good for my channel long run. A lot of my followers are people I went to highschool with. Is it even worth trying to promote higher spiral dynamics videos if most of these people are really stage Orange/materialistic, or could it help them? Any advice is appreciated! Thanks!

@Dwarniel thank you ?

@Simon Håkansson thank you!

So I’ve been in a 2 month relationship with a girl I’ve known for 2 years. It was great at the beginning (of course) but now I’m questioning. She has what I would consider severe childhood trauma - depression, anxiety, etc. she breaks down a lot and is very neurotic. Of course I resort to trying to expose her to PD but of course it doesn’t work. Any advice? What should I do? Also: I have recommended her a therapist but she denies and just won’t go

@Knock I haven’t payed attention to this, thank you.

Everyone I talk to.. when I make I contact I can tell they get uncomfortable and insecure. I really don’t understand, I’ve been told my eyes “pierce the soul” and it seems like “I know something they dont” does anyone have any ideas on what’s going on? I try to have normal conversation and it seems like everyone I talk to has this same reaction...

@Charlotte I’m confused, I just don’t know why when I talk to people they get all weird okay ?

@Charlotte I have been skeptical of this. It’s not thought, its happens in my awareness, it’s almost everyone I meet. I think it has to do with maybe being awake, and not being a “shoot the breeze” person. I think maybe it scares people because it’s deep

@Jed Vassallo thanks. That’s honestly what I thought too! Thanks for the reply

@flowboy great point and perspective, thank you

I have been hesitant to share this on the forum but my conclusions I come too just aren't satisfying. I really need help. With that being said, let me tell you a little of my situation. Around 4 years ago I fell in love with (lets call her Amanda). Amanda and I have been together ever since I was 15 (I am now 19). We love each other deeply and are very deeply connected. She can talk with me about anything, even personal development and spirituality. And we always push each other to be better. We do just about everything together as far as lifting weights, meditating, going to get groceries, and even her moving into my parents home with me. Just last week Amanda left to go to Washington D.C. to sell door to door to try to make some money. We both decided to take a break from our relationship as this is a great time for solitude and growth. We decided when she comes back we will get an apartment together and rekindle our relationship. I wish it was that easy but here is the kicker: Around 3 days ago I hung out with the only other girl (lets call her Kylie) that I have ever really had a connection and relationship with. When I hung out with Kylie it was very clear: I love this woman. The same feelings of love I feel towards Kylie are the same I feel towards Amanda. But what makes this hard is that Kylie is new to me, I have never know anything other than the 4 year relationship with Amanda that I have been in since a freshman in high school. So being with Kylie is exciting, exhilarating, and makes me feel alive... the problem obviously is that I cannot have both. I have tired multiple days to take time and just contemplate what I truly want, but I can't seem to go anywhere - the only answer I can come up with is "I simply want and love them both" but this is obviously not realistic and just the ego trying to attach and control everything... anyways, I would love to hear the forums advice on this one. Thank you all

@universe @studentofthegame thank you both very much

@Pilgrim such a well thought-out and meaningful reply. Thank you very much. It means a lot to me

@Leo Gura So what do I do now? Or is that just it - there is no point and nothing to do? Its completely paradoxical, because both are true and because all is true. everything that is imagined - its true - do I get it ? or is there no it to get?

@Anton Rogachevski Half truths. Its all from your perspective - what are your goals? You say "you are only seeing one perspective" but yet you yourself do not see others. From a "Im trying to get enlightened" persepective - yes, wage slavery Is just an idea and has no foundation in reality other than an idea in our heads. True Freedom with a capital F has nothing to do with your daily life or job. But, from a "I'm a human and only have one shot at life" perspective - no, you can not fully create and express yourself if you are employed full time and required by a "boss" to do this or that. (with exceptions of course) Any thing else is just the tea-pot calling the kettle black

@Serotoninluv thank you very much! This helped a lot

As the title says, I feel as if I’m having a hard time staying in the present moment. Most of my time is spent in thought either worrying or thinking about the future. I feel as if I’m missing “reality” and constantly in my head. It’s almost as if I’m not engaged fully with reality, I just think about it. It also feels like I’m rushing everything, always in a hurry from one thing to the next. Any suggestions? Thank you

@SunnyNewDay yeah it can be hard. I’ve had weeks when I was super present and now I’m not any present anymore. I assume it’s ego backlash