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I think that karma is real, listen up. Things always go in the right direction for me in my life, when I am in such a shit mood, when things go wrong, when life hits you, but then, THEN you choose to keep going despite the setbacks. It is that breaking point where you have put in effort and got no result, again and again and again and again. Yet you try one more time, you try three more times, you keep going and the wheel starts turning. It is simple, give up and you lose, keep going and you win. Yet how far can we go? How much can we do without getting results or minimal results before luck is starting to strike us? I have found in my life that if you put in effort, the world, the universe, OWES you, it sounds weird, but it is like it OWES you to give back to you. If you give up, you simply don't get what you are due, what the universe, God or whatever wants to give to you. It is like you had to do all of this without much result, so that NOW the universe has to pay you, has to give back to you, karma. The only thing that would maybe fuck this up is if you become reactive, angry, or frustrated about the situation. I used to get frustrated, now I just think, okay the universe, the world, people owe me something, I have to keep going now, because I know my good karma is coming and then it comes every single time. I might be too woo woo for you all, but this is very real for me.

@Natasha Tori Maru Yes, secure is seen as boring, and maybe it is. I guess a roller coaster is more interesting than a straight road. At least the narcissist provides the necessary entertainment. Just look at TV, it's all about toxic relationships, cheating, and drama. That's what people find entertaining. If TV only showed healthy relationships, it would probably get zero views lol.

@Zenterus yes so mainly funny or playful observational openers work well during the day. That makes sense, I will keep it in mind, thank you.

Okay, eye contact is a superpower, but it is not just about eye contact. Like looking someone in the eyes doesn´t do the trick. The trick isn´t necessarily in the eyes as much as the energy. The eyes are the window to the soul. Now guess what, when your full of anxiety, fear, being stuck in your head, eye contact is not gonna be the solution. So first, getting more confident, social, more present in the moment, then you start to have presence. This presence is then booming from your eyes and it will do wonders. In fact, to me, talking is then only to make it less awkward or just of secondary importance. The eyes are primary as they tell everything about you, your energy and people read it instantly. If you blink or blink a lot or look away, they can see you are not confident and weak. If you hold steady, but not forcing it, like restful, presence, gosh they realise you are the real deal. Because you are the real deal, you have gained confidence, you have gotten rid of that anxiety, now of course you are not gonna wake up tomorrow and be all of a sudden in this presence or as the younger generation would call it, having `aura`. It happens after a long time of approaching and socialising, but once that happens, you can even open that way, you can simply open with first eye contact and then whatever comes up in the mind, because the words don´t matter that much, it is the energy. And the way people notice your energy is through your eye contact. It is the ultimate marketing, but you can´t fake it, you have to become the real deal.

@Vynce manipulation is simply seducing in a playful way, if you are playful, are you lying or just playing a game? She never knows and you don't know either, in this place things can be easily manipulated and people take it as far as their morals goes. That is why it is called game, you are playful, playing, nothing you say is serious and autistic which is how men communicate. So the idea is that you are not being truthful anyways from the start, you are in la la land, playing a game.

Being God is just being grounded, peaceful, stable, not anxious, therefor confident, this is ultimately the state building that is talked about in pick up. Just being present and in the moment. I like how Owen said that approaching is actually spiritual as you are learning to be present in hard circumstances, which is very true. It is easy to be present in nature, in the peace and calm, try doing that in a club while a girl pushes you and tells you to fuck off. HAHAHA

@eos_nyxia if the only men you are attracted to are toxic, then being done with men makes sense. I guess, that it is a love hate relationship, they don't appreciate a men who is healthy and mature, then they are gonna stay in toxic relationships or remain single. At some point there has to be somewhat of a shift to look for peace and stability in a relationship instead of the rush of the highs and lows and the chasing, which I think happens for some woman only after the age of 40 or 30, some earlier. Also a level of self respect to not let boundaries be crossed that shouldn't be crossed. Some woman will learn early, some will never learn, others will be hurt too deeply by a narcissist to never go on a date again, who knows. This is the problem I am seeing both in the narcissist and also the codependent, they are both broken and need self respect and love.

@Zenterus I agree with much of what you say, eye contact and vibe is huge and you can't fake it. Do you have some examples how you approach indirectly during the day?

@LordFall This posts intention is not to turn people here in psychopaths or narcissists. Rather to understand why woman fall for them and also why you have many codependent women who bring their own problems to a relationship, not only the narcissists, codependents are also toxic and haven´t healed. Someone with self-respect and maturity won´t get into such relationships, or at least not stay in it for any long time.

@Raze all these standards of women go out of the window when they meet a narcissist, unless she truly is mature. She will be drawn to a narcissist despite it being a bad choice. Again a narcissist is a great marketer, but it will be one-sided love, everything for him, nothing for her. At the most breadcrumbs. Have you ever eaten a salad and then you looked at a snicker and wanted nothing else then that candy? It is bad, but that is why its good.

@Leo Gura Yeah, fake or real confidence, it is mainly about how you portray yourself to be. How you market yourself. A narcissist is an excellent marketer with nothing to offer.

@Valach well, a woman can be delusional too, many think that a guy wanting to sleep with her is the same as wanting a relationship with her, so either true or false abundance, same result: they do feel like they have a ton of options.

@igor699669 Well that is very important information. I didn´t do any good meditation in Ukraine when I was visiting. I think prayer helped me a bit to find peace there. Just praying for the well-being of the people in Ukraine and for me to have strength. I think prayer is very powerful even if you don´t religiously believe in some God in the clouds. I don´t believe in such a God, but more as God as the totality of creation, which you can still pray to.

@igor699669 my experience is that physical health equals mental health. And mental health equals deepest meditations. You can still do meditations by becoming aware of your back pain and aware of your body, mind, surroundings, in no way should that be impossible. Yet the deepest meditations for me have been after a good walk. So why not combine it? Go for a walk in nature, work on your health and body and at the end of an hour long walk you sit still and just be. That is what I love to do. It is up to you of course. Yet I would always advice to work on mental and physical health before meditation, meditation is just the cherry on the cake.

@Kyle Gjerseth I don't have any advice on this. But congrats on your sobriety! 30 days isn't too long so I hope you stick to it for your own sake. Good luck on your sobriety aswell as applying to school for mental health. Hopefully your life will keep going in this positive direction. God bless.

@MarkKol testing is the way to success, this is good marketing advice even for content, you want to test different ideas to see what resonates with the audience, instead of religiously sticking to one idea and making it work. Although too much experimenting can also not be good, sometimes something is actually good, but it needs a bit more time to mature itself. Like some meals they get better if you let them sit in the fridge for a night, some ideas are good, but they need some time before they are proven successful. A month or two would be a good test period, rather then 1 week or 1 day. Test, keep what works, scrap the rest, test something else again, that should be the cycle. When I was coached with dropshipping they were testing too many different products, like 5 products a day and I felt this was a flaw in their coaching as sometimes a product just needed some small adjustments, some more time and effort put into it. So you definitely can test too much aswell. Sometimes sticking to one thing and making it work is the right way forward, sometimes testing is the way forward, it is a balancing game.

Yesterday we all watched Spain win. Now I am not a football nerd, but during the show something became very apparent to me, which I feel works the same in real life, not just in a football match. Spain was in control, it was cold headed instead of reactive. Even tho Argentina was trying to rush them and get them of their center and game, they remained calm. Which is almost like a shit test lol, where people try to get you off your center. My mind works like this, I connect everything to everything, I look at a football match and I think how that applies to socialising, business and everything else. Then lastly, but most importantly they were not in defense, but in attack mode. This is the biggest thing, really think about this. How much are you trying to defend versus trying to attack and get to achieve your goals? Are you playing to not lose or playing to win? I think that is the difference between a real winner and a loser. A loser would play defense, it is not about every shot hitting, but to aim for your goals or as Spain aimed to score 16 times or so before they actually scored. Sometimes it isn't about the best aim, but just about endlessly aiming till you get it right, endlessly trying again and again, standing up despite all the failures and just trying again, instead of trying to play defense and play it safe. Which in the end will always make you lose. Now think how this applies to business, to relationships and to your goals. I will be thinking about this a lot, let me know your thoughts, no nonsense reactions please.

@LordFall `that hurts I just had ear surgery` - clav how you take this guy seriously? Many young people seem to take this looksmaxing and clav guy seriously. This new generation is so fucked, I don't even want to get into it.

@LordFall I think that is the difference between people working on themself and people just durping around and not wanting to achieve much with their lives. If you want to grow and win in life, you can learn from anything: football, this forum, your own life experiences. Being comfortable in any area is indeed a problem. Good that you are taking proactive action towards moving forward.

@AtmanIsBrahman I agree that taking care of your looks is good. Yet, I would say looksmaxing is taking things to the very extreme. Just get a decent haircut, cut your nails, take a shower, get some good clothes, basic hygiene. Yet plastic surgery? This is insanity to me. It is almost like guys have become girls and they want to look like pretty girls, trying to seduce with their looks. Owen is right on this, you might hate or like Owen, but he is right that leading with looks and money will make you beta. Alpha guys will lead with frame, with game, with energy, with being more confident and in flow than the next person. Not only that, you will outcompete any pretty guy easily if you have good energy, good game. Most "pretty" guys, have no fucking clue how to talk to women. They never needed to learn any social skills, never needed to learn how to deal with rejection, how to build confidence, how to get into flow state and remain frame, pass shit tests etc. This is all being lost on some stupid looksmaxing and I bet that Clavicular versus Owen, that Owen would win every single time on a night out, cause you might hate him and there might be a lot wrong with him, but he has been doing this shit for 20 years and will steal all the women from Clavicular if it came down to it.

@Ninja_pig I agree that mindset is a big factor, but I also think mindset should involve a change in energy, not just thinking differently. I think energy is what matters when meeting people. When you're anxious and come across as stiff or afraid, that's an energy issue that a mindset alone won't necessarily fix. Rather, it takes action, especially action toward overcoming fears, such as the fear of failure, rejection, or being rejected in public. Julien's work on letting go is also a powerful way to let go of these fears, basically the stuff that keeps you away from naturally socialising with everyone. That said, if your mindset is, "I'm him. I'm the shit. Every girl loves me," it can certainly help override those fears as well, but I wouldn´t say it´s enough or not enough for everyone , at least.

okay everyone, keep it respectful, don´t insult eachother otherwise I will report your posts. Talking about eye contact, just as @LordFall says, some people radiate life. Now that is exactly what happens when you have good eye contact, you radiate life and people are attracted to this and this is through building confidence and being in a flow state or even pumping your state. It makes your eye contact not forced, where you HAVE to look in the eyes forcefully, which is control and fear mostly. It should be natural, this aliveness, that shines through you and that makes people want to talk and engage with you. You spark them with your spark so to say. But if you feel very bad and you look someone in their eyes, of course they are not gonna go smile back at you, they will look at you the same way. Almost "law of attraction" or rather state transference. What you feel the other feels. So if you feel like shit, they are gonna feel like shit when looking into your eyes. Therefor I said, it isn't about the eye contact, but that the eyes convey the spark better then anything else, that spark in you, that aliveness, but also social energy, that is what is contagious and radiates through the eyes. Hope this makes sense, if you have something meaningful to say or add to this, let me know. I don't want to hear any nonsense, unless you want to make some joke and add some value in a funny way, that is fine, but please keep it respectful as well.

@Hojo Are you getting into nonduality?

I would still choose S&P 500 over gold, but I also don't live in America, where they might print much more aggresively. The euro is my currency so for me S&P 500 would be better. It is where I have most of my money in.

@Hojo I don´t know what the hell your saying hahaha